Discussion NUF Goodbyes

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Anra7777, Jun 14, 2021.

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To Goodbye or not to goodbye, that is the question.

  1. No goodbye

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  2. Goodbye, no explanation

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  3. Goodbye with explanation

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  4. Other (please elaborate in comments)

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  1. Anra7777

    Anra7777 All powerful magic grammar hamster queen pirate.

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    Novel Update Forum. What you’re currently on. :blobokhand:
     
  2. Miserys_End

    Miserys_End 「Lv1 Pretend Person」I'm the preson i pretend to be

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    Think it depends. If the person in question is someone who's post you read or respond to frequently, it would be easily noticed they have gone silent. If its someone you see once in a blue moon or rarely respond to, you are less likely to care or even notice their missing.
     
  3. Lissi

    Lissi 『Queen of Lissidom』『Holy Chibi』『Western Birdy』『⚓』

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    I think I would remember to say goodbye, especially if I had hope of coming back :blobsalute:

    Since I've been here so long and all blobmelt_thumbs

    NUF feels like something I won't grow out of though, mhm... :blob_blush:
    So yeah, if I ever have to leave (hopefully never), I'll let you guys know! :blobtaco:

    Unless it's an accident or something... remember what I said about mourning me at the one-month mark guys :blobsneeze:
     
  4. MasterCuddler

    MasterCuddler Handsome Chicken

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    I think I won’t grow out of NUF no matter how long it takes me to return. This is a reading community after all, so probably an explanation with the goodbyes would be better:hmm:
     
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  5. Bobasis

    Bobasis Weeeeee

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    I would prefer a good bye with a explanation. It’s kinda like a closure you could say .
    Oi! I would care if you left , I was actual sad when you left for a month and I would notice!
     
  6. melomarl

    melomarl Burning Red

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    I haven't had people from here who broke ties with me cause of a quarrel but that would be the worst goodbye for me.

    Second, but is on par with the first is not saying goodbye at all. I don't generally mind people leaving until it's the few rare people who I'm close to and shared lots of good times with. I usually get along with many people but there are some who I would really hate to part with. Amazingly, those rare people are the ones who chose to leave without rhyme or reason lol

    So if ever, those people, read this without logging in, they shouldn't show themselves to me. My grudge is deep. blobmelt_thumbs
     
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  7. Beren

    Beren Holy Saint

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    I don't think it really matters if there's an explanation for leaving. Most of us don't have any intersection irl so it's natural people will drift away when they get busy or lose interest.
     
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  8. iampsyx

    iampsyx Have some rest, and let's do better tomorrow

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    :sweating_profusely::sweating_profusely::sweating_profusely::sweating_profusely::sweating_profusely:

    I...uh...am very guilty of always suddenly vanishing without a word, and I guess I have no excuse for that? Idk, I'm not good with goodbyes. I'm quite used to having people I'm close to going AWOL and honestly, I don't have any hard feelings with them because I'm the same type. :blob_teary: I just imagine that they're busy and one day we'll meet again and pick up where we left off.

    I get more lonely (and/or worried) when they say goodbye and/or give a reason why they can't stick around anymore, because that feels like I'll never see them again. :blobsad:
     
  9. Isaac20

    Isaac20 Dark Lord | RS

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    It's sad if someone leaves without saying goodbye. But on the other hand, even if some people like me disappear without saying goodbye, it doesn’t make a difference. We are invisible.
     
  10. God slayer

    God slayer Retired God Slayer

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    :blobpeek::blobpeek::blobpeek: oh... I see..... I'll say goodbye when I leave then....
    But an explanation is gonna be kinda hard to give, it's gonna be better without an explanation....
     
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  11. AliceShiki

    AliceShiki 『Ms. Tree』『Magical Girl of Love and Justice』

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    The ones that hurt the most are definitely the times people just go poof... Especially if I had a close bond with them, and then suddenly disappear all of a sudden and never come back... It really hurts when that happens.
     
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  12. Ahodesuga

    Ahodesuga °˖✧Aho desu ga, Nani ka?✧˖° 《Liking Fiend》

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    Ah well, I prefer to have the person disappear quietly from my life~
     
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  13. Dat_Karma

    Dat_Karma Still Here

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    Having an explanation would be nice but I wouldn't mind if the other person doesn't explain themselves.
     
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  14. asriu

    asriu fu~ fu~ fu~

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    thorough my live I experience meeting, journey together and parting. as time goes......
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    ehem~
    this cat always try to get used to meeting and parting~ more so on internet with it fast pace stuff~ sometimes there really no clear when we say hello for first time or when it become goodbye~ the precious thing is the memory of being together and thats enuf~ the worst is not realize it how precious those moment ya know~
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  15. Bobasis

    Bobasis Weeeeee

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    At least give a goodbye!
     
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  16. God slayer

    God slayer Retired God Slayer

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    (>▽<)ノ I'll say goodbye.... To you at least before I leave for real
     
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    fade with time. i'll say a bunch goodbyes but won't leave ironically then. but when i do leave, it'll probably be slowly fading from the activeness over time and when it happens, probably not another goodbye then. for things i got interested in and then lost interest.
     
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  18. yuzuki

    yuzuki [sweet night] [plum blossoms]

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    Hmm... NUF is odd for me because I feel like it's not quite appropriate to say goodbye.

    The main reason is that I always check back every once in a while, so it's not exactly like I'm totally gone. I mean, I really do log in every once in a while and read a few things on the forum here and there. It's never really permanent when I go through long periods of inactivity, and even when I look "inactive" in all likelihood I still see things every once in a while. x.x

    I think the bigger question is when to say hello again?

    I mean, at best, I'm only in a quasi-active state right now, and I feel like it must be disappointing if I'm just a zombie.... :blobdizzy::blobdizzy::blobdizzy:
     
  19. Lurking

    Lurking Do the dead suffer, or is it a sweet release?

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    i love to know why. but gradual fade. both are good.

    Kinda what im doing now is gradual fade!

    Am getting busy. But not disappear, just lurking.

    If anyone inquires, i'll provide them means to continue reaching me. But if they dont, then we can continue to intersect, or not.

    NUF means novel updates forum. inhabitants are referred to as Nuffians
     
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  20. Shizukani

    Shizukani Chronically stressed

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    Hmm actually, I'm used to no goodbyes. It just happens all the time especially on the internet. :blobsleepless: Like people just disappear you know? Or maybe the relationships just fade away. Heck, I do that myself :blobowoevil:. Also, I feel like the no goodbyes are more permanent.
    Usually, those who actually say goodbye would comeback sooner or later :blobrofl:

    Also, if they were dying, I prefer to not be told. I would selfishly like to think that the people who used to be a big part of my life are somewhere out there, living well.
     
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