I was throwing random useless trinkets to trash today when I found some stuff my ex gave me years ago. Not sure what to do with it, it's not useful or valuable and I don't wanna seem pathetic and clingy to the past coz I'm not, but I feel it's a shame to throw it away because it reminds me of happy times. The items in question are a postcard, a photo, 2 books, bookmark and a plushy, what do you guys do with your ex's stuff? Also I have a t-shirt from her dad, it's really nice and I wore it a few times but stopped coz it would be incredibly awkward if I met her somewhere while wearing it.
In order to have an ex, you first need to have a girlfriend. Since I'm unable to pass the first step, let alone having an ex, I don't know. Since I'm a pretty materialistic guy, all I can say is, sell the things that can be sold.
I would keep the plushy and recycle the paper. but it's opinion coming from a girl who's never dated.
Use the postcard front as a room decor-put it in a framr... Books... donate it? If you dont read it but if you read or it has nice cover for decoration purpose-just keep it Plushy...you can use it for pillows while watching tv right? For tshirt.... use it for a mop..to wipe a spilled milk or juice for example or find ways to revamp it.. youtube sir I still keep my ex's stuff cause I dont care-they're just adorables,nobody knows where or from whom I got those stuffs anyway~~
The shirt and books can be donated to your local library or something that accepts donations. Post card, just put it in a photo album or reuse it. Bookmark just put it inside one of the books. Well my ex's stuff are usually just photos so i just crammed them inside a box then threw it at the attic.
For the t-shirt, if you really like it just wear it. If you meet your ex and she recognizes it say "Wait... you memorized all your dad's old cloths?" and give here a weirded out look while backing away slowly. She'll be too busy defending herself to make an issue out of it.
rule of thumb is.... female, throw all his shit out. or on the lawn. male, gently pack it up and put outside your door.leave her a msg or txt. women are crazy when you throw their stuff out.
Yeah no, she gave me the shirt coz he didn't wear it and it's a bit unique, she wouldn't react like that. I'll just give it to someone. It's been years and it's not her stuff, but her gifts to me, both was obvious from my post.
I collected all stuff without further use and put it into a box somewhere in my room. Why would I burn it? It's so full of sentiments and memories. That said, I haven't looked at the box ever since either.
They're gifts, why would I return gifts and after years have passed? I was just okay with the dude, she gave me the shirt he didn't wear.
At the end of the day, you are asking the wrong question. This is what you should be asking Would you, yourself, be okay if your current lover is keeping a belonging/gift from their ex?
If they're gift then why bother thinking hard on it ? Use as you fit. You can even throw or give them away and none would complaint.
I was going to say simply burn the stuff, but other people have already said it. So here's an alternative I just thought of: 1. Find your ex's house 2. Get a bow and arrow 3. Put your ex's stuff on the arrows 4. Shoot them at the house (and if you're ex was a terrible person) Set the stuff on fire before you shoot them In reality it'd probably be best to donate the stuff. Selling them seems too cold if you do have happy memories, and someone else could make good use of the stuff.