How many here who read romance have ever been in a relationship?

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Have you been in a serious relationship(at least more than a year)

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  1. LeniSnow

    LeniSnow New Pretty Member

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    I want to know if there is a correlation between reader's comments on mc and ml relationship with their real life experience.

    Thank you
     
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  2. ShadowAscetic

    ShadowAscetic Well-Known Member

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    I've never been in relationship for more than 25 years so no. I just like to read other people's romantic journey. It's the same as reading people's rant about their relationship on social media but it's more fun
     
  3. Seigin

    Seigin [Lolicon][GenderBender Banzai!]

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    Heck I'm rotting here at my home alone.....

    Well personally i hope those romance novels happened to me but reality says otherwise. :cookie:

    Often People's negative comments regarding romance is when the romance itself is completely absurd or forced, like when the female lead tripped then was catched by the male lead that made her heart doki doki.

    Then positive comments where they relate with the characters (possibly happened to them too) or within the realm of reason.
     
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  4. SwordDrake

    SwordDrake Slice of Life Lover

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    Nah I'm too comfortable in my own life to share it with another
     
  5. evelynannb

    evelynannb Well-Known Member

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    My standards have been set too high lmao
     
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  6. Esha07

    Esha07 ☄your favorite meanie࿐ྂ

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    blobmelt_thumbs no relation.
    I like romance but I have trust issues.
    Even though I am the one who gives all my mingled friends dating advice.
     
  7. LeniSnow

    LeniSnow New Pretty Member

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    Being humble is good.
     
  8. Oni412

    Oni412 Well-Known Member

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    I had been in a relationship more than 5 years ago, and romance in real life really sucks. It's much better to just sit around and read books than that.
     
  9. Nimroth

    Nimroth Someone

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    Never been in one myself, and don't think I even want to either.
     
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  10. Resplendor

    Resplendor High Lord of Souls

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    Nearly a year, but not quite.
    And I wouldn't say it was serious.
    A few dates afterwards, here and there throughout the next 10 years with various peeps. Then found out I was Ace and never looked back. Happily single.
    But I've seen enough bad go to really bad in real life relationships to recognize it in fiction.
     
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    onnyfp Well-Known Member

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    I've been in several relationships before. All I can say is, it's best you think of fiction as fiction.
     
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  12. D_Ladypresident

    D_Ladypresident Active Member

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    Same here and I try to convince myself all the time that it doesn't exist in reality
     
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    Bobwillrule Supreme Ruler of Bobylon

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    I like the vast majority of us is no. Greetings to fellow single comrades.
     
  14. LeniSnow

    LeniSnow New Pretty Member

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    I remember liking your viewpoint on a topic in another thread.
     
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    frrama Well-Known Member

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    Yup, I've been in a relationship for years (in fact "for most of my adult life", at this point).

    ...But I'm not convinced it has affected my views on romantic fiction all that much. I started to read romances as a pre-teen (8+ years before I had any relevant life experience on the subject) and was always aware that much of what I was reading was wildly unrealistic, whether because it was too idealised, or the opposite. Based on the multiple "toxic romance/trashy leads" threads this forum has seen lately, I'm continuing on the assumption that OP was mostly curious about comments on all the negative, unhealthy relationships portrayed in fiction...

    Even as a very sheltered pre-teen, I recognised at least 80% of the toxic bullshit in books more or less for what it was; I just had a lot more confusion on what would motivate people to write it. Mini-me tended to simplify things with the gloriously arrogant attitude that "This author is, or these characters are, completely idiotic" whenever I started wondering to myself why so many of the romances I read featured terrible people being jerks to one another in various ways.

    Older me takes a more nuanced view: different people like different things, YKINMK, etc. I might still gripe from time to time about general trends (and especially if they're things that feature heavily in books aimed at younger and more impressionable readers; with hindsight I'm actually quite thankful mini-me took such an uncompromising attitude and was never brainwashed into thinking the crap I read passed as normal or acceptable, but just because I was unwilling to alter my views based on fictional examples doesn't mean nobody ever will), but not so often about specific instances of things I don't like. Generally I just quietly drop it and move on to the next item on my list of things to read.
     
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  16. Aqua_the_idiot

    Aqua_the_idiot my decisions are justified by my name

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    Nah I consider myself kind of young to be in a relationship but seeing that how many classmates of mine are in a relationship, I feel lucky that I am not in one because how "stressful" it is. I would rather use my time squealing about how cute the lead couple is in the novel.
     
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  17. Aisha Ann

    Aisha Ann I LOVE SELFISH VILLAINESS

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    Never being in relationship, I am happy being single. Reading romance novel make me want to be single forever.
     
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  18. asriu

    asriu fu~ fu~ fu~

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    been there done that~
    tbh as long as someone socializing enuf despite not ever been romantic relationship stuff they will have kinda opinion on reality of relationship~
     
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  19. Saorihirai

    Saorihirai Well-Known Member

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    It’s worrisome. My dad recently started asking me about marriage and I…puked internally. I told him to never bring that up and to forget about whoever he was thinking of introducing me to. I proceeded to feel horrible at that thought and I felt like I was moving through this dump of rotten sludge for 3 days at the mere thought of marriage to a another human being.

    I doubt I’ll ever fall in love
     
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    I am not sure if I would ever get into a real life romantic relationship with another.
     
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