It could help to figure out first why you didn't develop it as you grew up. And then address it base on that, taking baby steps. Whether it's from fear, low self-esteem, lack of interest, hard to figure out emotions, etc.
I used to be like that, then I went to college and I acquire the art of not giving fucks
@Alejo its more that they would explain something to me like, “NaOH isn’t strong enough to deprotonate the crude product” and I went “oh” and she just stood there. She was clearly expecting something else and slowly back away. Like bruh, why why why.
Another time, the professor was expecting me to talk back, but I was trying to process the information and write down notes so he started talking to someone else. I really wanted to slam my head against the desk
What those situations are telling is that you're unable to follow up on rapport and might be quite slow. Doesn't mean that you don't have social skills though and it doesn't mean you have to push yourself to be responsive either even when others seem to expect it. What can you do? Sometimes, there's really nothing to say.
For me, again, I'd rather have someone who doesn't talk much but understands the words I am saying rather than someone who talks a lot and makes no sense. Your social skills might just not be developed or perhaps not up to what is required by your environment 'cause you yourself feel that you are lacking so, I agree with Snow that it will help to understand why your social skills is at its current state.
Introspect and learn but, do not beat yourself up for it. You will improve so long as you are willing to learn by exposure. You'll get it, my friend. Besides, there's always a bigger dragon to slay.
Same..sniper…I also have a hard time..at talking…Good luck on your journey on learning how to be an extrovert…Loll, it kind of sounds like you’re converting from one religion to the other….
First bring the fav food of your prof then engage in conv, like asking how is her/his day... And ask anything that would make him interested or you can skip it Then ask about your problem...
If you want, you can write yourself a little script and then practice it beforehand. Or you can make an appointment to see the Prof and attach some questions so that he or she will know what you will be discussing. The Prof will think you are very organized and you know what to talk about @hypersniper159 . Simply say, "hello how are you?" Ask questions. Say thanks and leave. Do NOT beg for points.
When Doge was in academia, I met people from several different departments. Almost half are introverted and/or neurodivergent. They have spent half their lives doing research and writing. They have no people skills.
Doge spent one summer sitting between 2 up and coming scholars. One constantly picked his nose and rubbed whatever he found on his shirt. You could see snot on it. The other had a large hole in his sandal. He spent his time picking skin from this hole and eating it. They are professors now.
@By.Eve that and the fact they don’t know what you put in it. They could be allergic to anything and then you accidentally fed them food they were allergic too, which will be entirely your fault.
@MsEliteNEET i already do that, and I think I impressed one? Not too sure. But honestly this is such a awkward skill to develop. It’s easy to do on paper, but irl? It’s nearly impossible.
No not really? Why would I? I also don’t have anxiety when I talk to strangers. It’s just that I am always quiet and have nothing to say so now when I actually need to say something, I’m at a total loss.
Then you should try to find your proff's fav food. Or anything related to her/him.
I do that,,,
Sometimes i just ask my prof "Miss i made some Lapis Legit -cake name- would you like some?! " if she didn't answer i just hang that cake in her door room.
And i will send a message again to her "Miss, i hung that cake to your room please enjoy it and share with who ever you want"
Other proff of mine, like to hunt a discount in the market then i also like to share them with him...
"sir,,, in xx market there is a coupon and discont from twenty to fouth persen if you buy couple shirt"
@hypersniper159 yes, it takes practice. I rehearse in my head. Sometimes I see Prof. Fiance talking to himself. It's pretty much the same thing. He is practicing what he's going to say.
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