Discussion How do you feel about going to a friend's house?

As a minor (at least in my house) going to a friend's house is kind of a big deal? I mean, I want to go to a friend's house on Tuesday and my parents want to speak with my friend's parents, which I find alright. I'm a bit excited because this would be the first time for me due to my social life or lack thereof.

What about you? As minors, how do you feel going to a friend's house?

 

I'm not a minor and don't have friends who would invite me to their house (or any kind of friends, for that matter), not that I would visit if I was (hypothetically speaking) invited considering Covid is still at large.

I've been to friends' homes before though, when I was a kid (and had friends); it was fun.

 

That's true...

 

What country are you from? It is totally normal to visit a friends house here. In fact, it would be considered very weird to not visit a friend and stay home all the time. Also, asking the parents just for a visit? Never heard of such a thing...
As far as I remember I visited my friends in their homes by myself, since I was 8-10 years old and vice versa.

 

I'm west african. My parents are a bit particular about how they do some things. Plus, with the high rate of rape and all sorts of crimes in my area, can't be too safe.

 

There should be nothing weird about it.

It's common for your friends to visit your house, at least back then when I was a minor, but considering young kids nowadays are playing with their phones, I guess it wouldn't be weird about the lack of physical social gathering.

 

For me, Going to a friend's house is also considered a big deal.
1. They wouldn't trust kids with the house because the parents are working
2. They dont have time to drop you off
Even if there is a chance of going, Its always for maybe 3hrs or so? I have only been to friend's houses maybe like 6-10 times? And most of them were to celebrate their birthdays. If I wanted to go to a house for a hangout - permissions must be obtained from both parents and must be informed min a week prior. Hence the number of times i have actually hung out with my friends even before covid is pitiful...

 

it's not really that big of a deal to go and visit my friends' houses. We won't go uninvited, but if we plan out a time, it's totally chill.

But I do think it was more easier visiting friends when I was younger. I'm not sure if it's just me, but I grew up with this specific group of kids, and we would go over to each others houses almost every day. I remember being able to know where all the bathrooms and bedrooms were, and kind of treat it like my own home.

But all that has gone to moot since COVID lol i haven't even gone outside in a while

 

...sounds like you should stay at home.

 

I don't get why age is an issue for visiting your friends house? Is there some culture difference I'm unaware of?

 

I'm not sure. But my brothers were allowed to visit their friends freely when they were my age. The issue isn't just with age, it's also the fact that I'm a girl. There's this 'thought' that I'm helpless and whatnot. I don't think it's culture, I think it's just different family views and principles.

 

Yeah, been through a friend house, sleep there, we had drinks, etc but if you're a girl then I advise caution since you won't know what would happen especially when you and your friends are drunk. If your friend is a girl then it's okay since you can do sleep over with each other and various girl activities that you gals do.

 

Just took a look at the poll and there's 0 votes for "No"

 

I feel like a minor today ( • ꒡ •)+

 

It’s normal to go to a friend’s house unless you have overprotective parents.

 

Funny, because majority of families I've seen seem to follow the norm that girls should be protected more. Its definitely a cultural thing, but stricter in Asian views. Some girls may call it unfair with the overprotectiveness but I say, some boys be hating, because it feels like parents value their safety as same with the girls.

 

Huh.... I never realized that I have a lot of Sleepovers~~~ on Different houses mostly on summers


Gosh... I'm shocked about this revelation...

 

I'm not a minor anymore, but it was perfectly common for kids, me included, to visit each others houses. I had to call my parents and tell them where I was when I did go over so they knew where to look if I didn't come home in time, but otherwise it wasn't a big deal. They'd probably call the other parents for a sleepover or stuff like that, but otherwise, not really.

That said, I think if my parents HAD talked to my friends parents before allowing me to go somewhere new, no one would've thought of it as strange.

 

That's not a bad thing.

 

The most normal thing to do.