Discussion How long do you hold a grudge for? And how do you take revenge?

My whole life I’ve held on to grudges till the death bed for some people my dads side of the family after the split had no contact with me so a grudge was born even when one of them was dying and wanted me to see them to apologise I didn’t acknowledge them

 

I see, sometimes I also feel like putting some people on my ignore list because they're too much........ vulgar

 

It depends but I really don't hold grudges often tho. When I do, I ignore those people I'm holding a grudge for.

 

I put people in there because I hate them

 

I’m still pissed off at will smith but I’ve forgotten what he did to offend me but until he apologises to me I’ll never forgive him

 

...Who??

 

From men in black

 

Forgiving is the fastest way to forget them I used to be a person who holds grudges. And still kinda do (for those who can harm me) But those who can't there really is no point. I forget them completely.
As for those who can harm you in the future, trying to understand their point of view has actually caused me to be able to get the out of my head and feel lighter.

I guess one spends so much time feeling indignant about why would someone do this, or where is instant justice.

So half the battle is understanding that you could do the same thing as they did one day, or why they did it. Then you're not revenge obsessed anymore.

 

I don't hate anyone.... I don't think I ever felt pure hatred for someone till now......
At most I find them annoying

 

Mnnn... well, I probably argue with people more than you. There's definitely more content to hate people for when you're doing 1v1 arguments with them. Maybe that's why?

Or if we're discussing something that important to me that I like very much, and they trash it with obviously stupid and ridiculously bigoted lies. Hate level goes up to infinity!!!

 

lol I'm pretty chill with everything... I don't take what others says to heart...... Even if other party is saying something offensive I'll try to be polite and explain that what they're saying feels offensive... And if they don't stop even then... I'll just ignore them...
And if it seems like I'm losing an argument I'll just use some emotes and cover up my embarrassment.... and I don't hate it when someone proves me wrong

 

Yeah, that's what I'm doing~ Putting them in my ignore list so I can ignore their bigoted, racist faces forever, especially when the facts and everything else prove that they're wrong but they are the ones who refuse to admit it~

 

I hold grudges for a looonnnggggg time lmao. My longest grudge was being born.

Haha no, I’m just kidding. Maybe.

On a side note, I didn’t even realize people got into arguments on NUF? It’s so chill here I figure everyone was just doing their own thing, but I guess drama happens

 

Hmm...I think about 16 years?
The other person has terminal cancer now. He won't be hurting anyone any more.
I no longer hate them like I used to.

As for anything else? Nah. It's not worth my time. If we're just butting heads and see things differently I'll just ignore you. If you're a shitty person to me I won't make time for you or have you in my life. If you're gonna be a dick about it, that's your choice. My choice is to be good to myself by being out of that situation. If you're still going to get up in my face and it's online - I'll ignore you. If you do it in real-life and you keep following me around then I'll warn you once and literally beat your ass if you wanna continue after that. Life's incredibly simple if you want it to be.

 

Just what did that person do to hold a grudge for 16 years?!?!

 

did he neuralyze you? Sounds like a side effect

 

Sexually assaulted three children and got away with it since he was under 18 + insufficient physical evidence.

 

I hold it for like a day or so~ Then completely forget about it. Then again, no one did anything so bad that warrants a deep grudge from me so far.

 

Good job holding a grudge against such a beast. He needs to be burned down in a pyre.

 

the only guy that was ever mean enough for me to hold a grudge died of cancer at 21 so... KAMRA