Marriage

I have been very busy these past days, almost didn't have the time to play my favourite game ..or read novels.
This is all because, my troublesome clumsy best friend is marrying this month.
So much shopping on rainy days. Lol

For us, this is a very early marriage. Actually, this is the first proper marriage in our whole batch. I'm really excited and also happy for her. We can't wait to give her a nice little surprise party, for being the first to graduate from single status.

Everything seems jovial and cheerful isn't it? But while the surface of the matter shows a beautiful scenery, what's underneath is not as the same. Marriage, is a heavy responsibilty for such a young age, but they are forced by what's around them to bear it all on their own. It isn't all rainbows and sunshines as fairy tales, tears fall behind those brilliant smiles as well.

As for my friend, she, was introduced to the pains in the life a bit too late. Suddenly being forced to bear the responsibility of a while family with the unfortunate early death of her mother, her only safe heaven. She experienced what it meant by falling from heaven straight to hell, at first hand. She suffered alot, having to face the scorn, animosity, jealousy of all around them, battling against all these new responsibilities and tiresome work. And what's worse is that, it all hit her at the same time. She was exhausted and fed up. But she still had to bear with them all.
Sadly life is like this, nothing but unpredictable.
While this marriage seem to be a joyous event, it isn't the end to all these troubles for her, it is nothing but a new start for more to come. But at least she will have someone to face them alongside her now, at least she won't be alone.

Their's... is a long love story. Her relationship with him is around 7 years long by now, starting from when we were still stupid kids running around at 9th grade. She was and still is a pretty rough and bad mouthed girl, but with a great heart inside. She's a little more on the plump side, still pretty enough to have many many boys vying for her.She was a bit flimsy in love too lol. I almost lost the count of boys she had that ambiguous little relationships with.
While he was cocky and rude boy back then, he still is now, but a little better.

They both met under circumstances, which I did nothing but obstructions to.. Yes, I didn't like such a rude guy dating my bestie back then. But they still had something going on in secret while I, the so called best friend of hers got to know after almost half a year. I was mad, furious even, but only at him.
But my objection didn't do much. sigh. They still got together, and when we were finally facing O/Ls they were a well known couple around our grade.

While we graduated from O/Ls to A/Ls, he dropped out of school to attend to his career path early on. He also had his circumstances, with the lack of the guardians to guide his path but he still paved his way to his success.
While some of us, is still busy studying and some busy at their own houses.
And my friend belonged to the second category, quite obviously.
Before her life took a turn for the worst, she was pretty much living with her head in the clouds. Doing whatever she wants and being awfully lazy.
After O/Ls their relationship strained and they seperated for some time, almost broke up with each other. When I asked why, she said, she was tired of waiting for him. And he, was tired of being with her.

After A/L years, he was doing fine with his new found job while she, was with someone else, at the time. But eventually, he came around and she accepted. This happened a few times, whenever he strayed far away from her, she waited, and he came back. In the end they always ended up together. And when she was at her worst he was the only one who was willing to lend a hand. She grabbed that hand tight, tight enough to not let go for a lifetime.

Their love story wasn't a pretty one, but it was much more realistic, acceptable and also beautiful than these made-up fairy tales and fantasies.

I always thought he wasn't good enough for her. Now everyone around us say, she isn't good enough for him. Only now I understand that it isn't about being good enough, it's about the person you feel like home. And home is where we always come back to, no matter where or how much we stray afar.

I love my bestie, she is the most dearest friend I ever had, also will have. Even though I know you will never read this, I'll still wish you all the happiness and joy in the world, now and forever.