Discussion Would you like someone who is friendly to everyone?

I always go by with disrespect is earned, and even if I'm annoyed by someone, I won't go as far as ignoring them.
The greatest thing i can hope is someone friendly. I may be not close to them, but at least we're cordial. Able to talk with someone to pass time when I'm a sore loner is always the best.

 

I'm crying that's also exactly what she told me, even at that time describing in details which person in which clique is the closest to who. What's good in it is that she can go in and interact with any of them with no awkwardness, but the interaction is so distant and superficial.

Yeah, because you're all too good at this

My sister has found the one she can share deeply with now though, I like seeing that. I hope you have someone like that too, and if not I hope you'll find them soon

 

Haha don't cry *hands handkerchief*
It is just how it is. The plus side of this is that when you do find someone special, the bonds are also greater than most. And there are also moments when you feel like an actual sun, warm but distant. Viewing things in an indifferent manner.

Thanks, I did find people I can share deep bonds with. I'm thankful of them.

 

In the perspective of workplace, being friendly is good. A connection can be made if you're friendly & engaging. But it is a tiring thing to do

 

No, I have relatives who are nice to everyone, even the people the rest of us dislike. They can't stand anyone being upset with them. Sure be polite, but don't be nice to people who don't deserve it.

 

When I read this. I can’t help but think. That’s why good guys finish last.

 

I think it's because people take for granted the good things. Whether it is people or others.

 

Well, I personally try being friendly to everyone, so uhn... Yeah? I think I'd match well with someone that has a similar behavior~

 

For some reason I match better with someone that isn't like me hahaha.

 

Feels like stormy is describing me.

*guards my heart*

Friendly people gets friends easier, but most people wants to be treated special.

 

I dunno, I felt like I was describing myself jk jk

 

Somebody friendly to all wouldn't be a crush, but probably a squish. It seems like the kind of person that would be really comfortable and fun to be around. And I admire socially apt people, so that's attractive I guess.
One advice about dating I remember, is: "watch how the guy treats girls he isn't attracted to". So a guy who treats you especially well, is polite to all, and also guarded seems good cuz he cares about you, has a good character, and won't flirt outside. I don't know if I would find such a person attractive, that depends on other characteristics.
As for myself, I think I'm nice to everybody but not friendly to everybody. I never treated all my classmates like friends but if they needed help, I would help out. And even the ones I had a bad opinion of, I would be cordial. But I could never be friendly with them. Which is a bit of a shame, as I wanted to integrate into my class more, but I didn't have anything in common with them and we didn't match. Being nice is easy, but to be friendly, you have to give a **ck about the other person.

 

I am someone who likes people who are friendly to everyone, and makes them my friends and then, gets jealous / upset because I'm getting treated the same way as everyone else get treated by that person.

 

"A man with no enemies is not a man at all"


- Macho Mein


Honestly it's not friendly with everyone, but just more forthcoming in interacting with everyone....there's no way a person can be social without having any clashes.


They could be very persuasive, open minded, friendly in nature but they will still make enemies no matter what..

Cause


THAT IS MY WILL!

AND MY WILL IS THE LAW!

 

Okay, whatever I am going to say is just my personal opinion based on my personal experience. Do take it with a pinch of salt, okay?

Of course generally being nice (I'd prefer to call it kind instead though tbh) is a good trait that will be welcomed by most people.
If there are people who are hostile towards kind people, probably they have some scars from the past.
Sometimes when one being kind, it can mislead the other party as well.
*A kind person sometimes is a poison to someone lonely.*

Hmm, as for attractiveness, I believe there's something called chemistry.
Sometimes one will be hated or disliked by some people simply because of that. It's very easy for someone to like or dislike someone and that's totally fine. We are just humans after all.
As mentioned above

Just like how one can't just fall in love with anyone just because they are kind.
Or like how one would love one colour and disliking others. That doesn't mean the other colours are 'bad'.

Above all, you don't have to be someone not yourself just to be liked by others. It's perfectly fine if you can't be kind to everyone all the time. The only person you have to be kind to at any given time is yourself.

 

*pat pat pat* Me and my boyfriend have a lot of similarities and I match with him really well, so... Teehee?

 

I like guarded but chill, eSy but hard
Like if it's too easy and they are the world's best friend it's not interesting anymore

 

I start out with kindness and respect and then adjust my attitude depending on the feedback. People-pleasers have a hard life, definitely avoid as partners.