oooh! I agree to that! that's the reason I can't really read most harem stories or even watch hentai, because I find it humiliating to the females, and it makes me cringe so horribly I wanna flip tables at the screen. a story has to be really dear to me so that I overlook the harem. (and obviously, I have no problems with reverse harems [that is, one female surrounded by guys] nor with yaoi at all... hohohoho I've never said I'm a saint lalalalala )
Everyone has their own cup of tea I have found that NOBODY who read a lot of light novels is a saint. One of my big turn offs in novels are tragedy and NTR. I personally wish Japanese and Chinese novels would just leave the harem route alone, what it so bad about having one couple interact very well with each other instead of having a lot of hollow female or male harem members, that's one of the reasons I really like I Eat Tomatoes novels, is for the 1 on 1 romantic relationships