What would you do if the person you love comes to you and say "I don't feel the same as I used to for you anymore and it's getting harder to continue our relationship like this... And I've found someone else I like. So let's breakup" ..... If it was me ,well I'd say" let's breakup then, I'm also not too much keen on continuing it like this... And after all who you want to love is entirely your own choice" So... What would you do in a position like this???
As a person on the opposite end of the spectrum, I'd like to say that the other party couldn't just let go simply because you could.
actually I don't get it.... How can you force someone who doesn't like you anymore to return to you.... And it's not like you've got any right to control who they likes..... Or do you???
I don't get it too, but sometimes humans be like that. They try to cling, hoping against odds that things could change. But more often than not, it doesn't. It also doesn't help if you warned the person before hand that you are incable of leaving them back as much as they love you.
It's not about forcing people. Imagine if someone who you've known for a really long time comes up and tells you that they are never going to meet you again. It's hard......really hard to at least not ask for an explanation or stop them from it. The feeling only intensifies when it comes to love. Although I would be angry, sad, confused and all that in the beginning, after calming down letting go is obviously the only choice left for anyone in that situation........
As an aromantic, I'd be "I hope what you're saying is true. If not, please remember you are still subject to the restraining order" But for the sake of the discussion, I'll imagine I'm not aromantic. Then, I'd be the same as you
I'm convinced I could easily accept it. I've never had a problem with just ending all contact with people I was close to in the past all of a sudden, and my minimal romantic experience I've fairly easily been able to redirect my feelings elsewhere when needed. Given how other people view my behavior normally I'm inclined to believe that it would also affect the situation above.
If its that, that means you don't have to force the relationship to what you want. Everything would end up worse if you do. Relationship starts from building friendship, to romance and eventually trust in marriage. If any steps heading towards that direction, it means that it wasn't meant to be and end it cleanly.
I would be fine with just ending it amicably. I've seen bad break ups, my parents also had one. Honestly if I love the other party then I would let her go. I would be fine as long as she is happy and I would move on.
For me, love is something that operates on reciprocity. I'm not someone who'd put myself on the line and dare to love first; instead, I'm more likely to return the affections someone else shows me. And I don't think I'd be so oblivious as to not notice if my lover's attitude towards me is changing or has already changed (for the worse) nor as patient or loving to not confront them about it and keep liking them as much as I did originally when all seemed fine. Ofc, feelings built up over time don't just suddenly go away if one wishes them to do; residual emotions remain. But if someone doesn't love me anymore, I can see no reason or inclination to keep holding onto them.
I think it is good to stay alone cause I have observed that emotions is just an instinct of humans. Also the better control you have over your emotions the better is your efficiency. If it was me I would never have a relationship in the first place also my mind can only be in two states one in extreme chaotic emotions and the other state is of complete sealing of emotions. Its very hard to switch the states of my mind myself.