Discussion Do Girls like 'average' guys?

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  1. vlue

    vlue Jaded Isekai-Reader

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    I'm an average guy but want girls who are way out of my league fawning over me, I also won't ever put any effort whatsoever in appearance or take the initiative in having them and also won't have any idea what being in relationship is like or won't be ever be putting effort in it, so why can't an average guy like me can't ever get into a relationship?
     
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  2. Effugium

    Effugium [Investigator], Praise Shigure-sama

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    Same... I wonder why
     
  3. ReadOrDie

    ReadOrDie already dead

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    you already answered your own question...
     
  4. UnGrave

    UnGrave ななひ~^^

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    I feel like these "do girls like..." threads are about to go completely out of hand.
     
  5. chrissy987

    chrissy987 Well-Known Member

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    Surely this question must be sarcastic. Lmao
     
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  6. Shizukani

    Shizukani Chronically stressed

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    I'm an average girl who can probably fall for and average guy. But would the average guy like an average girl like me? That is the question.

    Kidding aside, you basically answered your question already. Have a cookie. :cookie: Living alone is actually not that bad. (If you're rich that is. Rich and lonely.)
     
  7. apricotsoda

    apricotsoda Shy Shy Shy

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    My boss is already dead but I can still provide you girls.
     
  8. Devil of Boredom

    Devil of Boredom Exists.

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    It's all because you not in a JAPAN HIGHSCHOOL!!!
    you need to go there then it will be solved.
     
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  9. imK

    imK Artful Dodger

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    If you want an above average life, become an above average person.
     
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  10. Dizzcity

    Dizzcity Watching generations of fans rise and fall away

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    Define "average". I would suggest that an unmotivated, lazy guy might actually be *below* average...
     
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  11. VeraH

    VeraH eternally lazy

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    The answers you want.
    If you're not gonna bother, no one is, either.
     
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  12. Sunlight_Brother

    Sunlight_Brother Well-Known Member

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    “won't ever put any effort whatsoever in appearance or take the initiative in having them and also won't have any idea what being in relationship is like or won't be ever be putting effort in it”

    that’s your answer. The problem starts with you.
     
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  13. Harry

    Harry Now you see me

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    Poor in relationship, here some tips

    Make a clear target how many do you want (OTP or Harem) and then search/identify the target(s)
    Build a secret bunker, make sure nobody knows and there should be enough food/provision for a long time
    And then time to act, if you don't want to confess your (fake?) love, use the art of kidnapping
    Hide your love interest into your secret bunker, I'm sure after e few months of brainwashing (threat) and intense training (for obedience), she (OTP route) or they (harem route) will fawning over you

    If all else fail, in my country there's something like super effective charm (not sure if it categorized as black magic). Usually you only do some easy ritual and after it done, the girl(s) will fawning over you. The ads say it super effective, only use if you're very serious (something like marriage as goal), but if you only playing/fooling around you will get serious backlash
     
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  14. Ratatoskr

    Ratatoskr [Aruruu's proud dad] [The False Gentleman]

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  15. Loni4ever

    Loni4ever The Fluffy White Wolf

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    *applauds* :blobjoy::blobjoy::blobjoy:
     
  16. Lunari

    Lunari Active Member

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    Is this an actual, serious question?
    Cause I mean, ReadOrDie already pointed it out.
    If you aren't going to put any effort in, what does it make you think you deserve it?

    Things that are worth, things that last, take effort. If you're not going to put effort, it won't last.

    All kinds of relationships take effort, from romantic ones, to friendship, and even the ones we usually are so accustomed that we take for granted like family.
    Even the stereotype of loyal and gratuitous love, the dog, takes effort. Try to not feed it, and pay attention to it. After a while, if it finds someone who does, it's going to that person.

    Sometimes things align and it makes it easier to be in relation (of any kind, ie friends). Maybe you live near, have the same interests, and/or spends a lot of time together.

    Then life happens and changes it. Suddenly, you don't spend as much time together, or you moved, etc

    Then you've got to put (more) effort. The more something gets "less easy/aligned" the more you've got to put in effort so it'll be like it was.

    But even when things are easy, you're investing time, feelings and so on in it.

    So if you're not going to put any effort in it, why should the other person?
    Not only you're not making it worth for them, but you're showing you don't care.
    Would you want such a thing? Such a person?
    Then just get a laid back, no feelings, no effort relationship. Just go casual. But then don't expect the other person caring/putting effort either.
    Getting something out of a relation without giving anything in exchange is just being a douchebag.
    And perpetuating the mentality of "taking all you can, giving nothing back" that is just toxic.
    If you don't want that to happen to you, then you shouldn't do it to others.

    Relationships follow life's-cough, I mean, FMA's rule of equivalent exchange.
    And I don't mean things like "taking care of appearance", tho even in that the question stands (if you don't want to care about yours, then why should the other care about theirs? Why are you asking for more than what you're bringing you the table?)

    As I said, relations are things that need care and effort. You need to communicate properly, and care not only for the other, but for the relationship. See if it's healthy, if you're both on the same page, want the same things, if both are happy.

    So it all comes back to this, you not wanting to put in any effort is why nothing happens.
    So why do you even want it? Do you actually want it?
    Then why is it that you're (apparently) not doing anything for it?
     
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    imK Artful Dodger

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    I spat my tea out reading that :blobrofl:
    Edit: r/niceguys maybe?
     
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  18. pass1478

    pass1478 I'm in Despair!

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    You literally answered your own question. I guess you can add dense to your bad traits.
     
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  19. scribbledoutname

    scribbledoutname Well-Known Member

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    I know this thread is a joke (I hope), but I still find it amusing how so many guys can't be pissed to not be repulsive but still hope their pretty crushes will want them. I think it just doesn't register how much effort most cute girls put into their appearances to look as good as they do. The moment I released this and started cleaning up, the response was like night and day. Girls I saw on a regular basis who had zero interest in me before (not in a rude way, but in a way where it was obvious that they weren't physically into me) wanted to get to know me. Not every girl, of course, but defo enough to be worth it.
     
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  20. lygarx

    lygarx Lazy Translator

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    Depends on what they define as average. Same story with Nice guys. Just because you call yourself a 'nice guy' does not mean that you are a nice guy in her eyes. every human has different preferences and standards. just be the best person you can be. don't worry about others. don't be your average self, be your best self. the person you idolize. and maybe that person that you are calling a jerk is simply a nicer guy for that girl.
     
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