I'm so happy for my daughter

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  1. HentMas

    HentMas Well-Known Member

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    Bit of context, I was married with a woman who had a girl, I met her when the girl was 2 years old, the progenitor was a no show, while dating I asked her if she wanted me to be her dad (we were already steady) and told her "I'm not playing, but I want to take the responsibility, if you don't want that, I will not say anything else and will leave all the responsibility of raising her to you, if you accept me as her dad, I will be her dad and we'll raise her together"

    She accepted, time passed, we had another daughter, 8 years together ended because of X,Y,Z reasons and she moved out, I am still her dad.

    Well, her progenitors family sometimes sought her out, (not him, grandma and aunts) there was some drama as she was growing up, they didn't want to recognize me as her dad, but I never relented on my position and demanded to be recognized and respected as the Childs father, me and mom have final say on everything regarding her.

    So, she was invited to the beach with her progenitor and the family, after talking to her and asking her wishes she told me she missed her aunts and wanted to see her cousins (she's 12) I allowed her to go (mom asked me if I was OK with it, I just asked my daughter if she wanted to go).

    Today she just came back and brought sea shells and stuff from the sea for us, and kept talking excitedly about everything she did with her cousins and how she clicked with an older cousin who likes the same things she likes and stuff like that, I was happy hearing her and joking around we chatted for around 2 hours about this and that.

    I noticed she never mentioned her progenitor, as I was curious I asked her "did your progenitor go?" (yes I know it's petty of me, but whatever, he's not her dad and I never use that word to talk about him) she groaned in frustration.

    "He's so annoying, he kept fussing about me, he came up to me the first day and told me sorry I can't be there for you and gave me 25 bucks, here" she pulled out 100 bucks from her back pack "he gave me all this money, do you want it?"

    I started laughing, she blinked "what?" I smiled and told her "nothing I just found it funny" she also laughed "yeah, it's like he's trying to buy my happiness but it's not as if I'm sad because he's not around, I don't really care about him"

    She doesn't need him.

    She doesn't need him because she's got me.

    I got teary eyed and started joking around "you should have told him you're gonna need therapy and 100 bucks isn't enough"

    She laughed "yeah! I should have asked for more!"

    We kept laughing, chatting, she asked me for dinner and I cooked for her...

    I am her dad.

    And today I'm so proud and happy for her that my heart feels like it's going to burst.

    Just... needed to air my thoughts somewhere hahaha, I'm so happy and wanted to share this story.

    TL;DR: The dude that helped conceive my daughter tried to reach her with money, my girl just found him annoying because she knows I'm her dad, not him.
     
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    peanutbutter_J Well-Known Member

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    ...wish i have a father figure like this
     
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    Congratulations, you are raising a good daughter
     
  4. HentMas

    HentMas Well-Known Member

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    Thanks!
     
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    Lissi 『Queen of Lissidom』『Holy Chibi』『Western Birdy』『⚓』

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    Aw, that's so heartwarming! :blobsmilehappyeyes: The relationship between you two, not the failed bribery attempt :blobrofl:
     
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    HentMas Well-Known Member

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    She was so annoyed, I know it's kind of obvious she would choose the one that takes care of her over the one that doesn't even call her in her birthday but still I felt my self melting because of how she talked, she told me a lot of things he tried to do and she was just annoyed at him, barely even talked to him... I almost pity him... almost haha.
     
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    Bielt 『Planets Eater』『The Sin of Animosity』

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    Man you are the best~!
    And so is your daughter~
    *Thumbs up*

    Who says you can't choose your family?
    I feel really happy and warm reading your history right now~
    Thanks for making my night even better by sharing it~
    >u<)b
     
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    seoktonin burning eyes

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    just woke up and read this, nothing can ruin my mood today its so heart warming omg
     
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    aegis062 Chaotic Demon Emperor

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    "Steps on a godly tasting cookie* does not break eye contact*

    Sometimes our biggest worries are actually as small as an ant, but because these small problems fester in our hearts they seem like mountains.

    Love is cultivated and you as her father even if not biological you have cultivated and cared for her of course it will bear fruit.
    you can't love someone who you met a few times and call them dad since they are never there when it counts the small moments all add up and as she grows up and looks back all those small moment added together she will see mountains instead.
     
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    HentMas Well-Known Member

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    Thank you for the kind words.
     
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    This makes me so happy! (๑˃̵ ᴗ ˂̵)و

    I know a lot of people who have step parents but to them are their real parents. I'm happy for your relationship with your daughter, especially as she nears her teens :sweating_profusely:.

    progenitor is one I haven't heard though. It's not petty, he didn't earn the title so he doesn't get it.
    I've heard sperm donor, the biological, the bio and their name.
     
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    seoktonin burning eyes

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    you cant hurt me ive got a 5 year old brother here
     
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    HAH, I really don't remember his name, he's got so little presence in my daughters life I always just call him the "progenitor" I know grandma and aunts names because they ask to see her every so many months, but that guy is like a comet.

    In Spanish it's more common to use "progenie" (progeny) when talking about the biological family of someone, "progenitor" is just that, biological, doesn't have any other emotional attachment, it's the perfect word to describe his relationship with my daughter.
     
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    :blobjoy: progenitor...Lmao



    Congrats though, all is well that ends well.
     
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    aegis062 Chaotic Demon Emperor

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    WUT?

    Do you mean an older brother that is 5 years older?
     
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    Baldingere Roseau pensant

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    Thanks for the wholesome story to start the day with!
    I wish you many more sweet times with your daughter!
     
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    Zeusomega M.D of Olympus Pvt Ltd. Seeking [Boltzmann brain]

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    No, he meant he has gone through it already.


    5 year olds = mental breakdowns. Also stress trainers.
     
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    seoktonin burning eyes

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    nope lmao a whole 5 year old younger brother
    ^^ correct
     
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    prongsjiisan Apostle of Violence

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    Nice.. as man with several kid I really proud of you. Do not let her go, be good dad.

    (⊃ • ʖ̫ • )⊃ Let me hug you..
     
  20. Ahodesuga

    Ahodesuga °˖✧Aho desu ga, Nani ka?✧˖° 《Liking Fiend》

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    What a precious thread. Thank you for being a kind and loving father, stranger.
     
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