by that i meant a state of mind, mindfulness as they call it now, not a given position. and dw i'm very relaxed, maybe a little too much
Umm... First, i determine whether we have a common goal or not. This especially holds true in projects or workplaces. If we do have a common goal, their "arrogant" behavior is irrelevant to me. I will shift the focus back to the problem solving part, and positioned myself as a "good student" to balance their "know-all" attitude. This method works well for me, and i'll get to maintain a good working relationship with them as a result. Making people feel satisfied with themselves, as long as it doesn't hurt us, is not a loss. If we don't have any long-term relation, or if i fail to see a common goal, then simply say that they have a point and thank them for their input. Something like "i see. i do agree with some of your point. Thank you very much for your input" usually will manage to quell them. If it still not working, i simply pull myself away from that situation and ta-ta have you work/study/dabble in the mental healthcare sector? this response reminds me of something
Gaining a person's trust is essential for them to be able to share their own flaws and insecurities. Showing your own vulnerability is a sign that they can do the same
Thank you... Ah~ there's nothing wrong with being different from everyone. Being different from everyone is a good things. I think... Each individual has their special character. Because there's no one in the world who are the same. You're an interesting person ah~ My question : When you're angry and sad, after sleep it off... Around two weeks later, are you still vividly remember it??
The sad feeling will slowly lessen ah~ So~ i guess music fit perfectly with your preference. The type to be able calm down with music ah~ Thank you....
Thank you~ So~ just ignore it as long as it's not a bother or annoying... just a bit dabble i guess... thank you....
Restore my moods and motivation.... Eating sugar? I don't really know. Low moods kinda just last. I guess listening to Four seasons works for me and Mozart as well. As for motivation incentives I guess. Like if I get a chocolate if I'm able to complete sth or force myself to do the work I'm suppose to do. Smashing plates sounds nice but my mom's gonna kill me if I do that.
So its still easily triggers you?? Ever want to try punch sandbag?? I think it feels good when you imagine sandbag as someone who make you angry or annoyed and punch it with all your might.
Thank you.... Yess~ practice meditation will quickly make you calm down. I agree to that... My question : How are you manage your anger and sadness?? I mean, what are you doing to lessen them???
Yess~ Music able to quickly calm you down ah~ Can you swim?? Ever want to try to just float on swimming pool??
Yep music works most of the time for me ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ . Just floating on the surface of the water is absolutely relaxing. I love the feeling. I can swim but I'm not very good at it. What helps you relax?
*nod nod* yess.... For me, i loves to lay down outdoors on the grass or roof top and just gaze at the sky above to clear my mind. Sometimes just float on the pool. When angry, i just find something cheap and useless to break it to pieces. After that, im able to laugh again... Thank you
I think its okay..... You can try write down everything you feel and imagined in diary or notes. Maybe someday you can use it as marterial to become a writer.... Its sure will give a lot of idea ah~ Thank you...
1. Have you ever read a psychology book? Rarely.. very rarely.. 2. How are you maintain your mental health? I talk to the right people and get some exercise 3. Have you ever had a psychological problem until you need a therapist's help? Yes 4. How are you manage your anger? Take a deep breath and walk away for a while. Then, try to talk it out again. And have a good work out at the end of the day. 5. How are you manage your sadness? I would need time to feel it, then think and talk about the source of my sadness, why it makes me sad and how to fix it, if I have to.. 6. How do you know when you can't handle your problem yourself anymore? When my behaviour changed drastically, that people around started to talk it out with me
Thank you.... Yess... By talk to the right people and talk openly to them can keep our mind stay in track. And exercise can maintain our calm mind... My question : When you feel anger at someone, after the walk away, the work out, and talk it out... If you cant solve it, are you able to leave it so that the anger isn't wasting your time? When your behaviour start to change and its bothering you, what are you doing to restore your calm mind and solve the stress?