[Poll] Would you sleep with your friend?

My own answers:

1. Would you agree to share a bed with Ringo-san? Why or why not?
I'm really hesitant about this. The main issue for me is that I think I fall in love with people super easily, and if I agreed it would basically be like asking me to end up developing romantic feelings for my friend. I might agree anyways at least once or twice to give him a chance, but I'd have a lot of serious concerns going in. I do really like having someone in bed with me in general though, but I would prefer it to be a significant other of mine....

2. If Ringo-san offered money, would you that change your answer? How much would you need to be paid for you to consider it?
I wouldn't want money from Ringo-san! >.<

3. What would your advice to Ringo-san be?
I would say that Tinder is preferable over an escort agency. I don't have any experience with Tinder personally, but I think people are quite upfront there if they're only looking for friends with benefits. I think he would just need to be clear from the beginning what his expectations are. The advantage of Tinder (imo) is that there's a chance to progress the relationship if Ringo-san ends up growing and moving on, whereas you'll never buy the friendship/feelings of an escort.

4. What's your opinion of the bedtime escort agency? If you were recruited to be an employee the bedtime escort agency, would you ever consider it?
It's interesting? (I mean, I know I wrote it XD ...but it's also taken straight from Shima Shima) I don't think I would realistically ever consider it, but if there was a reset button to life I think it would be interesting to try it for the heck of it. A lot of the clients portrayed in Shima Shima are really interesting, and I have a hobby for meeting strange people so it fits along the themes of one of my interests.

 

1. Would you agree to share a bed with Ringo-san? Why or why not?
I don't mind~ as long as the bed is big and fluffy! I have a friend who would let me stay over and share their bed when I had to work overtime and their apartment was two blocks away from my workplace. We also shared the bed with two kitties. But since I'm married now, I guess I wouldn't be able to be there 24/7 so maybe 3-4 times a week until they get over their loneliness?

2. If Ringo-san offered money, would you that change your answer? How much would you need to be paid for you to consider it?
Nope. If they insist too much on giving money I would just turn it into something to give it back to them, like food, new appliances or bedsheets, etc.

3. What would your advice to Ringo-san be?
I would let them take their time to heal but also suggest some new hobbies or maybe adopt a pet?

4. What's your opinion of the bedtime escort agency? If you were recruited to be an employee the bedtime escort agency, would you ever consider it?
...I honestly want to be paid to sleep but I have a bad habit of drooling on my pillow when I'm too tired (Don't judge me, I always wash it afterward, ok? I even bought one that can be put directly in the washing machine without deforming it ). I don't know why but when I consciously want to take a nap like in a flight or train ride, I can just cross my arms, inflate the neck pillow and lay back and sleep without moving. But if I'm just too tired and faint, I always get all sloppy and end up drooling on the desk, book, pillow...whatever is in front of me.

 

just sleeping and not doing anything is not really bothersome -.-
i would just ask her to make me dinner in exchange.
but if she is too far away from my work place/university i would tell her to sleep at my place (the dinner is still mandatory) or no deal!
if you wonder why i want some payment, it is because if you don't ask for anything she would feel bad ~
(and i am too lazy to cook)

 

1. No. I'm a bit naive/easily deceived and 5 years of friendship didn't convince me enough to be physically so close with the opposite gender just the two of us together in a room where mistakes and happy accidents could happen.
2. Perhaps will reconsider. if i was in a really really desperate situation or need the money. with some rules and agreements to follow by.
3. Get a single sized bed to lessen the free space; or get a pet, better to have a chosen fluffy companion than a random person with risk; or ask another trusty friend; or maybe turn the house as share house, more income and the house is not as lonely; if nothing works, well okay try those medication, just don't get too dependant on it; if all fail, well sure whatever your lonely soul wish for, get that agency service, just be careful okay.
4. I'm wary, yet intrigued. but not enough curiosity could make me throw my money on them.

 

Having slept in the same bed as my husband for the past several years, I can sort of understand. The first few years were hard, as my quality of sleep went way down. Now I’m kind of used to it, and it feels really weird if I wake up and he’s not there. It’s not about talking or cuddling like a lot of people here seem to think, it’s that just someone’s physical presence within two feet of you makes a huge difference.

So, if for some odd reason I wasn’t sleeping with my husband, would I sleep with Ringo-san? Probably no. I would rejoice at the fact that I can readjust to sleeping alone again (so long as the loss of my husband wasn’t sad) and can get back my former quality of sleep. I wouldn’t have to worry about someone snoring and waking me up, or someone getting up on the middle of the night and waking me up, or someone opening the door really loudly and waking me up, all things that happen on a regular basis. Viva sleeping alone!

 

Not worth it, that wouldn't be just a one time thing. You could wake each other up and mess up your sleep, you could have embarrasing moments, the one who sleeps less and lighter would have to take care not to wake the other one in the morning, sharing of the bathroom, need for your stuff and getting to work from a worse location possibly, your own dating life ofc, feeling like a stranger in someone's house in the morning, being woken by their shitty alarm when you still have plenty of time for your own alarm, and they're sleeping like a log and not reacting...

 

We're best friends, it's a no-brainer. Heck, I might've already been crashing on their couch bed during the divorce! (It's a long process, right?)

But even if we're just close friends, it means that I trust them a lot and am comfortable with them. I'll suggest we do a test run first (maybe a night, then a week, and so on) to see if we don't have any complaints with each other's sleeping habits. Tbh I haven't experienced sleeping next to someone of the opposite gender (that's not a kid) yet but I'm squishy soft when it comes to people close to me. I'll do my best to help them out if they need me. Besides, sleep overs! They're fun!

No, money has no business butting into our friendship~ Ringo-san, how many sleepless nights have you gone through to even offer that?!?! *huggles tightly*

Sell the house if it only has bad memories associated with it and/or move into a smaller, cozier one. Heck, they can move in with me if they want to!

If they absolutely have to live in that house...hmm...what do they think about homeshares or homestays for students?

To be honest, I would definitely find it shady, no matter how good its reputation is. It's just...I mean, come on. You and a stranger alone in your house while you're sleeping? And no, I won't consider it unless I'm desperate for a job.

 

1. Yes, though be warned I snore and have strange sleeping habits....
2. Maybe, mostly because I would feel guilty because of the above.
3. Try getting a roommate. Even if they're not in the same room, having another person around might alleviate to loneliness.
4. Sounds sketchy as hell... even if it's not a front for a theft ring or escorts service, I would be worried about an over handsy client. To much could go wrong on either side to make it a viable business.

 

1. Would you agree to share a bed with Ringo-san? Why or why not?
NO and I'd rather not say why.

2. If Ringo-san offered money, would you that change your answer? How much would you need to be paid for you to consider it?
Definitely not.

3. What would your advice to Ringo-san be?
It actually sounds like something where therapy might be required to help them get over it especially if she is considering going to some weird ass website to help her with her problem. Also sleep issues really should be taken extremely seriously and not just dealt with willy nilly!

I've seen some people mention pets but if you are suggesting getting a pet to someone whom is likely not feeling very well or some such and they end up not taking care of it/it doesn't help they will often end up in the pound or such and that's terrible to both the person and the animal. Please don't suggest it!

4. What's your opinion of the bedtime escort agency? If you were recruited to be an employee the bedtime escort agency, would you ever consider it?
IMO I'm pretty sure that at the price charged it does sound like some sort of ploy especially if it's a girl just sleeping with a guy. Secondly you can hire a prostitute for the same thing anyway they might be more expensive but well it's probably safer due to the fact that you are paying them more + for them it's easy money.

 

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Don't worry, I drool on my pillow every day, I'm well used to it~

I also have a weird habit of chewing on my blanket, so it also gets filled with drool... >.>

 

1. Probably not. I have sleep apnea, snore, and often wake up in the middle of the night. I would not be a good cuddle buddy.

2. same as 1.

3. + 4. cuddle companies can be legit. Just gotta do research. Honestly, strangers aren't that much more dangerous compared to people you think you know. You just feel safer with the latter because of the way our stupid minds work.

Also, gotta point out, this would probably lead to cohabitation, and rooming with friends can be a mixed bag. Gotta redraw boundaries and delegate responsibilities, or it'd proly end with one person getting sick of his/her end of the deal, ruining the friendship. It's the same reason I try not to be too friendly with neighbors : so they don't take me for granted and still take me into consideration instead of assuming I'd be ok with it because "we're cool"

ringo might want to adopt a dog

 

1. Would you agree to share a bed with Ringo-san? Why or why not?
This is a hard answer cause you know opposite gender~ but yes I even sleepover with my male best friend many time before though not the same bed so....
2. If Ringo-san offered money, would you that change your answer? How much would you need to be paid for you to consider it?
no I don't need money but if Ringo-san make food then pay me with the food please!
3. What would your advice to Ringo-san be?
Gambatte?
4. What's your opinion of the bedtime escort agency? If you were recruited to be an employee the bedtime escort agency, would you ever consider it
if the costumer is female then yes I will~

 

What is "a decent and open friendship"? I only found websites that talked about "open relationships" that had sexual denotations to them. Anyways, on to the questions.

1. Would you agree to share a bed with Ringo-san? Why or why not?
I would disagree. I toss and turn a lot in bed, so I would probably ruin any friendship I had with Ringo-san if we shared a bed.
2. If Ringo-san offered money, would you that change your answer? How much would you need to be paid for you to consider it?
I would not change my answer for money, but how much does Ringo-san make? I do not know if I could be actual friends with someone who has way more socioeconomic status than me.
3. What would your advice to Ringo-san be?
I would suggest living in a dorm with friends. If she's lonely, then having more friends around should alleviate some of her loneliness. Also, as @Westeller pointed out, a dakimakura might help.
4. What's your opinion of the bedtime escort agency? If you were recruited to be an employee the bedtime escort agency, would you ever consider it?
It sounds shady, but I think I remember reading an article about bedtime escort agencies. The agencies are really strict and have very good regulations on employees in the contracts, though I might be wrong.

 

If I was married and that friend was my wife, yes!

 

Yes.
It's just sharing a bed. If he's a really close friend I would do it. I'm guessing if he's sharing such a weird story about himself with me, we must be really close!?!!

Won't take money from a friend for such a thing. But I'll need breakfast, and I'm not making it.

Find a hobby maybe? To listen to music or read a book until he falls asleep.

It's too risky.
I won't. Doing it for a friend is different.