I was reading the summary for the "Outlander" a book by Diana Gabaldon and it got me thinking. If you were happily married but somehow got sent back in time (different time period) and meet someone else who you later fall in love with. What would you do, stay faithful to the person you married or move on and live with the new person? And you can potentially go back but whether or not your partner is waiting for you to get back is another question. I personally don't know what I would, I know I would try to get back but how long should one stay faithful before moving on?
well presume that is the problem for send back and receive the old body if u send back with your current you, you would face lots of problem if u try to be faithful
do you fall in love with that person in the future (while married) or in the past? if in the past then stay faithful edit! mean´t "if you fall in love with that person in the FUTURE then go for your wife again when you get sent back"
See... There's nothing to be faithful for. You go back in time, you didn't marry her, she nor society expects you to be faithful. What you are essentially doing is ooading an old save from an RPG and you're debating whether to choose the romance path that already worked or to try another one that looks promising
I guess the first big issue is figuring out if you could return or not, if not then all you can do is move on, and hope your former partner does the same. If you can then it becomes a much bigger issue as would you want to return do you take your new lover with you, and try to work it out.
Wait, so old wife is 100% out of the picture, period? Not just a matter of wether you're patient enough to wait til the day you first met her? Fuck it then, move on. I was considering the question from a, say, married 10 years, met 15 years ago... moved 20 years into the past, and fell in love with someone else. That was more difficult for me. But man, going full stoic when she's so far removed she may as well be dead is, well, like refusing to move on if your wife dies. It's fine if you never find someone, but if you do... why would you let old happiness deter new?
200 years earlier there wasn´t the same level of technology and your current wife also wasn´t born yet this means that this isn´t a real question because there is only one option to choose from...
I think you're misunderstanding him. He's basically using this premise 1.You are married to a person you love 2.Suddenly you wake up 200 years in the past (or in another world, or 5000 years in the future, whatever) 3. You meet a person you fall in love with, in the current place you are His question is: do you stay faithful to the woman you married, and avoid pursuing this new love, or do you go for it? Personally... I don't really know what I would do. It's a tricky question, because being suddenly sent back in time doesn't mean my feelings for my other half has cooled.
thanks for explaining the way he wrote it is kinda hard to understand for me Now the EDIT for my previous answer would be: if I find a way to go back in a short amount of time then stay faithful (short amount of time ~1 day - half a year) if I can´t then I would stay in that new dimension/world and with my new love
...you're saying sent back 200 years or so, in which case I would do my best to move on since it has become impossible for me to meet my significant other again in this lifetime. I would essentially treat it as if I was sent to a whole new world (which it pretty much is).
happy is happy, if there's no reasonable way to get back, or for them to find me, and i had actually fallen in love, then i'd move on. unless we're talkin STDs, there's no reason to kick myself over for clinging to a person i'll never actually see again. why stay hung up on a person that won't even be born till way after i've died? 'course, if they happen to follow, it can get awkward but that's a matter for the future-past, not the the now-past.