A Cycle

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AliceShiki

『Ms. Tree』『Magical Girl of Love and Justice』, Female
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NUF has a lot of wonderful things to it, it's why I fell in love with it, became super addicted and... Continue to use it even after 3 years, the site surely went through a lot...

Sadly, not everything involving it is perfect... Rather, it seems time and time again some pretty annoying things happen... I doubt I even know about all of them, but I can name some.

At first I joined, was super active, merry merry, having loads of fun and stuff... I think I was one of those rare cases of people that go from being completely inactive to 100% active and basically tied to the screen using NUF all day everyday... And then I fell in love, had a really short relationship and a break up that affected me deeply and made my whole life go downhill for a few months. It was a pretty hidden drama overall, most people didn't even see the whole thing happening... But well, I have always been one to keep things for myself.

Then a new girl joined NUF a few months later, she was really fun, I loved being around her, we talked a lot were super close friends and all, she was super active too and quickly got lots of friends, she reminded myself of me a bit... And uhn... Well, she got involved with some drama, one in which I was heavily involved in... We ended up solving it, but our relationship became a lot more distant after that happened. It got me sad, but we still keep in touch every now and then... And I was still able to help her with some personal issues, so it made me happy she still trusted me for those.

Some time later another girl joined, and she was like... Boom, she was all over the place, dear God was that girl popular. Quickly becoming mega active in profiles and getting close to all sorts of people... We were friends too, it was nice being around her and I wanted to be closer... She reminded me of me when I first joined NUF. She then became involved with some people I didn't like much, but we were still friends with each other... Until she got into some pretty big drama and uhn... It was weird, because that was what brought us closer than ever before, we talked about some really personal stuff and I just started asking around and searching for more information on what happened... I was totally out of the loop, I saw nothing that happened and suddenly there was a full-blown drama in my face... And I wanted to help her out in some way, somehow. I cared for her after all...
Took me a while to understand what had happened and I remember talking to her for hours every day to help her cope with it... Slowly she got better, I'm not sure how much my participation mattered in that regard, but I'm glad she is better at least, that's all that I really cared for at that moment actually.

More time passes and yet another girl joins NUF and becomes pretty popular... At first I didn't have a very good impression of her and just kept my distance... Looking back on it, I don't even know why I had a bad impression, I just remember having it...
As time passed I got to know her a bit better and thought she was a fun person to be around... And somehow once again I saw some parts of her that reminded me of myself. It was an interesting feeling, but we weren't particularly close, so there wasn't really that much I could do about it... And well, I've changed a lot since my first time on NUF, so I guess I'm not that easy to approach nowadays as I once was anyways...
Well, some big drama happened revolving her too, and this time it felt like I was a complete bystander, I knew nothing of what happened, I didn't knew who were all the people involved nor everyone who was affected by it, nor how harshly... I just knew it was a big deal, and that it involved some people I knew.

It just got me thinking... Why is it that every time someone new joined NUF and ended up getting very addicted to it and very involved in this place and its people, they ought to get into some heavy drama... Feels like a repeating cycle that happens time and time again... Not sure if it only happens to girls or not, maybe I just didn't notice the ones involving men because I'm not that close to most of them.

It's just sad, really... People really underestimate how much impact online relationships can make in our life and how close we can get to people we have never met nor heard the voice of... And it really hurts when those relationships go wrong, it hurts deeply...

It reminds me of a TED Talk I watched some time back about toxic friendships and how hard we can be affected by those... I mean, how much do friends actually matter to us? And how do we deal with problems that involve our friends? Like... If I say I'm heartbroken, a ton of people will be able to sympathize with me and try to help me getting over it and the like... But if I'm hurt over a friend's behavior? How many even offer an ear before saying stuff like "Oh, just be glad you got rid of them" or "If they cared this little, they probably weren't good friends anyways".

Friends matter, it doesn't matter if they're online or not, when we're deeply involved into a friendship, of course we'll get hurt when things go wrong... I mean, hello? We cared for those people, why wouldn't we feel distressed about it?

I honestly dunno where I'm going with this post anymore, and the title doesn't even seem that fitting now that I wrote this far, but I guess I'll keep it as is... Guess I'll close with linking the talk I talked about in case anyone cares for it.


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Comments

    1. AliceShiki Sep 9, 2019
      @Lurking Drama rarely reaches the people uninvolved or those involved with the people involved in it.

      It's fairly easy to miss it overall~
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    2. Haerether Sep 9, 2019
      @Lurking New, maybe. Or you haven’t lurked near the old posts yet~
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    3. Lurking Sep 9, 2019
      Am I drama blind?

      Or just too new?
    4. AliceShiki Jul 21, 2019
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    5. BB_Tensei Jul 21, 2019
      I never really got into any drama, tho. :D Fun times, fun times.
    6. mir Jul 21, 2019
      @AliceShiki
      *pats shoulder*
      You're right. Face to face, or through a screen, it hurts when things go wrong.
    7. Fossil Jul 20, 2019
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