[Poll] Would you consider ERP-ing on the Internet cheating?

So a random thought popped into my head, so I was curious about NUF's opinion.

The scenario is extremely simple:

1. Assume that you are in a monogamous and committed romantic relationship with somebody
2. Your significant other tells you one day that they ERP'd with a stranger on the Internet
3. What are your thoughts and feelings about this?

1. Would you consider ERP-ing with an Internet stranger "cheating" if you were in a monogamous relationship?

2. What if rather than a total Internet stranger, it was an Internet friend/acquaintance instead? What if it was a close friend?

3. What if your significant other insists that it's just a hobby for them, and they don't take it seriously? Furthermore, they swear that they would never "cheat" in real life?

4. Is it possible to emotionally cheat on somebody? What is "emotional cheating" to you?

 

From Urban Dictionary:
ERP stands for Erotic Role-Play. Role-Play in this definition refers to the typing RP done in video games, chatrooms and forums.

ERP is a role-play with little plot besides the quick sex scene between characters. There is no consequence and no long term story behind it.

1. maybe.
2. depends on who it is. at some point it is just sexting.
3. depends on how 'real' it is. If they role play as a futanari furry or something sure it is just a hobby.
4. yes.

 

Lychee is trying to validate another lewd act again?

 

I'd just erp with someone on the net too and then look at my partner's reaction.

 

as long as it just role play, then fine.

 

1- Erping isn't cheating as long as it's a stranger who you won't ever meet because it's the same same as women saying porn is the same as cheating.
2- once you know that person even a little bit it's no longer appropriate because this lead to escalation in most cases. <--- applies to 3#
4- emotional cheating would mean that person no longer has feelings of love for you so yes it's just a partnership of convenience instead of love in that case it's better to end the relationship, because the next step is toxic as it usually lead to that person resenting you and causing strife and it's just toxic for everyone.

 

Yep, yep.

 

1. Obviously.
2. Each aspect of this question makes it a worse betrayal than what came before.
3. "Never trust a tall dwarf, they're lying about something."
4. It's the emotional ties that make it cheating.

 

No, unless there is an intent of cheating behind it.

Then we have a problem here, especially if my supposed best friend, I assume male, is having an erotic conversation with my partner.

I call bullshit on that. The more they defend, the more likely they are lying to me.

Yes, it is. Emotional cheating, obviously. This kind of cheating eventually becomes physical cheating. Cheating happens, because someone's emotions are not invested enough on the cheated partner.

 

I know it might seem silly or maybe not, but I would be pretty upset of my partner ERPed with anyone because in a sense, it's no different from sexting (unless it doesn't involve anything sexual which is rare). My partner would be imagining all that they are typing, wouldn't they? And their partner in this sexual fantasy would be some other person and that is very upsetting.

 

1. Yes. If I haven't said anything about being okay with my partner having a secondary relationship, it is cheating. If one of us is not ok with doing it, the other isn't supposed to be doing it either.

2. That's fucking worse.... Also, what if that friend goes around telling other people around you about your partner cheating on you? You'll be a cuck both inside and outside your relationship...

3. Well, what if I go out, have sex with a bunch of people and say "It's different, love. There is no emotions involved. Besides, it's just a hobby!." Yeah....

4. Yes it is possible. If my partner is feeling as close to someone else as they do to me and they have thoughts about doing stuff that should only be done with their partner, then I consider it emotional cheating.

If you think your partner isn't paying enough attention to you, talk to them, don't cheat on them. If you think you deserve even more attention than they could possibly, realisticly give you, then go see an expert to do something about your retarded way or thinking....

 

1. maybe.
2. yes, i would likely see it as (to varying levels) emotional cheating. The exception being if the other person was female like my partner. (yes, it's hypocrisy) I'd be less likely to jump straight to cheating. If the other is a guy, straight to emotional cheating i leap.
3. depends
4. yes.

My answers for 1-3 depend primarily on how 'real' the RP is. If it's just completely fictional made-up characters (especially in some non-realistic setting) then i probably wouldnt see a problem with it as long as my partner was fully open and honest about it.
If it was somewhat 'real' like they were RPing as fictional versions of themselves, then yes i would be more inclined to see it as emotional cheating. In that case, it would really concern me and i would need to sit down and have a proper talk with my partner to work through the situation and it's issues.

 

1.it depends like if its just creepy furry stuff or obviously just roleplay then its fine but if its with a cam and stuff then def wrong
2.always wrong
3.depends on what level we are talking about.
4.yes

 

Now the thing is, I've role played as a gay person and as a woman before too in these weird role-play things. (Don't ask.)

...so if I had a lover, would you consider that cheating? Because neither am I gay nor am I a woman.

 

There's literally only one way it wouldn't be cheating, and that's if the partner is ok with it. Not asking is a problem, and asking and getting a no and still doing it is definitely a problem.

Why would you risk hurting your partner just to write erotica? All the emotional stuff aside, if you really feel a need to go behind your partners back for sexual gratification, maybe look over your relationship and sit down and have a talk about it. Peoples libidos are different but that doesn't mean it wouldn't hurt your partner to just ignore their thoughts on it.

 

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It is cheating ofc.

It is cheating.

Then having sex with random people irl is just a "hobby" for some too. That's cheating.

Isnt cheating on a lover an emotional thing?

 

huh. sounds like an issue for monogamous folk? if theres open communication why would it count as cheating in the first place? cuz it was hidden?

@Femme Fatale opinion

 

It's absolutely cheating but if the poll said something like "Would you consider erping with an AI as cheating" then it may take some thought.