My mother is secretly a shopping addict, but doesn’t want to admit it.

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I think my mum has a shopping addiction. She claims that she has some breathing problem and stomach issues (says her stomach really hurts) and keeps on buying supplements and only goes to TCM (traditional Chinese medicine) Doctors. This shit has been going on for more than 4 years. She doesn’t go to Western doctors because she claims that they don’t help her. Bitch she hasn’t even gone to the specialists (GP referred her. She didn’t go.) and she says oH it ain’t gon help me. Did an X-Ray before that but found nothing, this GP recommendation. I think they probably found something but just wanted to make sure.

Our house is FILLED with her junk; the book cabinets are filled with HER books, the shelves overflowing with her once-or-twice-opened health supplements (most are EXPIRED by now and EXPENSIVE), the store room is filled and OVERFLOWING with mostly HER stuff, and her room is FILLED with her clothes (not on the floor tho, mostly just clothes piled against the walls). she buys a shit ton of shitty ugly ‘home’ clothes that she doesn’t even wear, and always insists on buying shit for me even though I’ve told her every single time she got something for me that I DONT LIKE IT, I DONT WANT IT, AND I RATHER U GIVE ME THE MONEY TO BUY IT MYSELF. I know, cruel, but she doesn’t even listen so. But of course, she still insists on fucking buying things herself, not listening to me (or anyone who goes against her purchases for that matter) and not letting me buy things myself either.

my dad and I want her to go for a lung/stomach check up where they use a camera to check her stomach for problems, as well as other areas where she claims has problems. we want her to go for the check up, not even talking about actual drugs that the doc might recommend her. what the fuck last time she went to western med doctors she claimed “oH thEy wAntEd tO eArN mY moNey, recommending me to see other doctors.” KDNFKEKCJDMSKSK THEY RECOMMEND U TO SEE OTHERS BC THEYRE FUCKING DOCTORS AND THEIR MAIN PRIORITY IS GETTING U WELL. hehe if I had heart issues I’d have a heart Attack because of HER and die 2 years ago :))

She keeps using this pAiN as an excuse to not do any housework (housewife) or basically anything she doesn’t wanna do, claiming it’s too painful to go oUt or whatever. doesn’t even want a fAmilY dAy / or family vacay / or family outing //​

Like wow, OKAY this sickness sure is accommodating, every time she doesn’t wanna do something it’d fucking flare up :blobwoah: I legit don’t believe her excuses anymore lmao bc if she really were in pain she’d not be ONLY using her phone ALL day, instead she’d try out ALL methods and ways to cure herself, and when people recommend her to try other ways to possibly cure herself she’d JUMP at the chance, even if it were something she didn’t rly believe in. also whenever I ask her why she’s using her phone she says she’s spreading the gospel and looking for ways to cure herself. So spreading the gospel to strangers/bare acquaintances is more important than your own immediate family?

She’s never actually behaved like a person in pain. I have NEVER seen her act like she’s in pain before, like EVER. and neither has ANYBODY even heard a single cry of pain ever lmao.​

honestly this shit is bringing the house down, down, and apart. My dad and I want her to go try out Western medicine since she’s obv ONLY been trying TCM and it hasn’t been curing her... for nearly 5 fucking years too lmao. Now she even wanted my dad to give her 2 yEarS bc this new medicine of hers from kOrEa is gonna work and help her get 100% wellllllllllllll. she’s said this about ALL the other health products she’s bought, and that oH thiS and tHat iS fRoM uK, chiNa, uS, the Doctors has studied in — before. FUCKING ANNOYING. You think those doctors who sit in their fancy posh chairs in the hospitals are any less qualified and know any less about their respective fields than your oh so glorious and knowledgeable TCM?? What rubbish, she claims it has WORKED and has made her a BIT BETTER. If this 2 years worth of ‘better’ has still rendered you helpless and incapable to do simple chores like mopping the floor or accompanying me and daddy out, one night as well fucking die since their precious medicine is so useless.

If she’s really unwell then this 2 years would either kill her (mum says her pain is CRAZY awful, but there’re some days where it gets better/NO PAIN) or make the sickness incurable. god I think I’d die of anger, pain and frustration before her 2 years is up.

for the record no my dad doesn’t abuse her lmao. and neither do I, the only thing I abuse is myself when I get mad.

All in all, I hate my mum. I hate how unresponsive she is and how she doesn’t even care when people talk to her, cry and scream at her, about her stuff. She doesn’t want to admit her wrong, and whenever people talk about her problems she diverts to another topic or brings the topic about another person.
For example

Tofu: why are you so lazy, not wanting to do anything else other than using your phone all day?
Mum: what about you, aren’t you also unwilling to do certain stuff, like washing the plates and going to school by yourself?
Tofu: at least I admit that I’m lazy. I literally say that “I’m too lazy to do XX stuff by myself, or to go school by myself bc we have cars for a reason.” What about you. You say that you are either in pain or short of breath and can’t do anything other than what you want to do. Excuses! Also whenever I ask you whether moving causes you any pain, you DONT ANSWER ME!! You look away and talk about others non-related rubbish. Must I ask you 10 times repeatedly and TELL you that it is a y/n question before you are willing to say yEs??? It’s not that hard mum. yes or no. Stop running away from the truth.
Mum: ...
Me: *bawling my eyes out the whole time *

I swear y’all I get unnecessarily emotional when loved ones misunderstand me. Why lol I am usually a calm person but when it comes to my mother and other people I care about I go crazy.

From the inside and out, my heart bleeds and tears open. Anyways, probably gonna regret posting about my life. Good night.

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Comments

    1. Lil K.O Dec 7, 2019
      Don't worry depending on your age you'll only have put up with it for a few more years before you go solo
    2. Nyann Dec 7, 2019
      I regret ranting in blogs too... But I felt in venting them out, it became an addiction...