Okay. But still, you should have said, “you told your friend that you were too shy to talk to me.” Not directly saying it, and no “lol”s or “haha”s. It’s the same as though if I called myself a “piece of s—,” that’s okay. But if you then say, “you’re a piece of s—, lol,” that’s not okay. Extreme example, but I hope it gets the point across?
Yep, now I'm 99% sure she realized she overreacted and was just trying to escape the awkward situation she caused lol.
Yea.. They might actually need 3rd or 4th people to at very least defuse the initial awkwardness. Most likely just a normal 1st convo haywire. But I think it's better to have more people around as they get to more rather than forcing a one on one convo when they're practically misunderstanding each other & giving a bad impression to each other.
Yeah, I think you can safely rule the flirting theory out. It's a little awkward that she asked who you were in such a blunt way after already talking, too... Maybe she's also bad at socialising. I'd say the others are probably right, then: you came across as rude accidentally, she took it a little hard and overreacted, and either was annoyed enough to just want to leave or embarrassed at overreacting and left because of that. Men in gaming communities do have a very bad reputation for being whiny, entitled, and dickish to women, though. (Mostly because so many men in them are... Just. So. Many.) You might be a great guy, but that reputation will work to make you seem worse than you are when you make these mistakes.
Bro she and her friend were joking about it almost like an inside joke and going by the way you structured your sentence you and her arent friends and you acted like you were close enough with her to joke about her shyness. Also def passive-aggresive.
my guess is she didn't want to socialize in the first place; short sentences, bluntly pointing out she didn't know who you were, etc. when she did remember it was just a single "oh," showing a lack of interest. when you kept pressing she got annoyed.
Her initial response implied she had no interest in you. Her continued -unwarranted -bitchiness was meant to deter you from speaking with her anymore. In other words, move along. I'm guessing from her previous behavior when y'all met, she wasn't shy. She just didn't want to talk with you. It's fine because some people play around instead of just being honest.
This one wonders if people would be interested in my thoughts on online dating and how to treat women in general on line. Please note that I'm likely twice your age and have experience in both offline and online dating, both of which lead to living with said woman for multiple years. If not feel free to ignore the spoiler Spoiler: Online etiquette, or how to treat a woman online. First off I just wana state that both my ex-wife and the ex-girlfriend were online gamers. I introduced the wife to games, and well, I met the girlfriend online in a game so her being one should be obvious xD That being said, you're better off just ignoring most of the woman online for any number of reasons. For starters, they just want to game and are most likely not there to hook up with guys. Otoh, is said chicka is actively seeking Male companionship, you're better off staying far away from her. It's either a play to get freebies or someone that is only wanting attention. In both cases they are likely talking to 40 other guys on the side. So you are better off just treating everyone online the same. The only time its actually ok to approach someone online for more then just a pug, is after you've gotten to know them for a while. Either partying for a solid month, someone that you've spent a lot of time chatting up in guild chat, or similarly on viop programs. Be ready to be shut down, and dont complain or push things if they do so. They likely have a boyfriend already and you being a dick is just like taking a massive dump in the swimming pool at a pool party. Honestly dont expect to find love online. Even if you get lucky, it will likely take you more then a year of being no more the just a friend before you are looked at as possible dating material. The girlfriend I knew for more then 4 years before we started dating online. Infact I didnt have a very high opinion of her for the majority of that time. One evening I logged into an old TS voip server and we started chatting again. Then after somewhat more then a year of video calls, online dating and playing games together, we moved in together. Like I said, dont expect it to happen quickly. There are so many assholes, catfish, and creepers online that both parties need to be careful. Times have also changed since I've been actively dating. Everyone seems so much more jaded, and have hardened their hearts to those online. So if you're actually serious about online dating, be patient and aware that those online are less likely to be interested in a horny teen that thinks he is hot shit. Just a small side note, Anything inside the spoiler is not aimed at the OP. It just seemed somewhat appropriate to the over all direction of the conversation.
I feel that 'oh' she replied means ' i remember but its not a good memory' and then the '"oh" lol' came across as making fun of her and on top of that not good memory.. Though I feel that she's already in a bad mood before you talked to her.
As some others maybe have mentioned, you screwed up at/after "oh as in I remember"; should have tried to defuse it / explained your ""oh" lol"; also, shouldn't have added the "hehe" before trying to explain the whole jerk thing, and apologized for the misunderstanding there or after. - Basically, your replies were too short, after your 'introduction', until you were explaining yourself, but you went about it the wrong way. -- Basically, you were guarding, when you should have parried. TL;DR: You didn't read the flow of the convo correctly, and missed the... turning point(?) at "oh as in I remember" and "but yeah please be a jerk about my reply". Spoiler: In-Depth 'take' Imo, you were tone was neutral till the whole 'shy' part, at which point you swapped to 'casual', and kept it even though she had indicated she doesn't remember you. Tack on, you didn't change it, even after she showed signs of irritation, until she basically insulted you. From there, you just kept trying to defend/explain yourself, even after she indicated you to drop the subject. Btw, did you mess up the order? The last convo, after the text "BTW" seemed like it should have been first
Just 2 people having misunderstandings, a conversation is usually topic, content, tone, facial expressions and direction. The chat can only achieve topic and content, direction on the other hand wasnt achieved cause OP didnt express his intension, like "we knew each other back then lets play like the old times".
I'm also confused why you would find the "oh" offensive. That person is too thin skinned and sensitive.