"You" here is more like me. What I have been learning more and more these days is that, confidence about yourself
I won't start speaking of overconfidence as I don't think I have traveled that way yet... Have I? Haha maybe a bit at studies, "It'll be fine, I know things". But I am talking about confidence about ourselves as a person in a society.
- Cannot be forced. One can't just force you to be confident and call you a loser for being unconfident. That kinda thing kinda has the reverse effect imo. It's like, we can't be ourselves. But if its said with a praise, it usually does the work for me.
- Is the key to your social connections.
But the problem is if we live for too long in a society which has been letting you down, judging you, watching you, you kind of tend to think that everyone is like that, and all the time they are like that. What I understand is that people don't care/ worry much about anyone apart from themselves.
Yes, they may make a comment. But it shouldn't be taken until it affects you or you affect them.
On the other hand, if it's someone close to you, and express that they dislike a certain part of yours then you should definitely pay attention to it. Even though comments like "You need to change! You shouldn't do this!" Can be annoying, but they usually say it for our own good. Even though, it may necessarily not affect them, except emotionally. They say it more because they are afraid of the negative consequences we may face.
But, if something is said repeatedly to someone, and they don't realize it, it will be distressing for both the parties. Like "Please stop already! I won't change...". Like my mom nagging me about my weight. She is afraid that I may not fit in clothes, not get a good guy to love me... But guess what. Many good guys don't even consider ideal media looks for actually having feelings for someone. And anyways, a person with annoying personality is disgusting no matter how good she looks. Just like if a hot guy is an asshole, I would prolly say "What a waste of looks..." Lol
Do the people who make these kind of comments look down on you? Not essentially, though I think they feel a sense of responsibility towards us... If something bad happens to us, they can't take it. Sort of... But they miss out the point is they want you to do what they (along with the society) thinks is right...
But then, again if you change societies, you may be viewed with a different perspective. Don't let your negativity overpower your positive ways at first impressions. That's something we should note... Don't let a person think you're ugly t first impressions. If that's so, and they stay with you for a long time, the next moment, next hour, next day you meet them, look at them confidently, and smile! Like you're the happiest person with yourself...
People don't think of you as lowly as you think they do
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