So my Grandmother passed away on Monday....

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  1. HiroBlaze

    HiroBlaze Well-Known Member

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    Honestly my maternal grandmother had diabetes and low blood sugar. She's been feeling depressed ever since my uncle and grandfather passed away 2-3 years ago. My uncle died suddenly back then and then 2 weeks later my grandfather died (who was already ill with renal kidney disease and internal bleeding). My Uncle grave's was very close to her home and she would periodically go to her son's grave (my maternal uncle) and cry there almost every day. My relatives and I did not want to her to stay at that house full of memories at all, but she wanted to stay despite it all.

    I have been feeling down, I'm not the type to cry in public or wail loudly, but feel like I'm in daze and sigh quite often.

    So I need some activities to cheer me up or others. Anime? Games? Stuff you do as family? Etc...
     
  2. Scholar Occult Cauldron

    Scholar Occult Cauldron Bonk Maestro | Ascended

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    My condolences for your loss.
    Rather than recommending something like reading novels or anime, I would say to be together with family and try to do something that would help bring closure to the deaths in your family. Not only for yourself, but also for your family. Try doing something that will help preserve the memories of your deceased loved ones and not let them be forgotten in the river of time. Learn of the stories of your loved ones, so that you may pass them on to future generations.
    We live forever so long as we are not forgotten and the impacts of our lives change the world around us, regardless of how minor it may be.
     
  3. Beer_Kitty

    Beer_Kitty Just a very very drunk kitty that likes beer

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    Cry it out. Even if you just lock yourself inside your room or something. Keeping it in will only make it worse.
    Then try to go outside, going out with friends or lover will do you good.
     
  4. Anra7777

    Anra7777 All powerful magic grammar hamster queen pirate.

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    Listening to the podcast “Wait, Wait, Don’t Tell Me” helped me get through the death of my mother.

    I also made the mistake of thinking watching “Tangled” would be a good, fluffy choice to comfort me. Boy, was that a mistake.
     
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  5. Wujigege

    Wujigege *Christian*SIMP*Comedian

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    My condolences.
    Don't be alone and be active so you don't get depressed.
    Don't mourn their deaths but celebrate their lives.
    All the cool things they did
     
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    My condolences :blobcry:
    I am not sure what to say here, stuff to do as family, maybe watch a 'Harry Potter' movie together :blobsweat_2:
     
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  7. HiroBlaze

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    Well on Monday and Tuesday family and friends were coming over every other hour. I'm not the one grieving the most though, its actually my mom was loudly wailing initially.

    I usually seek out entertainment for escapism like video games under stress. Or just buy stuff to feel full like food that I normally don't buy.

    But yeah, I plan to exercise intensively too like riding a bike.

    Why was it mistake? I thought it had a happy ending. The evil witch lady?
     
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    Condolences
     
  9. Wujigege

    Wujigege *Christian*SIMP*Comedian

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    By the way, when my grandpa died a few years back. I was in another country and didn't cry but it affected me worse than I could imagine.
    I thought I was fine because I didn't cry but I wasn't.
    I cried years later.
    Regardless, of how you think you are. Speak to someone eg a grief counselor.
    Cheers!
     
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    elengee Daoist Ninefaps

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    I'm sure her spirit ascended to the Divine Realm.:blobsalute:
     
  11. Anra7777

    Anra7777 All powerful magic grammar hamster queen pirate.

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    Yeah, the fact that the villain was the “mother.”
     
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    When I'm stressed out, I like to watch some movies or youtube videos.
    I found that reading or listening to music or even playing games doesn't help, my thoughts would run wild and I'll be depressed again...
     
  13. Sabruness

    Sabruness Cultured Yuri Connoisseur

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    I can understand the feeling. When my mum passed away suddenly in 2014, i felt like i was in a daze for a while where i just didnt feel right. It took a while for me to get out of the funk.
     
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    replay ★Milk and Honey smelling Merchant★

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    my condolence to you and for your family. . . .
    finding something new to do will only avert things for a while and will not cure it,
    it is better to let it out and cry it out,
    and always remember that she still lives within you,
    trust me it is better to accept it move forward, easy to say but hard to do, but welp it is the best thing to do,


    PS: try invisible dragon. . .
    Watch anime's like Usagi Drop, Clannad, and the likes,

    jokes aside, condolence,
     
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    ElefantVerd It's not me, and it's not you.

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    My condolences for your loss. I can only begin to imagine what you're going through.

    Being in a daze and sighing quite often may be a sign you're in depression and pain. Escapism is another sign you may be in depression.

    Maybe you should talk to a professional, just in case. It's normal to get depressed, as is getting some professional help to deal with it.
     
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    My condolences. They will be miss.

    I like these songs when remembering the past, but be warned their sad.





     
  17. Kuro_0ni

    Kuro_0ni Cocooned in a Life transition

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    May you and your family find solace with your loss and the strength to carry on.
     
  18. Mount Tai Unleashed

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    When was the funeral? Yesterday I went to the funeral of my mothers brother paul. He had a few mental problems and was quite the scary man when I last saw him when I was about 6, but considering the huge crowd at his funeral it looks like he was well loved.
     
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    You have my condolense
     
  20. HiroBlaze

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    It was overseas, so it should have been on Tuesday Morning. I heard there was a huge crowd of family and friends. Her grandchildren were the one's that buried her.