A dilemma of mine..

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by girlcatgirlcat, Apr 24, 2021.

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Should I stay or leave NUF?

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  1. girlcatgirlcat

    girlcatgirlcat Well-Known Member

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    **RESOLVED**
    I’m staying, thanks for all the kind words!

    So I’ll keep this brief, but...

    I’ve been feeling a bit guilty being on NUF, like I shouldn’t be here. I feel like if my friends irl knew about this account, it would make their views change on me, and they wouldn’t trust me. But it makes me so happy to see you all and have fun, I truly love being here, watching anime, reading manga & novels and listening to Evillious music. It’s so nice to see that there are weird people out there like me!

    So, should I stay on NUF or leave?
    I want to stay, because it makes me feel happy, but I’m not sure. I’d like to see all of your views on how I should deal with this. I’ve been doing all this in secret for a while now, and I was wondering if I should just get rid of all of them, or if I should just keep going until someone might find out? I use a different email by the way.


    updates xD
    My friends and family know I like anime, but they don’t know that I watch a ton of it. Now some of my friends like The Promised Neverland, but yeah.
    My parents think that Japanese anime and manga aren’t good for me, and I’m not saying I want to read/watch hentai or anything (although I did for a short while and it’s pretty disgusting, I did like some of the stories though) all I really want to do is read stuff like MHA, Death Note, AoT, and stuff like that. They just think it’s weird.
    Also, I’m not saying that I’d be embarrassed to be seen as using NUF, I just think that my friends wouldn’t understand why I use it and they’d think I’m keeping secrets. And no, these friends are not the kind of friends that can keep secrets. Not that they’d gossip, but they’d tell their friends and family. They think it’s absolutely illegal to keep a secret from your parents-which I think is wrong, but not to a certain extent. And I’m not really keeping a secret, I just don’t really feel comfortable with anyone else knowing

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    I’ve been thinking about dumping some of my friends, but our parents are so close, it would be too hard.
    I also only come on at night, or just for a minute to talk.
    None of it has affected me, I usually act normal. I’d say I’m pretty mature, I could watch a whole hentai unfazed. It doesn’t make me act sexual or anything. The only times I don’t act normal is when I have my OWN anxiety/depression attacks where my feelings just get out of control, but that is unrelated.


    resolved note:
    Thank you all so much. I love having this!
    By the way, this is basically my friend group:

    me: what’s up!
    friends: hi nothing
    *whispering and hiding what they say from me*
    Me: *is depressed*
    Friends: we give you time to talk alone. stop sulking
    me: *crys*
    friends: OMG ARE U OK
    me: ya I’m fine sorry
    friends: lol ok
    me at 3am: *listens to Sorry by Halsey*
     
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  2. Parth37955

    Parth37955 NU #3, [Dead Inside], Mid-Boss, Dark Dealer Staff Member

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    Get out while you can

    I'd be caught dead with a username girlcatgirlcat

    I told a friend about NU and used kumoko as an example...he told people I was reading spider porn. Your friends will shun you if they learn you're a weeb. Leave this site and never return.

    This place will consume your life. One day, you're a normal weirdo and then suddenly you gain all this power. You use said power and sometimes go too far and then fall into depression because someone threatened to dox you but you come back because you're addicted and somehow you're still here after 5 years and a lot of people who you knew are gone and new people keep showing up and they won't read the rules you wrote and then they whine when you enforce the rules or just outright disrespect you. Is that what you want? Get out while you still can.
     
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  3. Westeller

    Westeller [Maid] [Cat boy] [Girly] [Watchu Looking at?] Staff Member

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    You lost me. Are you seriously asking if you should drop all of your hobbies because you think your friends and family might not understand? ... I mean, I could kind of get it if your hobbies involved serial homicide or screwing corpses, but.. watching anime? Reading novels and manga? Are you serious? ... That shit isn't up to anyone but you. ... And why on earth would you think they'd care, anyway? Do *you* care what so and so's favorite tv shows are? Really? Is that what you spend your waking hours pondering?
     
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  4. otaku31

    otaku31 Well-Known Member

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    NUF is mostly harmless, tho. Perhaps a bit cringey at best. Why are you treating it like some evil organization out for world domination that you wouldn't want to be recognised as a part of? :blobwhistle:
     
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  5. tekinwillie

    tekinwillie TEKING / SIX of HEART

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    Just saying this from my point of view. If they really are your friends why would they hold you having an account here in a bad light? I have told friends and family about the site at one point or another. Those that aren't weebs don't care and those that are in the know make fun of me in jest.
     
  6. ANonMouse

    ANonMouse Well-Known Member

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    Don't let your friends know about the account then? After all, those friends will eventually filter over the years, and some of them you might get closer to but others you might drift apart. Most people have different sides of themselves they show to different social groups (friends, family, strangers, etc.). There's nothing wrong with having a little place for the part of you that's hidden, esp since it lets you share those passions with strangers in a relatively safe way (as long as you don't put your personal details here). And maybe a few years later when you feel you've gotten even closer to a friend or two compared to the others, you can share this side of you to them if you trust them.
     
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  7. Nao Otosaka

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    Honestly, it depends on you. Whether you want others thoughts to hinder your own decisions or not is also up to you. When I saw this thread I realized that even my friends aren't aware of this little hobby of mine, but I don't think it's a necessity to reveal to them. I know with time, maybe the appeal of the web novels would wear out and who doesn't have one or two secrets which they haven't shared with anybody? NU allows me to decompress, though a temporary solution it's pretty helpful. I didn't need to tell them about my secret because I got friends over here who have the same hobbies as me with whom I could talk to. But it's upto you whether you want to say something to them about this or not in the end of the day.
     
  8. Frozen ink

    Frozen ink Legally had harem『Cathulu』Power of Love & Evil』

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    make ur friends watch boku no pico and come out of the closet being who you are and enjoying what u want is better than suffocating fam

    so long as u dont harm others who gives a fk what u do

    THIS IS IMPORTANT SO LONG AS U DONT HARM! others who the fk cares
     
  9. MisterBubbles

    MisterBubbles [The Omnipotent No. 2 at Everything]

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    It's not like it is a bad hobby, and it is okay to be into different things than the people around you. If they don't get it, then they don't get it. It is not the end of the world and it is definitely not the something to be ashamed about. People care less about what you are into than you'd think.

    Besides, I doubt having a NUF account is any worse than any other type of social networking one. :cookie:
     
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  10. HamsterOverlord-sama

    HamsterOverlord-sama Silently preparing for a Hamster military invasion

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  11. Nightow1

    Nightow1 Well-Known Member

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    Hey, I often go to this site where it updates me on English translated Asian novels!

    I'm such a monster. Lol.

    I really can't see why you should feel that a novel announcement site is such a shame unless your friends are really really racist against Asians

    Wait, isn't this the world domination forum??!!:eek:
     
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  12. opath422

    opath422 Well-Known Member

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    My friends also don't really know about by hobby as well, and i don't mind. I'm not keeping a secret from them or anything, i'm just choosing not to tell them ig? anyways i wouldn't really mind them knowing because if they were really my friends they wouldn't care. I also know it's hard to cut people out of your life, but if you feel like your "friends" would shun you just because you read novels or manga, then you shouldn't be hanging out w/ them.

    Honestly you do you, but at the end of the day if you enjoy being on NU, and making friends on here then stay here. Also you don't have to be that secretive about going on NU, it's not like your friends are on your phone and computers search history. For example, i'm not really that into manga, anime, or web novels irl (like really showing it off in way?) But it doesn't mean that i'm not spending unhealthy amount a day of reading web novels each day, i just have multiple hobbies. Just know that you shouldn't have to feel pressured about making friends online, listening to music, and reading things that you like, if you like it do it and if you don't then stop.
     
  13. HamsterOverlord-sama

    HamsterOverlord-sama Silently preparing for a Hamster military invasion

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    Shhhh!
     
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  14. kynjikun

    kynjikun Well-Known Member

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    Just stay nothing wrong with that, not unless if it's interfering with your irl friendships?
     
  15. asriu

    asriu fu~ fu~ fu~

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    WELCOME TO THE DARK SIDE!
    EMBRACE YOUR DARK DESIRES!
    TAKE IT!
    LET YOUR SOUL BASH UNDER THE DARKNESS CALLED NUF!

    meh, NUF is chill~
    wut cha doing tho? licking BL couple or something?
    if they insult, ya can ask how to insult back~ many nuffian is expert insult other, slapping other face, mind control human etc to point make normie coughing blood and can't tell which north or south
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  16. Cutter Masterson

    Cutter Masterson Well-Known Super-Soldier

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    I’m going to tell you something you already know, but may not realize it yet. You should NEVER have someone else as your reason for happiness. You must always be in your core, happy with yourself. It’s not selfish to think of yourself as a worthy person.
    Personally, I feel that finding a purpose in life or a dream come true activity is the goal of every single person on this planet. What flows from that purpose/ activity are the real friends your looking for. These friends maybe the ones your concern about. You’ll never know unless you ask.
    Talking is the key to any relationship. Especially, worthwhile ones.
    You know nowadays people of all walks of life have seen anime, maybe even mangas. It’s not really a bad thing anymore.
    You are more than an avid reader. You are so much more! You are a friend worth having.
    Whatever happens I wish you luck
     
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  17. Lissi

    Lissi 『Queen of Lissidom』『Holy Chibi』『Western Birdy』『⚓』

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    Of course stay! We can play and talk together!! NUF is nothing to be ashamed of in the first place~ :blobtaco:

    Don't dump your irl friends though! That will be sad :blobpats:

    Plus... your parents/friends might not understand (my parents/friends don't either), but I don't think that directly equates to disapproval? So shouldn't be that bad :sweating_profusely:
     
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  18. Bobasis

    Bobasis NUF addict~<3 ~ a big dumbo~<3

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    I had this problem weeks ago. But honestly I thought about it I love this place . I’ve met so many people.
     
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  19. ongoingwhy

    ongoingwhy Pomu

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    ...sounds like you're hanging out with the wrong folks. :blobpeek:
     
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  20. girlcatgirlcat

    girlcatgirlcat Well-Known Member

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    Thank you guys. Really! I feel like I need to stay, and I’d love to.