(Bad) dating history

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  1. Zom the Monk

    Zom the Monk Well-Known Member

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    My only relationship didn't end too badly, but it did teach me something I should establish before getting into one. Make sure you're on the same page for what you want out of it. I date for the purpose of finding a partner in life, and while I won't rush into things that's my goal, while she was dating for the fun of it, and when she got tired of it went back to enjoying the single life. When she realized the difference in goals she broke up with me.
     
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  2. pepeoo

    pepeoo high lord of the seven seas

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    And I live in the basement kek whats a social life
     
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  3. Viken

    Viken Well-Known Member

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    While I didn't grow up in a strictly formal household, I did at least grow up with manners. But that was out in the countryside, in the middle of nowhere. By the time I moved into a big city, I was one of those kind, quiet, and polite kids that got bullied quite a bit. Thus dating for me was almost an impossibility until I was already in my mid-teens.

    In one way, it was rather lucky for me, because the few relationships I did have were long-lasting and meaningful. They were intense, deeply emotional, and great while they lasted. The first actually ended on somewhat easy-going ways. The last two though lasted about a year apiece and ended very badly. Two failed engagements, both due to infidelity on my girlfriends parts.

    One of which blew up when she ended up pregnant by her older, erstwhile lover. That one went so far as getting me charged for statutory rape, because she was a month younger than the legal age limit in the state. A court-mandated DNA test resolved that issue, but things had totally broken for me by then. Heartbreak, mental collapse, whatever you want to call it.

    Since then I haven't been into dating at all. I'm not going to waste my time or money or effort on a woman I cannot trust complicity. Thus dating and 'romance' for me is something that happens after the relationship is established. It isn't some childish game or a quick romp in the bedsheets. Twisted, perhaps, but that's life.

    Thanks for letting me rant.
     
  4. pepeoo

    pepeoo high lord of the seven seas

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    Idk maybe it's just me but maybe ur calling someone out lul
     
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    Mgtow
     
  6. Ratatoskr

    Ratatoskr [Aruruu's proud dad] [The False Gentleman]

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    The one that keep calling almost every hour of the day. Like when you chillin with fellow brows playing game have pizza and what not, your phone would just start ringing mid game. Takes a few minutes explaining you're with your bros, which would lead to the 'which one you want to spent time with'.
    Now i'm looking for someone who grew up with normal brothers and understand how we are with our bros. If she's cool enough, i'll let her into the group.
     
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  7. kelkel1133

    kelkel1133 Well-known Devil

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    I'm seventeen and my record's as clean as a newly processed paper
     
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    schmidtcooper Well-Known Member

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    At the extreme risk of sounding arrogant, I wasn’t stupid and could actually date decent people. Seriously, it’s pretty easy just don’t date soley off how good they look. So many get tricked it’s disgusting.
     
  9. Meloman

    Meloman My dog is lazier than me

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    I agree on calling every hour being a problem... we each need space sometimes. As for letting her into the group... hm, sure it’s important to meet your bf’s/gf’s friends but wouldn’t it make her be “one of the boys?” And another part (May be you are still young/ or talking about when you were younger?) but wouldn’t you want some “alone” time with your gf? Also if you bring her around your friends all the time- she might fall for one of your friends instead... sorry, I seem to be pessimistic today...
     
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  10. UnGrave

    UnGrave ななひ~^^

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    Male with a female avitar? No way you're getting a girlfriend!
     
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  11. Miri-Bell

    Miri-Bell Semi-crazy Magic Cat

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    Dated twice, broke up twice, not interested in trying again lol.
     
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  12. MaidChan

    MaidChan 『Battlemaid』 『TRAP』 『Homeless Maid』

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    What is a girlfriend??
     
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    Cosmic_ [Novel Addict] [Lazy Writer] [Meh Editor]

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    I was a member of the Forever Alone Villiage. Still am.
     
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    I dated 3 girls throughout my teens and only one of them were short term(she was insane) and the other two I met doing martial arts and we had very aggressive relationships. I learned i do not like dating crazy women and that I'm okay with a girl who can beat up a man twice my size.
     
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    My first and only relationship was after my final year highschool exam has finished. I've known her for 2 years at that time and we mostly hang out with each other after school with 3-4 other friends. She confessed to me after the graduation day and we just started dating. We kept our relationship platonic throughout our dating period(not even holding hands) due to religious reason. There's also always a third person during our date(most of the time is her lil or big bro). We also split the bill most of our date(fyi,she is the one insist to pay her own meal even after I insist to pay it myself multiple times). Fast forward, our relationship ended after 2 years mostly because both of us are busy with our studies but we still hang out occasionally as friends.
     
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    RedvsBlack Well-Known Member

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    Go to a party find a girl letting random dudes do shots out of her belly button and say "I want to eat your pussy" it works depressingly well or if you're like me a new drunk girl shows up at your apartment every few weeks you make sure she gets home safely and she loves you forever despite your terrible terrible personality.
     
  17. chencking

    chencking [Daolord Grammar Nazi]

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    Is that your history or your wives'? How the heck did that happen?

    PS: You have my condolences...
     
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  18. JadeWhiteSkin

    JadeWhiteSkin please rescue~

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    mixed experiences for me:
    1. she was a bitch, i was naive
    2. she was naive but cute, I was a bitch
    3. she was best but died
    4. nice but kinda boring guy, I was kinda asshole-like
    5. she next best girl + sometimes annoying but still cute girl + nice guy, I was kinda not very responsive except for "next best girl"
    5. single since then and hopefully forever will be :blobhero:
     
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  19. Femme Fatale

    Femme Fatale | Sublime Goddess Of Chance |

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    Ugh women like that should have their legs tied together...or get shot by firing squad.... or both. :(

    I look for a sense of humor compatible with mine, intelligence and manners. The physical is not so important, I have dated handsome guys but they are not always interesting to hang around with so....it goes no where. That's okay cuz that is what dating is all about.
     
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  20. Viken

    Viken Well-Known Member

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    I agree, but the world is full of gold digging, unfaithful people. I'd rather hang out and be friends at the start then go on dates though. Or maybe you could call it courting instead. Lol.

    But given my status as a NEET, and where I live, it is very difficult to find good women around here. There's just too much pride, money, and prejudice running around. Ugh. I hate living in a major University town. >.<''
     
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