I think I traumatized my brother

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Have you ever being caught reading *ahem* S M U T / B L *ahem* in public

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  3. No but I caught someone else

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  1. sleepandeatallday

    sleepandeatallday [Goddess of Chaos] [An unprofessional therapist]

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    So, I read BL. I come from South East Asia and there people are not really open with topics about LGBTQ. Fortunately people are getting more aware now.

    So this happened one time that I was reading a BL book. My younger brother came in and asked what book I was reading. I told him it was about the romance between a Prince and the son of a President. He said ok but then he did a double take. He said okay wait up. This is a boy and that is a boy.

    I was like yeah they both are boys, so? I appeared chill but inside I was panicking. I didn't want my brother to be a homophone. And then my brother shouted "and this is a romance book? Between boys?". Poor him. He looked like his whole world was a lie.

    I said " yes it is a romance book between two guys." . And then came the awkward silence. My brother looked at me and then slowly inched away from me and then went to play games. And ever since then he doesn't speak of it even if he has seen me reading the book multiple times.

    Do you think I traumatized him? I think he is cool with me reading BL but he doesn't wanna talk about that incident ?
     
  2. SuouNono

    SuouNono Well-Known Member

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    idk sounds fine to me. He was gonna find out gays exist one way or another
     
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    AliceShiki 『Ms. Tree』『Magical Girl of Love and Justice』

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    No, that's not how trauma works.

    At most he might have been shocked or maybe confused, but that's about it. Dunno how old your brother is, but this really isn't a big deal. He will probably laugh about it in a decade or so, assuming he still remembers it by then.
     
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    MangoGuy Rambling Mango

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    It probably would have been traumatic if he read/saw actual BL sex etc... seeing that for the first time can be a huge culture shock. But just romance is just making him curious.
     
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    The Hamster Overlord Mad scientist/Revered wizard/Alleged antichrist

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    I guess it is the same as him catching you masturbating or doing something else that was indecent. It is more natural to pretend that didn't happen
     
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    Aqua_the_idiot my decisions are justified by my name

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    Depends on your brother's age, if he is like a kid then he is confused and if he is a little older then he is shocked and isn't able to comprehend it.

    I am from South Asia and I understand this lol
     
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    Not exactly traumatize, but you could have followed up with an explanation and told him these things are normal and hope that he doesn't discriminate.
     
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    Cutter Masterson Well-Known Super-Soldier

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    Maybe a little, but it’s good that he sees there are other horizons outside his box. This is far more light hearted than other ways he could have found out. Personally, making it not a big deal will probably make it more easier to handle. Besides hiding it or denying it will have a worse effect. I think you did alright. Considering the subject matter
     
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  9. sleepandeatallday

    sleepandeatallday [Goddess of Chaos] [An unprofessional therapist]

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    :blobfearful::blobfearful::sweating_profusely:

    Oh he is just two years younger. I think he'll manage. LOL
     
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    I dont know if it's the same but, once I caught my younger brother wacthing hentai anime. The one with boobs big like melon.
    Just few seconds yet I felt my hair turned white.
    We never talked abt it.
     
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    sleepandeatallday [Goddess of Chaos] [An unprofessional therapist]

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    That must have been quite awkward. I think I could relate. I caught my older cousin reading BL smut manga on her phone. She was scared stiff. That's how I knew she read those too. Now we are really cool about it and share recommendation to each other. In fact she was the one who introduced me to animes and shoujo Mangas. And now I became a mobile addict.
     
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    Kaylee Well-Known Member

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    I guess the diference is in the gender?
    If that was not a brother but sister, I might not feel so brain dead and traumatic.
     
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    Mount Tai Unleashed This one has tai but can't see mount eyes

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    out of sight out of mind is what I think he's experiencing right now, either that or he just completely erased that part of his memory
     
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    Lol... It's quite a shock to him, eh? I think this will broaden his knowledge about romance
    But I don't expect this to happen in real life (⁄ ⁄•⁄ω⁄•⁄ ⁄)
    Good job there (✧ω✧)