I went to the same school all my life so I grew up with a lot of people so I always had small talk with people, only superficially. Only had a small circle of good friends. I played rugby most of my time there so I always chatted to them. At uni I always just say hi, how you doing? And little stuff like how tired I am, how cold it is, how crap lectures are or some teachers are, you done any of the work etc. Might talk about sports as well depending on the person. I formed a small circle of friends again and forgot how to socialise with new people unfortunately. If you develop your social skills it's always good to keep on top of them! If you find it hard to speak to new people, and you develop a way to deal with it, good to refresh it in your mind!
how i do it hi i am xxx and you? (wait answer) sooo.... how are you?(wait answer, and anticipate the question: and you?) afterwards talk about the weather and finally ask about hobbies (try to find common ground) if it is found => congrats you guys got something to talk about now go forth and level your social skills!
Ok, everyone here has pretty much said all of it, but in order to put it together you should probably watch this:
1) Hey, I like your hairstyle. Where did you do it? 2) Hi, can I sit here? 3) You probably heard already, but my grades kinda suck. Do you think you could give me some pointers? 4) Your pen. Where did you buy it? 5) Anime sucks. 6) Your shoe looks great on you, where did you buy it? 7) Wow, your makeup looks perfect. What did you use? 8) Hi, how do you do? 9) You look like you're having trouble. Want a hand? 10) You see, I have an illness called Can't Eat By Myself, would you like to join me for lunch?
Just tell them ....ehm ehm !!! Ay yo mammaa let me get yo number!!! Call me if u dont get slapped lol
What do you mean not done right? It doesn't have to be a school club, in my city there is a youth club, it has foreign langauges groups, onboxiously loud DnD group, game tournaments and events to go to. I don't know whether that dude is your friend or not, since you didn't describe your relation. There are plenty of non school clubs anyway, sports, dance, model making, gaming, reading...
do you play games? any sports? this topic will be the start.. if you like to have a friend.. make an effort. dont make them do the effort for you.. you're not a king.. and definitely not a kid. search for common trends. its gonna be hard i know.. but your effort is needed to have a friend..
are you shy or you realy realy dont know how to talk just be natural... talk in any subject funny ones to the tha ones to be social is hard and easy in same time BE YOURSELF
It works best if you go somewhere related to a topic you enjoy. Its easy to talk to someone about games in a game store, art stuff in an art supply shop and things along those line. It works best if you actually know what your talking about. This applies in school as well, talk to people about some neat thing in science in the science room. All you need is a topic to start off with, if they are intrested or just bored enough they'll talk. tldr; talk about what topics related to whats going on, you can find out about people easier when you have a neutral subject. GL
I don't watch sports so I yeah I know where you're coming from, when majority of sterotype guys talk about sports and cars... you just have to find friends with those that don't. Anyway I recommend dancing like salsa or swing, every week there is a dance party which most participants attend and you practically have to dance with girls (without being rejected at a disco club, well you wouldn't know about that but it sucks).
if you are serious then this will really be easy.. but if your not then dont bother anymore.. the reason why you cant befriend someone is because you are full of "WHAT IF'S"... you wont know what will happen if you didnt try.. if you did try and fail then try again.. if it failed again then try again.. whenever you tried doing things more often it will become natural.. later you wont even notice that you have friends to talk to.
Hey, I was in this sort of situation at the start of freshman year in high school. I had just moved, and I didn't know anyone when the year started when everyone had their groups and stuff. It was very awkward when my chemistry teacher had decided to do a group lab assignment, but I didn't know anyone and no one knew me. I was a popular kid in my former schools, so my social skills aren't too bad, so I might not be able to empathize with what you are going through, but to make new friends it is important to initiate a conversation by yourself. Most people are content with the friends they have and won't go out of their way to talk with a stranger. I always opened up a conversation when meeting a new person in the class by saying, "Hi, mind if I sit here?" (My classes were assigned seating, the point is that it is not an unusual question and is ironically funny and you may receive a chuckle or laugh. If they don't pick up on the joke, then it is fine as well.) And when they reply, try to pick up on details that may tell you what their personality is like. If they seem like a shy person, then most conversation you will have them are going to turn into a type of one-sided Q and A, and something like that is bland. When talking with them, make sure to add in your own experience after they respond. Keep doing that until they are more familiar with you and start to strike up conversations with you actively. With people that seem more social and outgoing, a discussion becomes a back and forth at the beginning, which is a good thing where they will learn stuff about you, and you will learn things about them. Something like that is very crucial to making friends. Coming up with topics is an essential factor. Talking about personal issues before you get to know someone is very awkward. Talk about school work, like if they have done a homework assignment from another class, or if they procrastinate, before moving on to things like hobbies or what people do in their free time. Another important thing is to do stuff like that consistently to the same people, basically forming a habit. It grows familiarity faster, and honestly speaking you can't call someone you've only had a couple of awkward conversations with a friend. Make sure that you come into conversations confidently, stuttering and the like make you seem like someone that even you wouldn't want to talk to. It sets the mood of the conversation, and try to make sure it is the best mood possible at the time. If you can't bring yourself to initiate a conversation, you'll have to be resigned to having only one friend/acquaintance in your high school life. Well, that's my advice on it, try your best.
Well first, you gotta muster up some confidence. Second of all, be straight forward and third of all remember to stay calm and talk naturally. Say you came to talk to make friends, what’s wrong with that? Worst thing that could happen is the other party saying they don’t wanna be friends but that’s highly unlikely.. most probably, they’d ask why? That there is a conversation starter!