Discussion Big weddings

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  1. I like to go to big weddings

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  2. I don't like to go

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  3. I go if we have a good family relationship

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  4. I'm gonna have a big one myself

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  5. Also having a big one but not inviting relatives I'm not actually close to

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  6. I'll have a small wedding if any

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  1. Jojo775

    Jojo775 Honorary Algae Knight

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    Say you're not close to the marrying couple, do you still go?
    Last time I went was pretty much for food and drinks and party, made a few empty promises to cousins I haven't seen in years that we will keep in touch, of course we haven't. It was fun but for the wrong reasons.
    Feels like a sham and a bit bad for just going to basically free party.
     
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  2. otaku31

    otaku31 Well-Known Member

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    Was forced to go by my family sometimes when I couldn't weasel my way out of them. They aren't known as big, fat Indian weddings for nothing. To clarify, 'twas before the pandemic.
     
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    Lemonfairy 〖Retired Cat Boss〗〖Feeling the Effects of Aging〗

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    I'll go if there's free food :cookie:
     
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    While I don't mind going if I have to but when given the choice I would rather not regardless of how much fun it will be
     
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    ALostCause Well-Known Member

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    I'm a bit shameless so I'll go anyway for the free food (that I'd hope would be high quality for a big wedding), the goody bags, and take photos on their site pretending like I'm on an expensive vacation xD Exploit the rich ya know?
     
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    My brother before pandemic. In winter almost every single day .eat everything in wedding free pizza, butter milk, and almost every Indian dish you can imagine on the table, all without being invited. ah good old days
     
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    Walter vi Britannia Well-Known Member

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    Jojo775 Honorary Algae Knight

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    People get pizza for weddings? Your brother would go uninvited to drink butter milk???
     
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    KurouDaijuji Well-Known Member

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    I've been to weddings when invited, because if someone feels our relationship is close enough that I should be invited, who am I to tell them they're wrong?

    That being said, I wasn't invited to the most recent of someone who's previous wedding I'd been to, officially because the Bride's parents convinced her that not inviting me would be doing me a favor (& if there was another reason, or more, for not inviting me, I don't care, because it was a favor anyway).
     
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    No. If it's not my relative(sister or brother) i will not go....i don't like big parties, they are too noisy and i easily get headache. but i'm fine with small wedding as long i don't have to go every month.
     
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    aegis062 Chaotic Demon Emperor

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    Lets just say I hate going to weddings I went to 13 weddings before the age of 12. My dad alone has 15 siblings including himself there are 7 men and rest are women and my mom is 1 of 9 siblings and many of them were already married with kids before I was born, but many of them got married and had kids after. the worst part is the amount of cousins is no joke from my dad side alone there are 28 cousins at least I am sure there are more since I know a few of them had 3 kids, but I know most of them have 2 kids each and on my mom side 7of them have 2 kids the 8th has 4 kids and 9th she never got married nor has any kids.

    My Grandfather from my dad side married 13 times, but he has illegitimate children not counting the 15 known there is at least another 5-6, but only the oldest uncle knows who they might be.
     
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    Before covid, well... for those whom I know personally and close family (up to the descendant of great grandfather), as long as the distance is not too far from my home, I'm alright.

    A culture in giving monetary gift for the attendee to the married couple occurs in my country. It's possible to offset the cost of having a party by that.
     
  13. Anra7777

    Anra7777 All powerful magic grammar hamster queen pirate.

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    I’ve been to several big weddings in my life time. I guess my response would generally be “eh.” When Mr. Hamster and I got married, it was very small, less than 30 people. And we were very happy with that.
     
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    Go for the food lol. Jks aside, if there's an invite, and its a friend/fam then why not? Even if its distant fam (which have gone to a bit), will see some familiar faces since there's bound to be someone there close to with it being fam. And will see fam never really remembered or knew so kinda good to connect/reconnect in a way.
     
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    I only go for the food. But it's sometimes annoying when you meet distant relatives that met you once when you were younger cuz they're like: "you were so small the last time I saw you", and I'm thinking "Woman, why are you acting buddy buddy with me I don't know you".
     
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  16. Lissi

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    If they invited me, then yes~
     
  17. FIEND

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    I crash weddings bitches, I don’t need Invites
     
  18. Jevanka926

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    Will there be tasty free food? Then I'm in
     
  19. kgggdkp2012

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    yes.
     
  20. Ddraig

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    The only thing you can do is hope the food will be good
     
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