*pats ell*
it just depends on your viewpoint
you are the normal for being you no matter what, since there is no other you!
so you can be however you want~
That's what makes people interesting, anyways
@Tilgarial Calling other people abnormal isn't a ~cute and trendy~ different viewpoint. Please, this is a papercut across my heart every time straight people do this to me.
Owo?
I didnt call you abnormal. just as ell is the normal for being ell, you are the normal for being you. people are people, and everybody is different, but that doesnt mean anybody is wrong or fake or whatever, they're just... different? a world where everybody is the same would be boring
@Tilgarial Straight people who say "I'm not gay, I'm normal" are saying that gay people are abnormal whether they put thought into it or not. Your comment makes it sound like you're saying it's okay to say things like that.
*thinks*
well, I'm sorry if that's how it sounded like, then
but i didnt exactly mean her orientation?
I meant more like... everything
orientation is really just one point where people differ from each other.
and the initial comment is something i would have said to basically anybody, with the rare exclusions being unrelated to the current topics
@Isti Ell ooh I see, I figured since you said it's difficult for you to be attracted to guys, you'd be attracted to girls more but apparently not haha xD it seems like you're quite unfamiliar with sexualities other than straight?
*pats* it may feel strange at first to think about things you're unfamiliar with but isn't it also interesting? You'll be able to know and understand more things and people if you explore different topics~
*smile~* if its just a little, i do understand it. But, when the joke become too deep i dont quite understand it.
*nod nod* i think i will be able to know and understand more things in the future~
(^_^)
It does come across as homophobic in a semi-serious, semi-casual conversation about sexuality. Perhaps you’re gay, and most of the people here know you’re gay, and you’re making a joke, but otherwise it comes across as insensitive.
ah no, it is just something i often say before doing something pretty gay =P
i mean if you don't laugh in the bedroom where would you?
also i'm french https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lLUK75i2Cd0
So you're bi huh... pity it's not "this guy is gay AAAAND european" hahaha xDD uuuh that song :'D
A lot of humour is sorta insensitive e.g. the "no homo" jokes. Frankly, I think a lot of them are funny xD but well, everyone has their boundaries and lines when it comes to humour :D
I asked a friend who’s bi, and she said that it was mostly used as a joke among the queer community, poking fun at homophobia. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ So I guess I was just being oversensitive. Or maybe there is a regional difference.
@Anra7777 It is, but you need to be in a context where everyone knows you're not straight to make those jokes - otherwise you get an understandably bad reception.
@Zaart No - that just leads to people thinking it's okay to go on hurting you or to do worse. I don't mind joking with others who have suffered the same as me, but that's a different dynamic.
well i guess we will have to agree to disagree on that =P
and i can stilll tell peoples when they go too far ^^
and since i am known to be quite easy going social pressure then take care to improve their behavior
and afterward i can even befriend that someone \o/
then everyone is happy =D
(well yeah sometime it fail but then i let others to be offended in my stead and take care of it =P)
Also, I like thinking that nobody is normal and that anyone trying to pushing normality into others is someone trying to stifle you into an ideal of "productive member of society" that is not only unrealistic, but will also crush you if you seriously try achieving it.
As for the jokes... I think any joke can be made, but they need the right context.
Using an example of a drama that happened a long time ago in my country, there was a comedian that made a joke about how an ugly raped woman should be happy about it because they'd never have sexual intercourse if it wasn't for rape.
Because well... Telling a woman that went through rape that they should be happy about it is never a good idea.
... OTOH, if he just wants to make that joke among his personal circle of friends, I don't see why not. They'll just laugh at it and understand that it is not a serious statement and move on.
*is out of likes* interesting... that's not a very nice joke to make, though I wonder how they managed to make him actually pay for it? xD I'd understand social backlash but legal consequences for a joke.... makes me curious about the specific reason according to the law
I'm quite open to things in quite a morally and ethically questionable level. I'm not one to do them, but I'm one to be okay with them, to say for the least.
As for jokes, I personally think that anyone can say whatever they want. But what they say is, in of itself, different from its corresponding context and response/reaction.
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