Need Advice, I fell in love with my best friend...

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  1. Jigoku Shounen

    Jigoku Shounen An Envoy From Hell

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    Confess, and just prepare yourself to be rejected.
    That's how you can get over it.
    And whether the friendship between you guys will still last or not, or be awkward or something, then only after that then you will know. But "forget" her part is "almost" guarantee.
    If you want to keep the friendship but still want to "forget" the "love", then either try to find a different girl somehow to force yourself to forget, or nothing. You either choose something then lose something else or lose everything. Reality isn't like Fiction where you can just Keep everything by some miraculous ways.
     
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  2. Aldnonymous

    Aldnonymous Male Member

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    Yeah siscon is perfectly acceptable around here.
     
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  3. Nyanko

    Nyanko Psychotic Cat Princess

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    Then you value her more as a friend than a potential lover.
    Keep her as a friend, find someone else to devour. But then again, miss 3-month record for longest relationship is not the best person to ask...
     
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    SomeDude Well-Known Member

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    Fuck Her right in the pussy

    Jail is just a room.
     
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  5. Narr-master

    Narr-master Well-Known Member

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    Look, you have read the novels on this site, so you should already what not to do.
    Just go to her and say, "hey, xx, look, I know you like girls but I like you. Just wanted to get that off my chest. I´ll probably be a bit akward around you for a while but...yeah"
    As you keep spending time with her normally that affection will probably turn more brotherly. Just don´t avoid her or try to force yourself to date someone you don´t like just to forget her.
     
  6. Senros

    Senros Well-Known Member

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    Cut the twins off. That would stop you from producing testosterone and you might simply stop wanting her afterwards.

    Anyways, I went through something similar, though this girl wasn't lesbian. At that time I had 2 female best friends, told the other one what I felt, she said it would be better to not act on it as it's probably just a crush and you'll fuck your relationship if you do act on it. And she was right. After a few weeks (I think) I stopped "loving" her. Take into account that we were in the same class, so I saw her everyday and the crush still passed after a few weeks. In your case it might be just a crush, or maybe you do love her, and then you would need to make her like the D again somehow.
     
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  7. justmehere

    justmehere Well-Known Member

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    Lol,

    Do you love her that much? You can be a trans female and everything might work out...
     
  8. KTL

    KTL Down horrendous

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    think of her as another person in your life, recite some religion quotes or some shit.
     
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  9. Kemm

    Kemm Custom title

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    I can't really help you from experience, but the way I see it you have two choices:
    1. Tell her, explaining that you know it will come to nothing but you have to come clean in order to move on; then move on.
    2. Never tell a soul and try to find a different love, but to my knowledge this one rarely works well.
     
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  10. vzona

    vzona Active Member

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    Try this! 100% Works! (Not all culture though)
    •Use rope, kidnap her
    •sex with her, let her Bear your child
    •go to her parents, say you'll take responsibility
    •married
     
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  11. Ilisle

    Ilisle Lord of the Northern Guards

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    Seclude yourself,
    disconnect from virtuality,
    let your mind wander.
    Let the fire in you show the way.
    Think
    Think
    Think
    Let the devils in you make peace.
    Come out once you have seen the blankness or the liberation of your love.
     
  12. Aldnonymous

    Aldnonymous Male Member

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    I... Might have a solution for this...

    Just tell her you identify yourself as female with male-like sexual tendency.

    It will work! I promise!
     
  13. Hatsune Izuma

    Hatsune Izuma Active Member

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    Get the feeling of your chest, so basically confess.
     
  14. MEGA SPARTA CHICKEN

    MEGA SPARTA CHICKEN Planet sized warrior Tony without wisdom teeth

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    Kenja Well-Known Member

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    Either do the Above if you can handle the awkwardness! Or don't confess at all. And you will definitely get over her in a few years.
    Experienced stuff, i can guarantee it.
     
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    awake1122 Well-Known Member

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    My only suggestion is to get her to be your wingman.
     
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    LuminaDawn Well-Known Member

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    The best advice I can give you is to either go out and find someone else to love, just go and tell her your feelings and try to keep your friendship, or bury your feelings deep inside and hope they die down man.
     
  18. Estarossa

    Estarossa 《Master of Dessert》°Resurrected Ghoul°

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    Secrets my dude, gotta have those in life.
     
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  19. Lazybum0

    Lazybum0 Cheers darlin'

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    I have a friend that had some "luck" with a "lesbian" (she had a girlfriend) as she was "curious" to try it with a man. So who knows you may get "lucky" and are you sure she's not bisexual?
    Ill carnal advise thought haha. I mean as you should be looking for a relationship and reciprocated feelings which seem hard as you're trapped in a genderzone and friendzone at the same time .I pray for you my friend.
     
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  20. Meloman

    Meloman My dog is lazier than me

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    Question: are you sure she is a lesbian and not a bisexual? For example I find girls attractive but I don’t wish to be in a relationship with a girl.

    I have a feeling that quite a few women might see other women as good looking, but that does not mean they would not want to be with a guy.

    But really... a friendship changing into romance is rather hard. And often you’ll lose both a girlfriend and a friend by the end of it.

    Well I’m still friends with my ex, but I’m a really crazy person... do as I say not as I do type of situation.

    so if say I had a child of my own I would not have advised him/her to date their friends unless they absolutely feel desperate about their confession.

    Friends are cool to have regardless of their sexual preferences...
     
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