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  1. Effugium

    Effugium [Investigator], Praise Shigure-sama

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    What's your opinion about marriage?
    Do you think that marriage is something that's necessary?
    Do you think you might get married in the future?
    If you are getting married, what do you want the marriage to be like? Do you think the wedding party need to be fancy, or do you prefer to stay low-key?
    How long would you wait until you'd propose or say yes to a marriage proposal?
    I am curious, please share your thoughts
     
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    ExcitableFoci Well-Known Member

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    1- Meh.

    2- Depends. Idc about its existence but you gotta respect the people who do care. Even if it is a pain in the ass.

    3- No, but who knows. I might change my mind if I end wanting to adopt kids under a situation in which I am unable to provide for the kids properly.

    4- Quiet and pleasant.

    5- I would do so whenever it feels right. That and something about tax cuts...

    Said and done, I personally don´t like marriages. But hypothetical situations are always welcome.
     
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  3. Zomula

    Zomula Well-Known Member

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    1) Since I have never been married I am withholding my opinion.
    2) No, you can still form a family without marriage. Marriage is only a formal contract saying that you are family.
    3) Maybe.
    4) I'm not religious and I'm not vain, so I really wouldn't care what the wedding was like. For all I care we could do a courthouse wedding and I wouldn't have a problem with it. At the same time I wouldn't care if the wedding was elaborate either. In the end, it would all depend on what my partner wanted.
    5) Can't really time it. The best time is when you feel that the time is right.
     
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    GuguruTranslate Well-Known Member

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    1- I can't get married since I haven't been cured from my condition. (Only men knows)
    2- I don't know but my mom keep telling me to get married so yeah.
    3- I hope so, though the chances are very low with my condition now :cry:
    4- I prefer low-key, more privacy, I guess.
    5- Until I confirm that I really want to be with her.
     
  5. Ha-Ha

    Ha-Ha A chance to love you, protect you, Shen Anxin.

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    Hmm ....
    I can’t picture myself getting married. It just conflicts too much with my character design.
    So nope never getting married. Marriage sounds and feels like a whole shit load of responsibilities and I was never the responsible one.
     
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    Miserys_End 「Lv1 Pretend Person」I'm the preson i pretend to be

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    Aquaa 『We Lost The Summer』

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    1. Don't really have opinions

    2.not really necessary, personally depends on your own choice

    3. I am sure I'll get married because i hail from an indian family (if i dont go for love , there is always the swipe left swipe right arrange marriage) and because i don't want to be a old lonely cat / dog lady .

    4. Not really into fancy party, I'll opt for a register marriage and keep a party later by inviting family and friends but if my other half does wish for a grand marriage , i might reconsider but obviously not grand but a moderate budget marriage with all close relatives and close friends. (Even though i feel it's waste of money)

    5.i think for me the marriage age would be 25+ for accepting someone's proposal if i find them decent enough to spend the rest of my life that is.
     
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  8. Coffea to Ell

    Coffea to Ell 【❀ Sleepy Bunny ❀】

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    1. can that be eaten :cookie:
    2. mmm.... dunno. Maybe yes, isn't marriage something sacred to take a vow to your partner seriously :blobReach:
    (Tho i think nowdays lots people view the vow in marriage lightly)
    3. Dunno
    4. Dunno too. Never thinking of that :blob_tilt:
    5. Huh?? Dunno too... I think its depend on every situation that may occur one day :blobpopcorn:
     
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    Zom the Monk Well-Known Member

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    I view marriage as an acknowledgement of the bond you have by the people you care for and the government. Definitely a lower scale venue if I had my druthers not the $20,000 average in the US, which is admittedly pretty skewed by celebrity weddings and such. For me at least I really think you should take the time to get to know your S.O., and at the bare minimum it would take a bit more than two years. The first 8-12 months getting to know them getting increasingly more intimate while having your ups and downs. Potentially moving in together at the the of that time period, getting used to the quirks that you only can find out by living together. To see if you could actually survive each other's company for so long. Then by year two if you've successfully reached already married by all the ways that count, you proceed forth.
     
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    My parents got married without inviting anyone and so did my sister. If I ever do (probably won't) get married I'd do the same.
    Don't think I ever will though because that'd require someone dumb enough to marry me '_>'
    Marriage isn't necessary. It hasn't been necessary for years. Never forget marriage started out as a political move to complete negotiations among tribes and countries.
     
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    *reads the last few questions*
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    1. Not too bad
    2. Not really, but I'd still prefer it to other "arrangements" as I'm quite traditional
    3. Doubtful
    4. Low key, small affair, but also depends on what my SO and family want
    5. When the time feels right, but I won't be rushing it, that's for sure
     
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  12. Kutaifa

    Kutaifa Pokémon trainer

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    What condition is that?
     
  13. Coffea to Ell

    Coffea to Ell 【❀ Sleepy Bunny ❀】

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    @Effugium *poke poke*
    Tell yours thoughts too :blobpopcorn:
     
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    1. It is a beautiful bond when shared with the right person.

    2. I think it is hard to stay alone with no one to share your feelings and emotions. You may feel lost at one point in your life.If you marry, you will be able to share your sentiments and feelings with your spouse. Your friends /relatives may abandon you, but your partner will be ready to go the through the ups and downs with you.
    However, it entirely is one's personal choice.

    3. I don't know.

    4. I would love to celebrate it with my family and my close friends. It doesn't need to be fancy.

    5. When I will be ready...
     
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  15. Effugium

    Effugium [Investigator], Praise Shigure-sama

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    Dun wanna~
     
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    Coffea to Ell 【❀ Sleepy Bunny ❀】

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    Do tell....:sushi_cool:
     
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    reagents 11 disaster personified

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    1. No. Unless you're having a kid then there's no point.
    2. I don't know. I wasn't exactly opposed to the idea. Depends on what girlfriend want.
    3. Simple and private.
    4. Depends on how my girlfriend answer essential question need to be ask of her before she land into marriage territory. If she wasn't ready i had to made her wait until she's ready.
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    Marriage provide a necessary environmental to nurture and rear your kid properly and made place to settle down as a home. The joining will provide strong capital base via family ties.
     
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    Darkcrow. Foul Tarnished

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    To me marriage is like a Chain around my neck(leash to put it in a simple way)
     
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    Cutter Masterson Well-Known Super-Soldier

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    What's your opinion about marriage?
    I like it.

    Do you think that marriage is something that's necessary?
    No. What is necessary is happiness. Do what make you happy.

    Do you think you might get married in the future?
    Yes. I want a family.

    If you are getting married, what do you want the marriage to be like?
    My best friend. Someone I can count on to have my back. Is understanding, especially since I know I’m going to screw up. Loving, caring and kind. Being HOT is nice too.

    Do you think the wedding party need to be fancy, or do you prefer to stay low-key?
    Low key. A wedding on a tropical beach.

    How long would you wait until you'd propose or say yes to a marriage proposal?
    A couple of years as fiancé to each other. At least until after school, get a job and a house. Than marriage.

    Fate has a plan. So live life as you want. Marriage will come when it comes. It’s better not to force it, but that also doesn’t mean you can be lazy. Go after the girl of your dreams. Or you’ll regret it.
     
  20. Ursula

    Ursula Well-Known Member

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    1- not important enough to be necessary for me as it has something about fate and what God predetermined for you in our culture
    2- yes
    3- I prefer a low-key party but I know that my family and friends won't ever allow such thing they want it to be huge:blobmelt:
    4- I can agree to it now if I want girls here get married in their 20's and some in the age of 18:blobsmirk: