Discussion Why is it so hard to kiss?

Discussion in 'Novel General' started by Kiskaiya, Jul 22, 2019.

Thread Status:
Not open for further replies.
  1. Kiskaiya

    Kiskaiya 【Let’s pretend】

    Joined:
    Dec 5, 2018
    Messages:
    558
    Likes Received:
    5,431
    Reading List:
    Link
    Yet another thing I'm curious about after finally pulling my head out of my book. How come most protags in a novel that has romance can't seem to kiss? Is it that common to pass out/not figure out how to breath through the nose? How did this become a trope? Honestly starting to wonder why so many authors write their mcs as kissing idiots. I mean, I barely remember my first kiss, but I can sure as hell remember that I knew how to breath through my nose and never passed out from one.
     
  2. Lurking

    Lurking Do the dead suffer, or is it a sweet release?

    Joined:
    May 5, 2018
    Messages:
    1,709
    Likes Received:
    12,370
    Reading List:
    Link
    I don't recognise that trope. What are you reading exactly?
     
  3. Archaic pickle

    Archaic pickle Daoist Heavenly Kimichi

    Joined:
    Feb 16, 2016
    Messages:
    4,023
    Likes Received:
    32,624
    Reading List:
    Link
    Crushing noses during a first kiss was fun, no one tells you to tilt your damn head when your a kid
     
  4. Lurking

    Lurking Do the dead suffer, or is it a sweet release?

    Joined:
    May 5, 2018
    Messages:
    1,709
    Likes Received:
    12,370
    Reading List:
    Link
    Thanks for the advice.

    *notes*
     
  5. DiabolicGod

    DiabolicGod Well-known lazy Member

    Joined:
    Jan 19, 2017
    Messages:
    2,022
    Likes Received:
    1,490
    Reading List:
    Link
    Or both tilting to the same side
     
  6. Kiskaiya

    Kiskaiya 【Let’s pretend】

    Joined:
    Dec 5, 2018
    Messages:
    558
    Likes Received:
    5,431
    Reading List:
    Link
    half the modern setting novels of both bg and bl seem to have that trope, at least as far as I've seen.

    No one tells you to move your glasses out of the way, either, especially if you both wear them >.>
     
    Last edited by a moderator: Jul 22, 2019
  7. Cutter Masterson

    Cutter Masterson Well-Known Super-Soldier

    Joined:
    Oct 24, 2015
    Messages:
    5,676
    Likes Received:
    8,708
    Reading List:
    Link
    I figure they want to keep the innocence to the characters. The MC being awkward and clumsy has the feel of the underdog. Besides everyone has had a moment we’re they’re nervous and mess things up. It’s normal. Seeing that in a character makes them more relatable.
    As to my first kiss. I didn’t know what I was doing. Also I can see myself having my breath taken away by a really good kiss by someone I care for.
    So us noobs will just have to stumble along crossing our fingers hoping for the best.
     
    Capsize, Reak, Naruin and 2 others like this.
  8. otaku31

    otaku31 Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Nov 26, 2015
    Messages:
    6,603
    Likes Received:
    26,150
    Reading List:
    Link
    2 conjectures:
    • The kiss was hot enuf to leave one "breathless".
    • If it was a JP novel, it was too much 4 the beta MC; hence, the passing out.
     
  9. SummerForest

    SummerForest Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Nov 1, 2018
    Messages:
    1,255
    Likes Received:
    13,336
    Reading List:
    Link
    Is there such a thing as a kissing trope?
     
    Lurking likes this.
  10. Kiskaiya

    Kiskaiya 【Let’s pretend】

    Joined:
    Dec 5, 2018
    Messages:
    558
    Likes Received:
    5,431
    Reading List:
    Link
    I've had my breath hitch over a really fine kiss, but never to that point. Only time I had trouble breathing was when a guy tilted his head too far in the direction I tilted mine and ended up blocking half my nose. But I could still just simply stop the kiss so I could breathe again.
     
  11. rfu12

    rfu12 Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Nov 13, 2015
    Messages:
    63
    Likes Received:
    55
    Reading List:
    Link
    Because you open yourself up for rejection, which most people can't handle that directly
     
  12. Kiskaiya

    Kiskaiya 【Let’s pretend】

    Joined:
    Dec 5, 2018
    Messages:
    558
    Likes Received:
    5,431
    Reading List:
    Link
    Not sure if it's recognized as an official trope, but I figure if it's used in enough novels, then it's a trope
     
  13. SummerForest

    SummerForest Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Nov 1, 2018
    Messages:
    1,255
    Likes Received:
    13,336
    Reading List:
    Link
    What about a French kiss? Anyone here can tell anything about it?
     
  14. Lurking

    Lurking Do the dead suffer, or is it a sweet release?

    Joined:
    May 5, 2018
    Messages:
    1,709
    Likes Received:
    12,370
    Reading List:
    Link
    Whats bg? I dunt really read modern setting novels.
     
  15. grandurr

    grandurr [Daisy's Peony] [Negiomi's Nectar]

    Joined:
    Feb 24, 2016
    Messages:
    299
    Likes Received:
    802
    Reading List:
    Link
    slip in some tounge and there you go
     
  16. Kiskaiya

    Kiskaiya 【Let’s pretend】

    Joined:
    Dec 5, 2018
    Messages:
    558
    Likes Received:
    5,431
    Reading List:
    Link
    Don't forget to actually move the tongue, and try not to get it on the outside of the lips. Not many people like slimy kisses
     
    LadyBlue, grandurr, Exitiumm and 3 others like this.
  17. Cutter Masterson

    Cutter Masterson Well-Known Super-Soldier

    Joined:
    Oct 24, 2015
    Messages:
    5,676
    Likes Received:
    8,708
    Reading List:
    Link
    If you have to stop a kiss. There’s something wrong.
    A breathless kiss is a kiss you loose yourself in. Not restrain yourself.
     
    SummerForest and Kiskaiya like this.
  18. Kiskaiya

    Kiskaiya 【Let’s pretend】

    Joined:
    Dec 5, 2018
    Messages:
    558
    Likes Received:
    5,431
    Reading List:
    Link
    bg = boy girl, in reference to the type of romantic couple
     
    BenJackson likes this.
  19. Archaic pickle

    Archaic pickle Daoist Heavenly Kimichi

    Joined:
    Feb 16, 2016
    Messages:
    4,023
    Likes Received:
    32,624
    Reading List:
    Link
    Don't see anything about Australian kisses.... Wait... I'll stop being lewd and show myself out :blobpeek:
     
    xalienxgamerx likes this.
  20. Nom de Plume

    Nom de Plume [Shio’s Disciple] [True Villain] [Equip: Gunblade] Novel Updates Staff

    Joined:
    Oct 20, 2015
    Messages:
    2,688
    Likes Received:
    13,011
    Reading List:
    Link
    Similar to otaku:
    • If things get hot and heavy enough, panting is normal which could lead to dizziness if you don’t get room to breath on top of it
    • Inexperience could lead to the whole kiss being overwhelming and cause something similar to above
    • The spiking of pleasure can make the mind blank out and I guess that could feel like a faint combined with the above; it’s not
    • Kissing should have people pulling back and returning for a different angle which gives time to breathe. The romantic leads you are describing are either bad at kissing or overbearing. Their tongues were also likely far enoughdown the others throat to interfere with breathing through the nose.

    I think that the books you are reading are trying to highlight that the romantic lead kissed them until they were breathless. My first kiss was me and the guy watching a movie and kissing the entire movie / well after it was over. Literal hours of kissing to make up for being two young adults who had never kissed before. Neither of us fainted.
     
    mir, Kiskaiya and Cutter Masterson like this.
Thread Status:
Not open for further replies.