Wooing

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AliceShiki

『Ms. Tree』『Magical Girl of Love and Justice』, Female
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It's been a long time since I last had to deal with someone wooing me, like... 20 months or something? Possibly along those lines... I honestly still vividly remember each and every time someone wooed me.

... Not like there were many of them, there were only 3. And all of them have been online, never got wooed IRL, which is... Kinda good I guess?

Anyways, the first time it happened was pretty weird to me, like... I had just joined NUF, my acc was like... 1 or 2 days old or something, and while I wasn't particularly new to online interactions, NUF was the first community I opened myself up and tried to be more of... Well, myself. And it was honestly pretty hard at the beginning and I didn't know how to act tbh (crazy, right? It was hard to be me! How things were different back then, my my~), so uhn... When someone started wooing me, I had 0 clue on what to do, like... Totally 0 clue, I had no idea how to react, what to say or... So like, I didn't know what to do, so I plain and simply... Did nothing. Or well, nothing proactive at least.

The guy talked, and I answered honestly, as if it was a normal conversation and I totally wasn't aware he was wooing me... I mean, I did show I understood his intentions, but I did not deny him, nor did I egg him on either, I just... Replied, replied honestly to how I felt to his advances. It was quite the unique experience.

Too bad for him, I got into a LDR 2 days or so later, with another guy, so I totally turned him down after that~

Fast forward some 2 years and I started getting wooed on NUF again... This was a bit of a complicated time because I had finally gotten over my last relationship, or rather... I think it had been 2 or 3 months since I got over it... And like... I was starting to notice some feelings I had for a girl, I was a bit confused about it, wasn't quite sure if I should go for it or not... And then a guy started wooing me and uhn... Well, it was different from the first time.

I mean, it wasn't a total stranger this once, which was a nice start. And then I also have had some romantic experience before and I was more self-aware and understood myself better, so it was easier for me to handle it... And I didn't feel like turning him down, he was nice, he was fun to be around, he was... Somebody I wasn't very close to, but cared for to a certain extent. I was a bit conflicted on it.

And I was also scared, because I was already very well aware that I'm terrible at separating the Online Life to the Real Life, for me they are both real and mesh up really really well. So even if I was to take him on just as a joke or just for fun to play around... I was also aware I had very high chances of starting to feel like it was more than just playing. And at the same time, even though I felt that way, I didn't feel like pushing him away either.

So uhn... I still had feelings for that other girl at this point, so... This complicated back and forth with the guy wooing me were kinda like the push I needed to confess to the girl I liked tbh. I mean... I didn't rationalize it back in the day, but maybe what I wanted was a way out of this somewhat complicated situation... If I was in a relationship with someone I liked, I wouldn't need to worry about entering a "fake" relationship with someone else and falling in love with them, right? I could just turn them down and say I already had a girlfriend after all... Not like it mattered too much because I was turned down, but... Hey, I tried! And I don't regret trying it, I mean, I'd probably still harbor some feelings for her even now if it wasn't for that.

So well, fast forward a bit more and the guy properly confesses to me and I'm like... What do I do!? I didn't want to turn him down, but I was mega scared of accepting him! So I was totally like... "Uhn... I... Well... You see, I'm..." and couldn't really say anything, I was totally going crazy over it.

... Until he PM'd me by saying something like... "If you don't hurry, we'll totally be married off."

This kinda gave me an... Opportunity I guess? I didn't know what to do at first, but if we were already on PM territory, then I could speak honestly without really worrying about anything else... It's a bit of a weird feeling, because I'm usually pretty uncomfortable with PMs and prefer to talk in more public spaces... But when the matter is myself, it's a lot lot better to talk in private. So I was much more comfortable then and I could speak my honest feelings to him, like how worried I was and how scared I was that I could fall for him for real if we were to start an online relationship. And how at the same time I wasn't really against starting it, I was just scared of what could come of it.

Well, he told me clearly that a real relationship was not what he was going after, and asked me what I wanted to do. I said that... Well, if he was fine with me and aware of how troublesome it could become... I'd gladly marry him. And I said that because in all honesty, during that time he was wooing me, I already started feeling like I was falling for him... I wasn't sure, but it was something I kinda felt... So... Sort-of-going-out with someone I was maybe having feelings for wasn't that much of a bad deal for me, but it was still very scary. Especially because I was well aware of the mismatched expectations.

So, we got married, did our fair share of snu snu, I totally fell for him, and in something that totally took me off guard, he fell for me back, and I was like... OMG! I can't believe it! I was like, in heaven and all that.

Fast forward 7 months and he breaks up with me and I get super down and what not and I need another like... 16 months or something to get over it.

Which leads to now! The present! Where someone started wooing me again... But this time on Reddit.

And I'm like... On Reddit? Really? Like... Of all places, you'll try wooing a girl on Reddit?

For those that never tried using Reddit, there are no profile pictures, there are no profile posts, there is no "General General", there is no "Community Games"... There is nothing useful for socializing in Reddit. You just have a bunch of Subreddits specific for certain topics and all threads on those subreddits are relevant to the topic in question... Which this time was Digimon.

Like, sure, if he reaaaaaaally wanted to he could check my post history to find out I like Magic The Gathering, Summoners War and Adventure Quest as well and uhn... That's about it he can get from me out of Reddit? It's like... Basically nothing. I mean, he could also see that I like making well-structured arguments and often take controversial positions, which often leads to big comment chains with me getting downvoted and people trying to convince me otherwise, which never works, but uhn... I don't think he did that, nor do I think that's particularly appealing for anyone! xD

So... How did he start the conversation? He just said he liked the way I talked... You know, the part of using emotes, ending phrases with "~" and putting actions between "*"? Yeah, that, that was all he had. And he even said some pretty cringy stuff like how the way I talked was cute, and therefore I was cute, or how the way I wrote was attractive/alluring to him... Like... Seriously?

The first time I got wooed I was confused and didn't know what to do... The second time I was scared, but also looking forward to what would come of it... On the third time? On the 3rd time I laughed. Like, what was I supposed to do when someone says "The way you speak is attractive/alluring to me"? It's just hilarious, I've known the guy for 5 minutes and he is openly flirting with me with something as lame as that? How ridiculous can that be!? xD

And on reddit of all places, where we can't really get to know each other at all because the site just doesn't contribute in any meaningful manner to casual banter. What was he expecting? That I was going to go along and do some ERP with him after 3 minutes of conversation? Or that I'd send him some nudes if he asked? It was just so ridiculous, that I could only laugh at all that.

Not like it did get that far, I didn't give him much room to approach and just made it clear I wasn't interested in the slightest, and also said stuff like "I'm too old to do this kind of thing" to see if he'd turn off while imagining a lady on her 60s talking all cutesy and what not... Which is actually something I really like doing, never saying my real age and pretending to be much older than I really am. NUF is pretty much the only community that I've made my age public~

So... What did I take of this last experience? Nothing really, though I wonder if the guy was just messing around or if he felt pretty desperate to find any girl willing to girl along with him... Maybe he had a bet with his friends to see if he could get some nudes or something, hell if I know. I just felt it was hilarious from the moment he first PM'd me~

And well, it made me start coming back to those old memories and look back to how differently I reacted to each time I was wooed due to my current life situation at the time and the environment at which it happened~

I guess that's all I had to say about this incident, no real conclusion to take from it I guess? Except maybe an advice to not try flirting with girls on Reddit, they'll just laugh at you behind your back~

Alrighty, Alice out~
Buh bye~

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Comments

    1. AliceShiki Feb 21, 2020
      @hitedo Uhn... There isn't a magical rule for that, but like... If they're a bit too pushy, don't get the drift when you pretend to be innocent, and actively say that, "if you ever change your mind I'm just a flirt away"... You just understand that they were wooing you~
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    2. AliceShiki Feb 17, 2020
      @celleit Well, that's certainly something I've had plenty of! xD
      Glad you enjoyed reading about them~
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    3. imK Feb 17, 2020
      @AliceShiki sounds like you've had some really interesting experiences! I liked reading about it. Thank you for sharing
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    4. AliceShiki Feb 15, 2020
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    5. Balthazzar Feb 15, 2020
      I got wooed by some guys on here the moment i switched my gender from male to female :blobconfused:

      People got intersting tastes. Also was underage so maybe thats what it was:blobunsure:
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    6. Fossil Feb 15, 2020
      @AliceShiki Will do! It definitely sounds fun enough to do so!
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    7. AliceShiki Feb 15, 2020
      @Fossil I don't think mill has a particularly bad matchup with my decks! xD
      But hopefully you can find someone to play commander with! It's really fun! I completely stopped playing 60 card decks years ago because of it! \(^^)/

      @Cutter Masterson Oh, it's been a few years now, so I'm mostly fine with what happened already... And I'm fine with being around both men and women, and I honestly don't feel bothered by wooing... I just think that when it comes out of nowhere from someone that I don't know anything about is a taaaaaad weird... And kinda hilarious too~
      But thanks for the thoughts! Much appreciated!

      @BB_Tensei That's the thing, I don't even have much opportunity to act upbeat when we're talking on topic in threads and what not! That's when I usually show my serious side! xD
      My more casual and happy-go-lucky side tends to appear in pretty much anywhere else except threads with an actual topic to discuss~
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    8. BB_Tensei Feb 15, 2020
      It's funny how for every dick pic instaerp guy on the net there's a corresponding catfisher, and neither type ever gets screwed over by the other on a large enough scale for them to cancel out. Meanwhile here's people wooing Alice. I mean, why would you woo Alice? Not like Alice seems like an upbeat attractive personality on the Internet. Which is attractive, especially to people who might be compensating for their lack of actual social/wooing skills. xD

      Why not woo @Ai chan instead? Ai-chan is open and will shoot you down immediately, not caring about you feelings, like an 88mm flak cannon, even if you are a land vehicle. In Ai-chan we trust, it says.
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