Help needed! IRL "problems"

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  1. Gatsu

    Gatsu Well-Known Member

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    Hello fellow daoist,
    Doing this from my phone so sorry about any spelling errors.
    So it all started more than a month ago when I went to the beach with some people.
    There I met a woman and we talked a lot trough the weekend and we agreed to meet in the future. The problem is that after I came back I completely forgot about our interactions and plans. So more than a month went by and today she contacted me saying that she is leaving the country next month and wants to do something together.
    We agreed to go eat next week, but I am really lost about this situation. I think it's clear that I am not great with people, so I would really appreciate if you could help me.
    I thank you all in advance.
     
  2. Rae

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    Apologize first ?
    though she leaving, you can always contact her via phone right?
     
  3. Not Red Yet

    Not Red Yet Well-Known Member

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    How far away is she going? If it's very far then not worth the trouble to be honest.
     
  4. Novela

    Novela Immortal Sheep

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    You 'met' once ? And she inviting you saying , she leaving the country ? Alone or with a group ? And lol ?
     
  5. elengee

    elengee Daoist Ninefaps

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    Just eat her up, she's leaving so no strings attached.
     
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    12300 [How many sheep can Snorlax count?]

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    If you're pursuing her, don't know how to get out of the situation. If not, just go with it and have a good time. Nothing bad about it.
     
  7. Vyren

    Vyren Version 3.33

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    Hmm, well I guess
    You were expecting advice, but it was me, Dio!
    Honestly though, why are you so worked up about this? Do you like the woman? Do you actually not want to meet up with that person in the first place? If the former then stop worrying about it and just be yourself and enjoy the experience. If the latter then just be straight with her?
     
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  8. Artesia

    Artesia Well-Known Member

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    Need more info

    How old are you ?

    How old is she ?

    What country are you in and where is she going ?

    Do you love her?

    How did you meet ?

    Does she love you ?
     
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  9. Not Red Yet

    Not Red Yet Well-Known Member

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    What did you agree to eat? Food or Her?
     
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  10. Gatsu

    Gatsu Well-Known Member

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    Yes we only saw each other once but it was a full weekend.
    About how many people will be there I can't be sure but I got the impression it would be just us (the day was set without consulting anyone else )
     
  11. Ryve16

    Ryve16 Working Hard and Hardly Working

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    Remember to teach her the wonders about NU and anime.

    ...also bring condoms...just in case...
     
  12. fuzor100

    fuzor100 Standby mode...

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    You already forgotten about this woman one month ago.
    Just act casually.
     
  13. Drakaos

    Drakaos Member (Patriarch?) of the Anti-Qidian Sect

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    Real Life? I suggest you stay away from that server.
     
  14. Gatsu

    Gatsu Well-Known Member

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    I am 20
    She is older but not much(like 3 years older ).
    The country is not that far(same continent)
    About love... I can't say anything because we don't have a deep relation and I am not even sure if she has any intent of having one. Actually I guess my problem is because I don't even know if I want one.

    We met because we were in the bus together for like 4 hours and we talked the whole time
     
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  15. Gitami

    Gitami Well-Known Member

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    Perhaps buy some small farewell gift? Larger if you like her.
    But you only met once during a full weekend, and she invites you out for a farewell meeting. Either she is impressed by you, like you, or is just a very kind person.
    Is she Japanese? Seem like their culture to remember every little thing and leave with the best detail and impression.
     
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  16. JerryHatrick

    JerryHatrick Well-Known Member

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    Opportunities/fate can be weird. Even a small interaction with someone can have a big influence on your life. In the end, it's up to you. Though I don't see how making more connections can be a bad thing.
     
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  17. Gatsu

    Gatsu Well-Known Member

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    She's not Japanese, but thanks for the advice. I am probably over thinking this situation but I will probably just do that
     
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  18. maniacman22

    maniacman22 Well-Known Member

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    4 step plan
    1. meet
    2. greet
    3. eat
    4. repeat
     
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  19. schmidtcooper

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    Yeah, honestly there isn't much we can do from here. If she is acting like she wants more, a farewell "gift" if you will, take it no harm in it you won't see her again. If she's being nice act like a friend and say goodbye. Which situation it is you will have to find out yourself.
     
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  20. Simon

    Simon [The Pure One's Chief Steward][Demon Beast]

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    Just go and have fun, if anything should happen, go with the thought she is leaving the country and won't be meeting again.

    P.S. if you really want to keep seeing her again, try knocking her up.