long story short: I apparently simultaneously dated and cheated on her without me knowing I was dating anyone in the first place.
I can't remember well the story about them its really short story Edit: i delete some cause seem they are not really important~ Spoiler: Spoiler it happen two time. A boy come and ask if i want to go out with him Spoiler: Spoiler He was the crush of my friends, i want to help her so became friends with him. He start to think i love him and then he sent me paper in class asking if i was interest Spoiler: Spoiler was a friends and one day when we where hiding. he say : you know someone of scholl name xxx love you. Me: but i only know you, who name like that?
You know the typical reason. They said I'm too good for them or I'm a nice guy. And the boys said they are interested on me? IDK the reason but I once heard my friends said my looks are suitable in gay porn lol.
On serious note I did have a few admirers during my time in college. Not sure though.because girls doesn't flirt as openly as boys. She just give me hints and gestures and talk to me differently. That kinda creeps me out so I just pretends that I never notice the hints. We're still friends though.
I got actively asked out in middle school once and that was it. My current relationship was baited by food... my bf knows me too well... then again we did know each other for years. I had to realize it when his sister and her boyfriend asked about the status quo. God I am a dense idiot and can no longer pick on my friend for being one either.
Remind me of my friend. She suddenly dated this guy she met back in high school after her ex-white boyfriend asked for space and then the relationship just never picked back up. Well, she got pregnant with this guy; and they got married 6 months into her pregnancy. According to her, this guy messaged her on FB; saying he used to admire her in high school. But it sounded like he didn't have the gut to ask her out or so. If you follow the entertainment industry, then yes--girls in the spotlights are into those kind of guys. If you want hard fact, I think not; or else we would be having a population issue. Oh. Wow. I wonder why he is not moving on, huh. You need to provide more detail on what ya mean by that? You seriously can't cheat if you're not dating; and you're not dating if you don't even know you're dating. She probably just felt hurt after you somehow "made her felt special." If that's the right way to put it. I don't know what would make you suitable for gay porn. Have never seen your picture dude, but it all feels like a stereotype to me. In fact, being gay has nothing to do with your character, how you carry yourself, or your physical traits. A perfectly healthly, athletic, and testosterone everywhere kind of guy can also be gay. My literature professor was manly in every way you can speak or think of, but he was gay and he was proud of it. But if you walked, act, or even appear like Nelsan Ellis, the black cook in True Blood, then I could kinda understand. People tend to associate those kind of behaviors to people who are gays; when in fact, it is more common or often display in the transgender and queer groups. I had this dude I enjoyed talking to, but sometimes when I chatted with him I had the feeling he was under the impression I liked him or something of that sort. He never out right said it, it was just a feeling on my part. Nowadays, whenever I see him, which is rarely, I still do greet him. Last time, he emitted out this I'm-awkward-aura, while I was total okay with greeting him. So, I assumed I was feeling it from him. Stop baiting me with vague stuff--Tell me more details! You got to explain how he baited you with food!
Well the difference is the WHOLE school knew I 'love' her maybe a deterrence for other guys ASIDE from her mom who was part of the school staff . I come from a conservative culture that always says study first before love life. Now 4 years after HS, here I am still no GF and the only silver lining is my first 'love' and only 'love' I ever had has the same circumstance although I probably wouldn't have a chance... I mean she's a damn model now and I'm currently a 'fat' guy reading novels and playing games.
I say, start that exercising plan to slim down and built some muscle--then you'll be ready to go. Dang. So negative.
Well the admirers I know of confessed when I was still fit. I'm starting to build my upper body. I played soccer in HS and had abs. My legs are fit but from waist till the arms I'm fat. I have a dad bod at 21 . I'm trying to get fit because my principle is if I'm not satisfied by my physical traits then I would do injustice to the girl I'm courting or will court. In my current state I can still probably get positive results from girls, and have positive results but most of them come from my 'intelligence and personality' .
1st one didnt try to court me at all, he told me he liked me and I just kinda put it to the back of my mind. We did grow apart after that though. 2nd one was a real creep, he made some really weird comments and was suicidal and we used to talk about some rather depressing topics. I straight up pushed him out of my life soon after. 3rd one was a friend of mine, she told me she liked me right before school ended that year but I didnt even have her number so sadly I couldn't stay in contact. 4th one, most recent one. He's a really straight forward guy and he doesnt sugarcoat things. He's still a super good friend of mine to this day. He told me he liked me over text, I told him it probably wouldn't work out as we live too far away at the time, (he used to live nearby but he moved) he kept gunning for me saying he would come back here to meet someday. And honestly I would have agreed to date him if he lived closer. He has recently told me he's gonna try to give up on me.
You know being gay in my country is likely frowned upon. In my country which dominantly muslim(I'm not muslim by the way), gay people cannot openly say they are gay to public except if you are a handsome dude or ikemen. Even this people cannot say they are gay so openly in the social media. Yes, they can say they are gay but it's only in their area like school or their private social circle. So many gay people in my school search the potential boyfriend/lover that has the excellent masculine physical trait and at least has a good look. So the fat, thin(malnourished), or ugly people is crossed out in their list and with many straight popular people already had couple. They searched a single male that has their standard and that comes to me, a single male with their standard. And if you want to know if I'm like a Nelsan Ellis in True Blood then the answer is no, I can say I am a normal man not feminime. Maybe I'm a little bit short and my face is a little feminime but my body is athletic. I always got straight A in P.E. The reason my friend tell me why I am suitable in gay porn is maybe its my characteristic that is a little submissive not a dominant one with the muslim thinking that male has to be the dominant people, my friend think my character is feminime coupled with my feminime( a little) face. My friend think that I'm suitable in gay porn.
As someone that went through 2 Long Distance Relationships already, I honestly have no idea why you feel that way towards online relationships. People you honestly talk to online in a frequent basis may many times know much more about you than people that have known you for years IRL. But well, as for me, I don't remember the details much anymore... I just remember that one of my admirers was being openly flirtatious to me at some point, and I was finally over my ex, so I wasn't exactly against it... I was scared of getting into another LDR though, so I was turning them down softly. They kept pursuing me and put a ring in my finger at one day and suddenly we were dating. Was honestly a wonderful relationship and I definitely don't regret accepting it, but... It was a pretty big surprise to me at the time~ *hugs Wofu-chan* Ganbatte!!! >.<
Reminded me of the scene from Kimi no Iru Machi where Mc got spit on his face by the boyfriend of the girl who had a misunderstanding that mc dated her.
*scratch my head* We are from two different cultures. Anyone here, in my small town in USA, can claim their sexual orientation as homosexual without needing to look like Bad Pitt (Brad Pitt) or the hottest football captain. The problem with dating, meeting, and chatting online is the filter people can do consciously or unconsciously. People can choose to be honest or entirely faked their personality. Pictures can be altered or taken at favorable angles. People can create an entire new persona with stolen pictures, and story telling. Even if people are honest, they still filter out the bad and tell mostly the good. Everything the other person tells you, could only build up an impression in your mind where your knowledge of them depends highly on the data they would disclose to you. Unless the other person is a professional spy, actor, or for whatever reason need to fake their identity from their look to their walking, you an pretty much sum it up that knowing someone is more than just them sharing their thoughts, stories, and description of their physical self; it has to include your own observation of their behaviors, their body gestures, the tone of their voice, the choice they made aware or unaware, the people they hang out with etc. There are those people who would not filter and who would tell you everything from the bad to the good and so on because talking to a screen or writing something without the need to face someone, is much easier than being in the presence of others. However, there are many, many, and I mean many people who filter themselves online daily; or there may be other barriers that the two individuals could be unaware of. Let me tell you a short story: I knew a guy who had a long distance relationship with a girl across the globe in Indonesia. They dated for a year until he went to see her. He was a white guy from America, where our culture of dating was much much intimate. The girl was not comfortable with holding hands or even letting him hug her. He was frustrated. On top of that, he had to deal with the culture difference. In addition, her English was perfect with all the correct grammars and usage of words, but her English enunciation were horrible. It was so much that he had a hard time understanding her. Now then--where was the love? It disappeared into thin air. Despite my opinion, there are successful relationship that started online. In the essence, it is up to the individuals. But there are many catfish in the sea, so beware.
Well, relationships are all about trust and being honest with your partner. If I'm looking to be serious about someone, I'll of course tell them both my goods and bads. If it's just talking to randoms in the internet, I generally do filter some of my actions though, but that doesn't mean I'd filter with my significant other, and I would expect the person I'm caring for to do the same. Cultural differences can indeed be troubling though, but I think it can be solved by talking things out in advance? I mean, if you don't know the other's culture, the best thing to do is asking. Things can be worked out somehow... Her accent being strong was a matter of getting used to it I guess, they could have done some voice chats in advance to try getting things better. Lastly, for catfishes... Again, a relationship is based on trust, anyone can take whatever persona they want online, but once we're talking about something more serious, I expect them to open up to me and explain their circumstances. It's all about common sense I guess? You can't be in a serious relationship if you don't talk about yourself properly...