Discussion Question For The Females Of NUF.

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Prolux, May 1, 2019.

  1. Anra7777

    Anra7777 All powerful magic grammar hamster queen pirate.

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    Okay. But still, you should have said, “you told your friend that you were too shy to talk to me.” Not directly saying it, and no “lol”s or “haha”s. It’s the same as though if I called myself a “piece of s—,” that’s okay. But if you then say, “you’re a piece of s—, lol,” that’s not okay. Extreme example, but I hope it gets the point across?
     
  2. Prolux

    Prolux [Specifically Lazy] [Weirdly Motivated]

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    Had been about 2 minutes since the last we talked.
     
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  3. Innieminnie

    Innieminnie Secret Parrot, Hidden Dodo

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    Yep, now I'm 99% sure she realized she overreacted and was just trying to escape the awkward situation she caused lol.
     
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  4. Kirill

    Kirill New Member

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    Yea.. They might actually need 3rd or 4th people to at very least defuse the initial awkwardness. Most likely just a normal 1st convo haywire. But I think it's better to have more people around as they get to more rather than forcing a one on one convo when they're practically misunderstanding each other & giving a bad impression to each other.
     
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  5. Moonpearl

    Moonpearl Professional Yuri Girl ❀ [Yuri Garden Creator]

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    Yeah, I think you can safely rule the flirting theory out. It's a little awkward that she asked who you were in such a blunt way after already talking, too...
    Maybe she's also bad at socialising. I'd say the others are probably right, then: you came across as rude accidentally, she took it a little hard and overreacted, and either was annoyed enough to just want to leave or embarrassed at overreacting and left because of that.

    Men in gaming communities do have a very bad reputation for being whiny, entitled, and dickish to women, though. (Mostly because so many men in them are... Just. So. Many.) You might be a great guy, but that reputation will work to make you seem worse than you are when you make these mistakes.
     
  6. JuuHachi

    JuuHachi Be My Glucose Guardian

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    Bro she and her friend were joking about it almost like an inside joke and going by the way you structured your sentence you and her arent friends and you acted like you were close enough with her to joke about her shyness. Also def passive-aggresive.
     
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  7. checkman123

    checkman123 [Nez] [The Bystander][RAWR FEAR ME]

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    yup just get the fk out of that
     
  8. rhianirory

    rhianirory Well-Known Member

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    my guess is she didn't want to socialize in the first place; short sentences, bluntly pointing out she didn't know who you were, etc. when she did remember it was just a single "oh," showing a lack of interest. when you kept pressing she got annoyed.
     
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  9. Miss Ruby

    Miss Ruby 『Candy Floss』『Black Blood』 『❄️Ice Princess❄️』

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    She doesn't really seem in the mood to chat to me. That's prolly one of the issues here.
     
  10. MsKumiko

    MsKumiko Well-Known Member

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    Her initial response implied she had no interest in you. Her continued -unwarranted -bitchiness was meant to deter you from speaking with her anymore. In other words, move along. I'm guessing from her previous behavior when y'all met, she wasn't shy. She just didn't want to talk with you. It's fine because some people play around instead of just being honest.
     
  11. BigBadBoi

    BigBadBoi Well-Known Member

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    Maybe you're a filthy yasuo main lol.

    Plz I'm joking don't kill me
     
  12. Miserys_End

    Miserys_End 「Lv1 Pretend Person」I'm the preson i pretend to be

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    This one wonders if people would be interested in my thoughts on online dating and how to treat women in general on line. Please note that I'm likely twice your age and have experience in both offline and online dating, both of which lead to living with said woman for multiple years. If not feel free to ignore the spoiler

    First off I just wana state that both my ex-wife and the ex-girlfriend were online gamers. I introduced the wife to games, and well, I met the girlfriend online in a game so her being one should be obvious xD

    That being said, you're better off just ignoring most of the woman online for any number of reasons. For starters, they just want to game and are most likely not there to hook up with guys. Otoh, is said chicka is actively seeking Male companionship, you're better off staying far away from her. It's either a play to get freebies or someone that is only wanting attention. In both cases they are likely talking to 40 other guys on the side. So you are better off just treating everyone online the same.

    The only time its actually ok to approach someone online for more then just a pug, is after you've gotten to know them for a while. Either partying for a solid month, someone that you've spent a lot of time chatting up in guild chat, or similarly on viop programs. Be ready to be shut down, and dont complain or push things if they do so. They likely have a boyfriend already and you being a dick is just like taking a massive dump in the swimming pool at a pool party.

    Honestly dont expect to find love online. Even if you get lucky, it will likely take you more then a year of being no more the just a friend before you are looked at as possible dating material. The girlfriend I knew for more then 4 years before we started dating online. Infact I didnt have a very high opinion of her for the majority of that time. One evening I logged into an old TS voip server and we started chatting again. Then after somewhat more then a year of video calls, online dating and playing games together, we moved in together. Like I said, dont expect it to happen quickly. There are so many assholes, catfish, and creepers online that both parties need to be careful.

    Times have also changed since I've been actively dating. Everyone seems so much more jaded, and have hardened their hearts to those online. So if you're actually serious about online dating, be patient and aware that those online are less likely to be interested in a horny teen that thinks he is hot shit.

    Just a small side note,
    Anything inside the spoiler is not aimed at the OP. It just seemed somewhat appropriate to the over all direction of the conversation.
     
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  13. MangoGuy

    MangoGuy Rambling Mango

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    Gaming chats are scary...
     
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  14. drealicious

    drealicious Macho man's wifey

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    I feel that 'oh' she replied means ' i remember but its not a good memory' and then the '"oh" lol' came across as making fun of her and on top of that not good memory..

    Though I feel that she's already in a bad mood before you talked to her.
     
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  15. EnerHighwave

    EnerHighwave Holy Daugther of Kyuu 8❤️ Speedy's pet Lovely's ❤️

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    Well ... pretty much all that needed to be said was posted by the time I got here
     
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  16. Princess Sun

    Princess Sun 『New Generation Sun Knight』 『Princess of Light』

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    Im a girl and i don't know what happened how did that girl got offended?
     
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  17. SageRozenburg

    SageRozenburg [Not a pervert][Not Suspicious]

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    You should have left with "who are you again?"
    Edit: If she didnt remember you, move on.
     
  18. Blankdom

    Blankdom Unknown

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    As some others maybe have mentioned, you screwed up at/after "oh as in I remember"; should have tried to defuse it / explained your ""oh" lol"; also, shouldn't have added the "hehe" before trying to explain the whole jerk thing, and apologized for the misunderstanding there or after.
    - Basically, your replies were too short, after your 'introduction', until you were explaining yourself, but you went about it the wrong way. -- Basically, you were guarding, when you should have parried.

    TL;DR: You didn't read the flow of the convo correctly, and missed the... turning point(?) at "oh as in I remember" and "but yeah please be a jerk about my reply".

    Imo, you were tone was neutral till the whole 'shy' part, at which point you swapped to 'casual', and kept it even though she had indicated she doesn't remember you. Tack on, you didn't change it, even after she showed signs of irritation, until she basically insulted you. From there, you just kept trying to defend/explain yourself, even after she indicated you to drop the subject.

    Btw, did you mess up the order? The last convo, after the text "BTW" seemed like it should have been first
     
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  19. SageRozenburg

    SageRozenburg [Not a pervert][Not Suspicious]

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    Just 2 people having misunderstandings, a conversation is usually topic, content, tone, facial expressions and direction.
    The chat can only achieve topic and content, direction on the other hand wasnt achieved cause OP didnt express his intension, like "we knew each other back then lets play like the old times".
     
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  20. rosyprimrose

    rosyprimrose Well-Known Member

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    I'm also confused why you would find the "oh" offensive. That person is too thin skinned and sensitive.