Discussion Do you guys have Counselors/Psychology Dudes/Therapy ?

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  1. Meap

    Meap Well-Known Member

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    The question is in the title.

    With the addition on whether or not it helped, how it was, and if you are willing to share, what problem you had.

    I am thinking of asking for an appointment since I feel like everything is lackluster right now. Might have Depression.
     
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  2. Arcadia Blade

    Arcadia Blade ༼ つ ◕_◕ ༽つ You can do it!!

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    If my family ever found out that I have a mental condition, they would rather send me to a mental hospital rather than a therapist because it's cheaper than actually sending me to get my head check. Plus, I don't think we ever have any therapist here if I recall.

    But I believe that we have priest in case we ever go crazy so its kinda close than having therapy.
     
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    Nai waa Well-Known Member

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    I did see one before because my doctor forced me to. Felt a little awkward since I didn't want to share the story of my life with her, and she can't help me with my problems, which is most how bad and inefficient their heathcare system is.
     
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    Darnest7 Well-Known Member

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    Talking helps. Yes. Healthcare sucks but trying it never hurts. Again nothing will change. Even with therapy if YOU don't let it help, if YOU don't want it to help. It will not help. It's a 2 way street. You have to meet it half way. It's like saying you'll go to the gym, going and just sitting in the lounge. That ain't it people. Yes. It's awkward at first, everything is. But you only get as much as you put in.
    Now, not all therapists are the same, some are great some suck, change them, you have the power to do so. I've had 4. Sometimes you gotta change them cuz they can't help

    I am mad, wrote a long ass reply only to accidentally delete it lol
     
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  5. leo.d.

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    Yes and yes it helped. Dm if I wanna ask anymore questions.
     
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  6. DojaDoge

    DojaDoge Formerly known as Ms.EliteNEET

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    Yes, I have been in therapy and it has helped. There's no shame in it. Sometimes you just need somebody to talk to. It's confidential. There's something called situational depression. Maybe you lost a loved one or broke up with your girlfriend. Maybe you just graduated college and don't know what to do next. Some people are bipolar or OCD, and they take meds. It's a medical condition like asthma or high blood pressure. Princess Di was on meds. Prince Harry goes to therapy. Also, insurance does pay for licensed professionals. You can go to clinics that treat people that don't have insurance too. I'm in the U.S.
     
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  7. missmythical99

    missmythical99 Well-Known Member

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    I have aspergers, and saw a phycologist through most of my childhood, and the best i can say is, it depends. If you get a bad one, then it probably won’t be much help, but if you find a good one you can trust, they can make a world of difference. I was lucky enough to get a really good one, and it’s thanks to her that i’ve come as far as i have. Something to keep in mind is that phycologists aren’t necessarily there to solve your problems. I mean, seeing a phycologist didn’t make my aspergers go away. They’re mostly there to help you learn how to cope with whatever issues you’re facing. They can provide an objective insight that you just can’t get from friends or family, and they have professional training and knowledge on how the mind functions, and can use that knowledge to help you understand why you feel the way you feel, and set goals for improvement. At least, that was my experience with it. Although again, you do need to find one that you synergies with, who you feel like you can be open with. I guess what i’m trying to say is, that i think it’s worth a shot or two. You never know until you try. And if you don’t click with the first one you meet, that’s fine and totally normal. It can take a few tries before you find a phycologist you feel comfortable with, so don’t give up to quickly. Sorry for the essay, i just saw a few other pretty negative replies, and wanted you know that there are positive experiences out there, and it’s not a waste of time. Anyway, good luck stranger. I wish you a better time in the future.
     
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    Darnest7 Well-Known Member

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    Were you diagnosed from the get go? , took my autism almost 22 years to even get considered -_-
     
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    I go to therapy and I also have a masters degree in forensic psychology and honestly, I do recommend therapy to anyone who can afford to go - even if you feel like you might not have any obvious issues, it's still worth going because having a place where you can work through your emotions with someone without judgement is great for just your general mental health. You don't have to be diagnosed with something to go to therapy.
     
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  10. Mr. Tired

    Mr. Tired Professional Idiot

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    Just switched from my old counsellor for 4 years to a new one a few days ago, since we weren't getting anywhere and we agreed a new therapist would be for the best. And he's cool (and his office always smells awesome like fresh coffee and vanilla haha).

    Talking DOES help. It seriously does. And we need to get rid of the negative stigma surrounding mental health, mental illness, and therapy.
    It really isn't something to be ashamed of. It's better to get help than to sit and let it fester anyway. Especially in young adults and men these days.
    Young adults have the tendency to feel alone/ashamed of it and unknowing on who to depend on (wanting to prove themselves as an 'independent adult person'), and young men are pressured to always seem strong and not show emotion in society. (Both of these groups result in bottling up feelings, negative/intrusive thoughts, and even suicide in the end).

    From 2020-2022 there has been a rise in depression and suicide, especially with people feeling lonely or pressured at work/school after getting out of quarantine of course.

    I had mild depression, lack of processing others' emotions, and cognitive thinking issues/judgement since my Freshman year of high school due to my family situation. I started getting better around the beginning of 2020, I referred myself to the school counsellor, and she helped a lot and I was getting better at talking to people and understanding emotional signals again, and I was proud of myself. Then the pandemic hit.

    I was bombarded with anxiety and other crap, and when I had to go finish my senior year I was friendless and constantly anxious. It got so bad, I'd skip some classes I felt overwhelmed in and never ate in the cafeteria. (I still have trouble eating in front of others).
    I was referred to the schools' therapist (I'll call her J).
    It was all confidential, and it helped. J was super friendly and never made me feel uncomfortable. We basically set social goals for me to do every week, and it helped me associate with people and build my confidence back up. I even finished a college class and graduated early with, granted, not astonishing marks, but good enough for me to pass. (I still am a year late on filling out my FAFSA :blobdead: lmao).

    I'm still anxious, drastically less though, and my depression is only a 19/27 which is WAYYY better considering it was a 25/27 only a few months ago. (It's...moderately bad, I know but still better. And I'm proud.)
    I know this was long, sorry.

    A little nugget of information from my old therapist that she told me: "If you overthink your mental health and are thinking 'I'm only doing it for attention/I believe I'm faking it", you most definitely are not." This helped since I constantly was telling myself that I was a 'fraud' and that none of it was 'real' when I was sitting alone, in my room, with no one. Self-doubt is the worse.
    I don't remember the [long] explanation as to why, sorry, but she said it's a mindset that people have, and they end up doubting themself and believing that they're faking it and that they should just ignore their feelings.

    Not related, but it's harder these days to explain to people and express to adults if you're depressed/mentally ill since kids on the internet are glorifying it because they think it's quirky or something and it's :blob_catflip: PISSING ME OFF.

    Thank you. :}
     
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  11. Cutter Masterson

    Cutter Masterson Well-Known Super-Soldier

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    I started seeing one about a year ago. At the time I was trying to listen to things to keep me awake on my long drives for work. I’ve tried coffee and energy drinks. I have tried snacks and audiobooks. But nothing really help. Until I started to listen about cheating in a relationship from the victim side. That got me going. I would get so upset. That it kept me awake. The downside is that I hear so many troubling stories. It sometimes puts me in a funk, but I’m usually able to get my game face on as I walk into a hospital.
    Well, anyway. At the end of the stories I hear how they turn their life around and how they trying to be the best they can be. The common things are going to gym. Spending more time with friends and family. But most of all I hear how they found a councilor, therapist, psychologist or etc. Now that’s were I come in and think. Why did they wait until they have a problem. Instead of finding and working out their problems before hand. So that’s why I have a councilor. I called about my medical benefits and see if they had a list of recommended person. I contacted over 15 or 20 people. Just to see their background and personality. I settled on one. I first hated, but they touch on something I didn’t know I was holding onto subconsciously. So I choose her. This was during covid and no one could really see people yet. So I would lay it all out on her for an hour. One day a month. If I needed more or I need some in person counciling. I’m sure I could get it.
    Now as to it helping…
    Not really. All they do is listen. Possibly prescribe medication. But over all not really.
    The way I see therapy. Is $20 we’re I unload a month worth of good and bad points in my life. Otherwise nothing much. All she usually say is that I need a vacation. Don’t we all. To tell you the truth. I have been thinking about stopping my sessions.
    I mean there are things I am battling. Like the number of times I use porn. Or that I thing about leaving my long term relationship for some cheap thrills. Non of them last long. My life is what it is and it’s comfortable. But sometimes I want to go wild. Probably why the shrink wants me to go on a vacation. Lol.
    Well anyway I hope this helps you. I wish you good luck. If nothing else. You can let loose her. I can say you’ll have at least one willing ear here
     
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  12. Baldingere

    Baldingere Roseau pensant

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    Yeah, I'm seeing a psychologist. She has helped me out a lot with getting through teenage years without too much resentment. I could discuss all my family fights with her and find some closure, and try new ways to approach the conflicts. Now that situation is much better, and our consultations turn more to how to develop better social skills, in terms of making friends. Having somebody listen to me as been a great help. I could tell her things I wouldn't to anyone else, because they were involved in the problem, or often because I didn't want to show people I love any of my bad sides or struggles, because I'm afraid they wouldn't like me anymore. So just being able to talk about it all freely, and have somebody really listen, was a huge help. Because there were a lot of things I felt very ashamed of, like having trouble managing my eating habits, that she could tell me were pretty normal struggles and it didn'treduce my worth as a person. But she is also amazing at giving advice and I've benefited a lot from getting her viewpoint.
    I saw some therapists too, for different one time things. There are a lot of different methods out there. Sometimes it's not the therapist that's bad, it's the method thar doesn't click with you or the problem you want to handle. There are so many methods to try out. I like kinesiology, it has helped a lot for my sugar addiction issues.
     
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    Mr. Tired Professional Idiot

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    *Pat pat*
    I understand the pain, it's happened way too often to me too. TT__TT
     
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    I saw her since i was 8, but i didn’t get an official diagnosis until i was 14. Funnily enough, all my other siblings have it too, though they got diagnosed way before me. I guess my behaviour just seemed more mild compared to theirs.
     
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    I have had speech therapy which was effective.

    I have seen a psychologist for depression although I was misdiagnosed and really had appendicitis.....
    I was even put on anti depressants since I was so "depressed" it was manifesting as stomach pains..
    The opoid epidemic gets a lot of coverage but I think the US has "Anti Depressant Epidemic" too.
     
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    asriu fu~ fu~ fu~

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    no~ not have one
    but once this cat ask a volunteer why you play with children on disaster relief area? she said to reduce stress from children who affected by it which may develop trauma~ well this cat hmm kinda have similar experience, as kitten run away from potential riot~ we can feel the tense but with bunch of kitten play around it help alienate some so maybe it can help, so it good~

    hmmm actually this cat used as dumpsters err the one who receive complaint from some friends about various stuff back on school time~ sometime they asked for this cat opinion or advise sometime they just wanna someone to listen their problems it may not solve the problem but it can relief stress or gain insight how to solve~ the professional should be better tho~

    btw this cat surprised back then when learn about counseling teacher can and may help student problems, we think counseling teacher only responsibility on punishment..... and rarely student seek advise from them.....

    personally this cat think if you have problems feel free to ask for help.... as for solving it that another story~

    fumu this cat quite narcissistic~
     
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    Obserwator [Gamer of Life] [Naturalist] [Universalist]

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    I had it multiple times, it slowly worked changing me from someone who thought his life is worthless to someone who now thinks that everyday is holiday. And from time to time I help others but only if they really need help and ask for it.
     
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