[Poll] If your fiancé(e)'s soul merged with someone else...

This poll is inspired by @Momoyuki

Once upon a time, imagine that you had a wonderful romantic relationship with someone whom you were prepared to marry. You had already gotten engaged, and both of you were in the process of getting married. The wedding date is set in six months.

However, #plot happened and your fiancé(e) got roped into various troubles.

I'm glazing over the details, but basically your fiancé(e) became the tragic protagonist of an action story. A bunch of super-villains, lasers, magical girls, betrayals, "I am your father" situations, zombie apocalypses, and end-of-the-world crisis events occurred and your fiancé(e) was an essential player in saving the world.

However, since it is a tragedy, your fiancé(e) ended up dead at the end of it.

Wait, dead?

So sudden? Yup. Dead.

Your fiancé(e) is dead and you attended the funeral.



However, a day after the funeral, your fiancé(e)'s best friend comes to you and reveals that actually your fiancé(e) arranged to have his/her soul merge with the best friend in case of death. Consequently, "Best Friend" (merged) is currently carrying the combined souls and memories of two people that fused together.

"Best Friend" (merged) tells you that s/he still has feelings for you, and would still like to marry you. However, s/he understands if you're turned off by it since s/he is 50% not the same person as your fiancé(e) from before. However, "Best Friend" (merged) wanted to inform you that your fiancé(e)'s soul is still alive, albeit a bit altered.

You have never had feelings for your fiancé(e)'s "Best Friend" in the past. You are not attracted to "Best Friend's" physical appearance (which is average), and you were completely uninterested in them in the past. In fact, you know very little about your fiancé(e)'s "Best Friend" (original).

However... now your fiancé(e)'s soul is fused there.......?​

1. What would your reaction be to hearing this?

2. Would you date, get engaged, or married to "Best Friend" (fused with your fiancé(e)'s soul)?

3. If your fiancé(e) body swapped with someone else, would you still date your fiancé(e)?

4. If your fiancé(e) got genderbent, would you still stay in the relationship?

5. If your fiancé(e) inserted their soul into an animal or inanimate object (e.g. cat or plushie), what would you do?

 

1. Be dumbstruck

2. No because said fiancé and i wouldve fallen out of love by the time fiancé saved the world.

3. yes. So long as fiancé is the same and doesnt go crazy over the fact of a different body

4. Yes. Same conditions as 3.

5. try to get them out.

 

1. What would your reaction be to hearing this?
If I hadn’t known about what my fiancé were up to, I’d be pretty freaked out. As it is, I’d probably still be really freaked out. And upset that he didn’t tell me immediately, but instead waited until after the funeral. Jerk move, there.
2. Would you date, get engaged, or married to "Best Friend" (fused with your fiancé(e)'s soul)?
I don’t know. I met my hubby’s best friend once, and frankly I think my straight hubby has more chemistry with him than the best friend and I did. I really don’t know. I might go back to dating, just to see if I could tolerate the differences.
3. If your fiancé(e) body swapped with someone else, would you still date your fiancé(e)?
I think my answer’s probably the same as number 2.
4. If your fiancé(e) got genderbent, would you still stay in the relationship?
We’ve had this conversation. If he were genderbent, I’m pretty sure I could still love him. The same can not be said if I were the one genderbent, sadly.
5. If your fiancé(e) inserted their soul into an animal or inanimate object (e.g. cat), what would you do?
In a way that might be easier than the body merge? At least I wouldn’t be expected to be intimate and such with what is essentially a stranger’s body.

 

Well, if there is a way to fuse them, there is definitely a way to separate them but why would the fiancé()e go for their best friend's body is there a missing link here (like a secret lover or something) ?

 

Buy one get two? I'm sold.
___
Joking aside, marriage is mainly about commitment, not pure love.
So as long as both of you are committed to go through life together, then I see no reason to not marry ‘them’

 

Lychee, go to work, or study, or have sex. Failing that, go watch porn. You're spending way too much time on NUF.

Anyway, Ai-chan's answer is, "Is she hot?"

 

That’s... pretty rude.

 

you’ve got pink butterflies flying around in your head, @Ai chan , don’t you?

pink, butterflies...pink, nymphomaniac butterflies...

 

I’m okay with this! *hugs Anra-sensei* Thank you for worrying about me!

 

1. What would your reaction be to hearing this?
Absolute disbelief before I calm down start asking questions and see if things check out.

2. Would you date, get engaged, or married to "Best Friend" (fused with your fiancé(e)'s soul)?
I would try dating and see if I can deal with any differences that result from the soul merge and body swap.

3. If your fiancé(e) body swapped with someone else, would you still date your fiancé(e)?
It honestly depends on their new body. If they are just average or even below average or higher then I could deal with it but if they are hideous then I give up. I know that what's inside is the most important but without a decent enough outside it would be torture for me.

4. If your fiancé(e) got genderbent, would you still stay in the relationship?
I would try to find a way to change them back but if that doesn't work then as a straight male I would leave.

5. If your fiancé(e) inserted their soul into an animal or inanimate object (e.g. cat), what would you do?
Same as 4 try to change them back but even if it doesn't work I would stay with them and make them a part of my life as best as I can since there isn't a need to worry about sex or other matters.

For all of these questions, you have to realize that you are no longer dealing with the person you knew and loved but someone else. Even if they have the same memories or soul, a new body will cause many things to change. It isn't like a disability; a new body would result in things like different talents, different abilities, different hormonal levels, different genetics and so forth which will end up influencing them and changing them in a rapid and drastic manner. I probably would not be able to deal with major changes like that although I would try but there is only so much I can handle before calling it quits. Unfortunately, my love is not unconditional no matter how I wish it was.

 

What if my fiance was my best friend?

 

Yes to all of this because that means I actually had a romantic relationship

 

1. What would your reaction be to hearing this?
Doubt.

2. Would you date, get engaged, or married to "Best Friend" (fused with your fiancé(e)'s soul)?
I'd perhaps try dating for a bit to decide.

3. If your fiancé(e) body swapped with someone else, would you still date your fiancé(e)?
I'm too tired to understand what this means. I'm going to "meditate" for a bit.

4. If your fiancé(e) got genderbent, would you still stay in the relationship?
No.

5. If your fiancé(e) inserted their soul into an animal or inanimate object (e.g. cat or plushie), what would you do?
Serve them.

 

I dunno what happened but my sleepy, groggy self is inspiring!!! Yay!

1. What would your reaction be to hearing this?
After the world was devastated I guess I wouldn’t be so surprised by the plot twist but I would ask for some proof like a memory we had together... if I could believe it, I might want to spend more time with them to try to understand how things ended up this way...(it sounds like a veeeery interesting story)
2. Would you date, get engaged, or married to "Best Friend" (fused with your fiancé(e)'s soul)?
I might date them... But I would be worried by the “unknown” best friend soul. Wouldn’t they have someone they liked too? I mean, I don’t really care if they are average looking. At first I actually didn’t like my husband’s appearance that much. I remember thinking he looked like he was trying too hard, specially between a bunch of sloppy college kids. After he told me he had a complex for being shorter than average and put an effort to always look nice I thought he was adorable (⁎⁍̴̆Ɛ⁍̴̆⁎)
3. If your fiancé(e) body swapped with someone else, would you still date your fiancé(e)?
If they’re happy with that body, I would try hard to maintain our relationship the same as before!
4. If your fiancé(e) got gender bent, would you still stay in the relationship?
I would. I feel like they would still essentially be the same person and even if their feelings changed after that, I would still want to be there for them... \(TuT ...*slaps husband for not being reciprocated* (● ˃̶͈̀ロ˂̶͈́)੭ꠥ⁾⁾
5. If your fiancé(e) inserted their soul into an animal or inanimate object (e.g. cat), what would you do?
I...If their turn into a cute fluff animal I might not want to change it... *coughs* σ(^_^;;; but, yeah...trying to find a new body for them would also be very troublesome...

 

Hmmm, just reset the universe until you get it just right. Or like .... NIGERUNDAYO SMOKY

 

1. Ecstatic and angry! You're alive! *Slap* HOW DARE YOU MAKE THIS ARRANGEMENT WITHOUT TELLING ME AND LETTING ME THINK YOU'RE DEAD.

2. Date, I am purely asexual and would not force someome to marry me if they couldn't go without sex. My fiance could supposedly, but the best friend might not be able to. I also have to take into account their own feelings. I would be entirely open to a poly relationship as long as the other party knows the situation and accepts it for what it is and of course, if we're compatible. However, all of that would be moot if they aren't interested in me romantically, no matter what my fiance's soul says.

3. Yes, absolutely.

4. Yes, absolutely.

5. Can they talk/feel/move? Animal I wouldn't mind...but surely there is some way to help them if they get turned into an inanimate object? That sounds horrifying. Wouldn't death be better than that? I would be very distressed for them. Either way, I would definetly try to help them regain a different human body.

 

If you knew there was a chance you could die, and you could fuse your soul into somebody, who would you ask?

And would they agree?

 

I'm not sure they'd be the same person for long. Body and mind duality means one affects the other. Maybe at the start, s/he'd seem like the same person, but I'm sure all the little changes that unravel over time will lead to some serious problems that might easily break the relationship. Heck, maybe because of the new body, s/he wouldn't be into you anymore even if s/he thought s/he still was at first. At that point, you'd simply be best friends (or ex-best friends). Then again, I suppose that's what most marriages devolve into anyways because the natural hormones ease off and the spark dies with a lack of effort from both sides. Maybe monogamy was a mistake

 

1. What would your reaction be to hearing this?
Depends if I was told that they had this planned earlier or not. If they had this planned I personally would discourage them from taking this action. Sure you might end up dying and I will be sad over your death but you do not know what kind of effects this could have on a persons mental state in the long run. Remember kids don't stick your dick in crazy or have crazy dick inserted into you.
2. Would you date, get engaged, or married to "Best Friend" (fused with your fiancé(e)'s soul)?
No especially since I never knew the Best Friend really. Plus I do not approve of the action that my fiance has taken in the slightest here so I couldn't condone being with them. I might take a different reaction because of how sad I am though at the time. Remember kids don't stick your dick in crazy or have crazy dick inserted into you.
3. If your fiancé(e) body swapped with someone else, would you still date your fiancé(e)?
Never it just goes against my morals entirely to do this. Say it with me now don't stick your dick in crazy!
4. If your fiancé(e) got genderbent, would you still stay in the relationship?
Yeah personally depends how deeply I fall in love with the person really. Though likely the wedding would be called off.
5. If your fiancé(e) inserted their soul into an animal or inanimate object (e.g. cat or plushie), what would you do?
...Why would you do something so annoying are you really that afraid of death? Dogs die all the time and you could think of becoming a cat! *MURDEROUS KILLING INTENT INTENSIFIES* otherwise it's kind of petty I guess sure I love them but people die all the time just because you are a hero and so likely have all sorts of connections doesn't mean you should abuse them. Especially with how hard mental illnesses are to treat in humans let alone in dogs!

 

Hmm, I think people change anyways, and hormones can fluctuate all the time.

For instance, if your partner goes through depression, it’s relatively likely they’ll lose their sex drive because hormones can go quite out of whack.

I would also be fine with my fiancé genderswapped, but like everyone else here, it doesn’t seem to be okay from the other party ;-;

I think for me, romance transcends sex or sexuality. Consequently, it’s not incredibly important which it is, particularly for marriage. However, having the “spark” in the beginning is really useful for getting connected to someone.

However, for something like commitment, particularly for something like marriage, for me that really transcends the physicality of gender.

I wonder if the gender difference to question 4 stems from the sex component? Like if your partner had a health problem rendering them unable to use their sexual organ, would you still keep the marriage?

...I’m just curious.