I heard that phrase today... I heard that phrase multiple times... It's such a frustrating phrase to hear, really.
I'm currently staying at my mom's house... I was at my room and I was on my laptop... I work on my laptop. I work on my laptop at a really flexible schedule, so basically any day and any hour can be a work day or a work hour.
So... Mom comes in to my room and asks me to do some chores, nothing too big, but it would consume a small bit of time... But uhn... I really didn't want to go do them, and when she noticed it from my obvious reaction, she was like, "are you working?"
No. I was not working. I was talking to a friend about personal problems... I was doing something that's a lot more important than work, honestly... I wouldn't mind stopping work for a bit to do chores (though it would still be a bother, since it would break my concentration and stuff), but I absolutely do mind stopping a talk about personal problems with a friend to do chores.
I told mom that this just "wasn't a good time." She luckily kinda caught the drift and left me be, but like... Geez, why ask "are you working?" as the first thing when I show any reluctance to go do chores? Why does it have to be work? Is work the only important thing in my life? Is work the only thing that allows me to skip/delay chores?
... There are things that are more important than work, okay? I don't... I don't need to be working to be busy. I can be busy with other things. Other important things, things that matter a lot more than work to me... Why does the question have to be "are you working?" I don't get it... Can't she just ask "is right now no good?" or "are you busy?" There are definitely better questions to ask, why "are you working?" why does it have to be like that?
It's just so frustrating... I am working somewhat regularly now, okay? I don't need to be asked if I am working at any possible occasion... I just want to have some time for myself when I need time for myself... Is it that hard to acknowledge I can have other important things in my life?
.. She probably didn't mean anything by her question, she just wanted to know if I was busy with something meaningful I guess... It's just that mine and her definition of meaningful vary a lot it seems... And that bothers me a lot... *sighs*
I hate this question... Though I'm glad that even without me saying anything about what I was busy with, she still just left me be. I appreciated this much.
My relationship with my mom isn't good, but... She has some nice moments, I guess.
Are You Working?
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