Why Females Like BL more than Males like Yuri?

Idk man reading about man on man romance is just so cute~ I like cute guys and I like seeing them acting cute like usually they won't act cute in bg novels but in bl novels they almost always do~ then gradually my range of bl genre likes increased due to association

That's my answer for today

 

Damn. So maybe it is the feminine aspect of boys ya'll like.

 

Don't know bro, as a female, I've read both bl and yuri genres and I found out that I prefer bl more for whatever unknown reasons in the universe, that doesn't prevent me from reading yuri and shoujo novels tho. For real, I seriously don't know why I like reading bl more, but I just like it ahaha

 

Maybe one of the 2 reasons?
1) It's Romantic like all romances
2) Male Leads are interesting
3) One Male Lead acts cute/feminine

 

I am girl, I only read GL novels and manga. I am interested in GL.

 

If I'm speaking from my own psyche, it's probably because I initially appreciated that "pure feeling", for example:
"It's not just because I love men, I love you for who you are" when the ML discovers he likes men because of the MC, I wonder if I expressed that clearly? But then I read more and got used to it, so I could read any kind of novel anyway. GL, BL, BG. If it's good romance, I'll always feel giddy.

 

Love comes from all forms, i didn't bother before but i'm not as revolted as before when i was first reading those kinds of novels (BL or GL). I'm fine with both of them but i tend to not like it when it starts to get explicit/smutty. Maybe living on a strict country tends to make me value things differently.

 

Well what other people do with their genitals are a thing that is only concern for them and not for others to dislike/disapprove, I'm a gay male and although I don't find women sexuality arousing in any way I don't go around saying they're disgusting (because they're not) or straight sex is awful, just because I don't like something it doesn't mean I have the right to say that is bad...

 

personally, I don't care what the genre is as long as the story is good, the plot is solid and the characters are interesting.
I started reading BL after my cousin came out because I didn't know much and wanted to educate myself. he laughed at me for reading online fiction. now I read them with him and his husband and they laugh or get angry and point out all the ways it's unrealistic, or more rarely, point out where they have things sort of right. I've learned a lot from them.
and on a side note, none of us enjoy those stories where one character is feminized and infantilized (it's always both) and treated like a pet rather than a partner.

 

Something you expect in a BL or GL is that the relationship is equal. They both likeable characters since they trust the other but aren't like damsels in distress.

In my case, I like reading BLs cause I expect the relationship to be equal, and there's a lot of good novels that do that. (I can reccomend them to anyone that are interested).

Even if one side is weak from injuries, the other side would help them heal but not in a battle where they know the other will win. Thus, not undermining each other!

Can you name a straight romance novel where the female protagonist isn't coddled, protected or comforted for the slightest mishap. Not really. Most Chinese novels have romances starting off with sexual harassment against the girl which "evolves" into love. With BL, the chances of those are decreased.

 

Psychologically, girls like seeing men being dominated. Like feeling some sort of self satisfaction.

Also compare to some BG stories, you can feel pure love and sacrifices in many bl novel/ manga that many girl long for.

Lastly, think girl can feel some sort of equality. This is just my opinion, no one can argue that despite the world being more open now, some still see women below men. Like the discrimination about ABO...

So seeing bl satisfy girls. More that men who like Yuri. Some men like Yuri for sexual satisfaction, no difference in seeing porn. And Yuri is more accepted than bl. Wonder why?

 

Well, you can be cute without being feminine tho~

 

I'm not limiting myself to BL coz there's a lot of gems out there. Why settle for on when you can enjoy all of them? But bl will always have a sweet spot in my reading list.

 

In most BxG stories they don’t write the girls properly. The ML is in a relationship with the FL because she’s simply a girl/female. There really isn’t development for the female characters.

^ like this reason here is also one of reasons I started reading BL.
The girls are horribly written. So when girls read it they aren’t satisfied because that’s not how girls are. I guess another thing is that most of these stories are written from the male gaze. So when I read/watch anything I don’t feel like it’s for me.

it’s why I end up shipping the guys together in BxG stories when the females are written badly. The guys have a more defined and developed relationship than the girls. Also a lot of times guys can be problematic too.

It why I went to BL. No horribly female characters, it was something kinda forbidden too. I was also curious about BL too at the time. Well, it was different and the guys had to explore and develop their relationship before doing anything big. It focused more on the characters and plot. Drama only happens to further their characters.

 

Most uke are cute but the female like guy is pretty annoying, I love uke which shows masculinity but CUTE
Anyway, to me, BL is like revenges especially hardcore yaoi cause you know that in the past up till now, most females are rapist's main victims..so why not making a guy being rape instead..*click* that's nice though to see a guy being rape

 

The woman is most B/G isn't written properly? Wow, that kind of sounds heterophobic and misogynist at the same time.

One thing I have noticed at times is that fujoshi will make 2 guys gay because the fujo doesn't like a guy to be with a girl! Uh, heterophobic much?

 

I got into BL because it was the only way I could get exposure to LGBT+ topics, I think. Then I preferred it because I could get away from the sexist portrayals of women in media, and because it was anti-heteronormative.
However, I've gone more to yuri as time has gone by because BL is still extremely heteronormative and sexist for the most part.

Rather than watching the male leads cast aside their harem members for each other, I think it's more satisfying for the would-be harem members to reject the scummy male lead, take agency for themselves, and ultimately find a more wholesome love in each other.

As for why more men don't like yuri, well... I guess not as many men have the same desperate need as women to escape gender roles?

Yuri is originally aimed at women, which is why its aesthetic is so shoujo-like. Again, it's about gender roles and, of course, it can appeal to women who like women in real life.

This isn't really that bizarre?

According to studies, I believe they found that men are more likely to be stubbornly traditionalist and fear change, while women are more likely to adapt speedily.

There are still plenty of homophobic women, though, and finding gay men hot in porn doesn't equate to actually respecting or supporting men who like men. Also, the BL community has always had a huge problem with lesophobia.

"Male Leads are interesting"? Not really. Female leads are plenty interesting when they're not written as vapid vessel's for the male lead's lust.

I mean, there are a lot of male writers who straight up admit that they don't know how to write a female character. Some men really struggle to realise that we're not an alien species.

There are also a great number of published male authors who, when asked to write a compelling female character, can only come up with "she had an ass and two titties".

 

Because women hate other women.
They have been conditioned by society.
It is the only thing keeping women from ruling the world.
It's common knowledge that women are better leaders.
It's scientifically proven.
But they are too busy hating each other to band together and create change

The average girl will rather read BL than find another like minded woman to start a business with.

By the way I am not kidding.
You probably know of Glass Ceiling but Glass Cliff is even more scarier.

Cheers!

 

As a guy likes yuri a hell of a lot, and for more than just sexiness, i feel like there's a hell of a lot of misunderstanding and almost wilful ignorance about guys and yuri. I think some are confusing guys watching lesbian porn with guys who like yuri which might overlap sometimes but are not the same just like, i presume (just like some of the assumptions in this thread have been like), that some fujoshi might watch gay porn but not all fujoshis. It's kinda demeaning that the prevailing thought in this thread seems to be: "guys only like yuri because lesbians and guys are only horny and nothing else".

i think BL and GL are two sides of the same coin. Parts of it are just for sexiness but the (majority) rest of it is for generally more well written and meaningful relationships than most BxG are written. i can only speak for yuri but i find characters in good yuri are very well rounded and feel relatively real as opposed to being 1D cliches. That's not to say that both categories dont have their own problem elements that are every bit as bad as a lot of BxG stuff, just that my experience (with GL at least) is that the toxic stuff is a very small minority among content.

It's also somewhat rare for girls in GL to be tied into traditional gender role styles (apart from the pseudo-BxG stuff with super boyish androgynous girls which cater to those with that fetish) so it's refreshing to read and can be very wholesome, even when lewdness involved.

 

Hmm there's stark different of how male portrayed in the BL novel/manga and how female are portrayed in harem novel/manga.
In BL the male are both too feminine and thoughtful (most men are as dense as rocks and would only really take risk if it's obvious enough) and seldom to have prideful traits with themselves or among their peers. I can assure you males wouldn't suddenly turn gay to each other even if they're left stranded on an island. It's higher chance that they kill each other.
In Harem the female are selfless, prideless, naïve, or just being plain stupid. Most beautiful girl know they are beautiful and would hardly moved by being told so.
Where it both meet ? Both works portrayed the character underplays that physical attraction can be a factor to how they became interested to pursue more interaction or relationship to their love interest. Then again character are seldom portrayed as ugly unless they're some sort of mob or villain.