1. Don’t fantasize about what could’ve happened if this person were different. You can’t control someone else’s actions, you can’t make someone love you. The more you indulge in wishful thinking, the more you’ll be hurt.
2. Don’t keep following them on social media, don’t keep checking their Facebook updates, status , posts and pictures. Don’t give into hate following- not good for you.
3. Don’t give in to the urge to stoop to their level and act like them. Keep reminding yourself about your values and let them guide you. Your resentment towards towards them won’t change how they treat you. So, let go of anger and bitterness.
4. Try and refrain from talking about them- casual mentions, complain and gossip. The more you talk about them, the more difficult it’ll be to stop thinking about them.
5. Don’t replay what they said and did to you. Don’t let the memory of an undesirable event hurt you again and again. Think about a positive event, and every time you’re about think about the unfortunate event, replace it with the positive event. It doesn’t matter how far you’ve played the negative movie, press the pause button and switch to a positive channel.
6. If they’ve done damage to you, focus on how you can improve your situation. Don’t think about how you can make them pay. Don’t get distracted from improving your life.
7. Keep praying. Be patient- keep living with your values. None of your hard work will go vain, you’ll become a stronger Muslim and inshaAllah-
Have patience, Allah(swt) doesn’t deny the rewards of the righteous. (11:115)
If you’re feeling bad about yourself, you can focus on these ways to please Allah(swt)-
Don’t treat them the way they treated you.
Don’t retaliate
Don’t back bite about them
Don’t complain about them
Don’t gripe on social media about them
Don’t make assumptions about their faith/iman
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