I need advice on how to deal with a work colleague, he started working where I work about 3 months ago and was a complete noob. I helped him out with everything and even when he was stuck he use to call me and I use to spend 30 mins to 1 hour directing him on how to solve the problem. Management had a problem with him not doing his job correctly so I helped him out a lot as I didn't want to see him get fired Fast forward a few weeks later, were friends now and talk regularly, he asks me if he can borrow money of me, I tell him I can lend him the money but will have to see my paycheck at the end of the month This is where the problem lies, when I finished my shift and another colleague came to work he told me to call the colleague (friend) and ask him if he can come down and just hang out, I told him I will give him a call and he told me I bet you he wont answer when you call, so I called him believing he would answer and then guess he didn't, then my other colleague called him and he answered straight away . I thought we were friends and he made a fool out of me, so I ave not answered all his calls for the whole week and just kept making excuses up, he messaged me and told he finishes work at 14:00 and that I should turn up abit earlier so he can go home on time, I replied back saying I will try and then he replied try lol At this point I dont feel like being his friend or lending him large amount of money
Yeah stay away from this kind of person. It never ends well. There was a guy at my job who was like this, he borrowed money from a bunch of people, who didn't know about the others, and then quit. His listed address and phone number were fake and cops showed up looking for him after he quit. Turns out that he did the same at a bunch of other places too.
he saw your niceness and took it as weakness *shrug* he used you like a tool btw, this is why you don't become real friends with your workmates. Being workpals is fine but when one or both of the people involved think they are friends, there's always boundary issues and when things goto shit, it affects your work efficiency as well
Rule 1. Never lend coworkers money for anything other than a lunch. Rule 2. Coworkers are not your friends unless they are actually your friends. Rule 3. You have no obligation to help your coworker do their job.
Are you seriously going to lend him money when you only knew him for such a short time? 3 months is still rather short to the point of giving money.
Never involve money in friendships. It almost always end bad. I would suggest slowly distancing yourself from him.
Alright well that seems rough, and the best answer I have for you are written contracts are your best friends and I don't have any more advice for you about lending money besides get it on paper and signed ...and maybe recorded :/
Thank you guys, I think Im really stupid, just realised I havent known him that long and was about to lend a lot of money. Also thank you I will slowly distance and only treat him as a co worker from now on
Wish you well and all the best money is your time and effort and typically should only be used or dulled out when thought over as a rule of thumb.
lend money as charity ... Don't even think about getting it back Thats why you don't give what you can't spare. they say 20% of people do 80% of the work that needs to be done. So you're probably gonna fail 4 times before you find the right friend.
Myself having been scammed by a 'friend', it really sucks. I only have just a few friends, so was really looking forward to having someone to hang out and discuss the most irrelevant topics known to humanity, too bad that drew a target over my head. Wish you better luck!
Girl, you are too innocent! Don't act on impulse, okay. You should consider the consequences. But then again, there are a few ppl like you in the world. You guys are like diamonds in a coal mine. Thumbs up to you