Violence during consensual sex has become normalised 50 Shades of Grey was lauded and popular with lots of sequels Why are people surprised. People refuse to vote with their wallets. It is pissing me off. I know domestic violence is a big deal but when people glamorize violence why are they surprised? If 50 Shades of Grey was a box office bomb, people won't see it as some sort of green light that violence was cool. I know I am oversimplifying but actions have consequences https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-50546184
It isn't 50 Shades of Grey that is the problem, it's people who believe it's a legit guide to 50 Shades of Foreplay.
Problem lays with bdsm play without realizing what it involves. 50 shades of grey is the worst example of not knowing what to do, there should be care before and after the act. The woman in the article sounds like she doesn't know how vocalize what she wants or tell her partner to stop.
Umm... No, this was an exactly an example of people voting with their wallets. Just like the profits of the Twilight franchise was people voting for ephebephilia & stalking. What people say, & what they do tend to be different things, I recommend you internalise that "actions speak louder than words", & realize that all the politically-correct protesting against "socially unacceptable" behaviours & beliefs is just "virtue signalling". E.G.: If people really, truly, objected to the sexualising of children, supermarket & department store chains wouldn't feature young girls in skimpy swimsuits or underwear in their regular advertising materials.
agree with this.......the moment a man start to use violence in the bed it's just mean he doesn't give a shit about his partner, so if she still don't care about it, both are just "retarded couples"
To tell you the truth i only watched that movie for research purposes, Hell i dont even know the story line of that movie.
People need to understand, in order to act out 50 shades of grey, they need to resemble the character it embodied. Meaning it is only possible if the two people are handsome sadistic kinky young millionaire and a pretty but plain masochist who would do it for love. If you don't fit in those characteristics, don't do it because you're underqualified. If anyone doesn't agree, bear in mind that i never watch or read it because i'm a traditional person, if i want porn, i watch regular porn.
BDSM is serious business, NOT JOKING. While normal sex may be dull, it is not OK to jump straight to Dom Sub roles assuming your partner is willing to play that role. Before sex, both parties must come to agreement on the roleplay they partake, on the limits of what to do and what not. If one is uncomfortable, one must immediately voice out and not be a bumblefuck and keep mum. For guys who like to don the Dominant Role, I fashion myself to be such, one must understand that we are living in a reality, any shit from your fantasy must keep into boundaries of reality, not everyone likes to play Submissive and NO ONE ENJOYS VIOLENCE, not even in sex. These must be kept to the front.
It one of the many very mysterious (and often contradictory) things surrounding women. Personally, i think it's because psycho-kun is a young, handsome, edgy, brooding, SUPER RICH stalker so women see it as being something to desire. If he was an average guy with a normal job, the same women would probably be about how it's misogynist and demeaning to women and a sign of the "patriarchy" oppressing and sexualizing women. It's just horrible fetish fiction that somehow managed to induce collective insanity in a whole bunch of people who spend tons and tons of money on it. DISCLAIMER: The following is only devil's advocate musing and should be taken as not seriously believing in this (mostly): When you have stuff like 50 shades of grey and women go absolutely obsessively gaga over it, there'll always be stupid and/or psycho men who see that and think "oh hey, women seem to like having violence during sex so i'm going to do it too." While extreme porn probably plays some role, i doubt that it's the ONLY reason this happens. END SECTION On a personal note, i dont get the appeal of any of this at all. The only thing that does appeal is playful, 100% consentual spanking on the butt (no real pain, just tease).
Yeah, no one enjoys violence As simple research will shown, some violent porn are actual rape recorded on video or made under duress/threat of death
Yeah, the same way I don't get gang bangs or even two men and one woman in porn. Does any dude with a brain want to share their lady? It's just madness It does not translate into reality at all
Its about the experience. Just you, your best mate and some thot you found at the club looking to have a good time.
Damn, we're like literally of the same mind. I dont get it either and i dont get why any woman would ever agree to it in reality. 1 guy, many girls? i can understand that. 1 girl, many guys? Makes no sense at all whatsoever.
Yakuza owns porn companies and influence all businesses in Japan. Some of these porn videos are simply recorded sexual assault and rape
We live in interesting times. Next thing you know, bdsm and having mistress(or mistrer-ess whatever is male equivalent) becomes legal and the norm.
Heck no! How is this even a thing?! This is so far out of left field that it's almost blinding. I always thought of bdsm as something you play with explicit consent! There is never, never! Any spontaneous choking or slapping or injuring in any way! Hecking heck, I'd be traumatized if someone I was doing intimate acts with tried this on me. I literally can't imagine it because I'd have to trust that person a lot to even think about that. It's even worse because I'm asexual man. These poor women...
Interesting article. I doubt all the fault lays in 50 shade of Gray, which by some expert on the BDSM world turns out to be an awful representation of it. Now porn, well that might be a major player in it, not to mention how emasculated a part of the male population have been feeling as of late, might have stirred the desire and search to portray dominance and power in an vulnerable and intimate aspect such as sex.