I had a period in my life (around mid-late teens) where I was experimenting with dating and such and ended up having a long string of short relationships with really shitty people. I assume many of us were like that as teens though but what I want to know is how those shitty ex-boyfriend/girlfriends have changed your preferences when it comes to choosing a partner. I’ll start; for me I really started paying attention to how a guy treats customer service workers when we’re out dining or eating because I decided for myself that I didn’t enjoy having an arrogant snobbish person as a boyfriend
I look at whether a guy can take responsibility for his actions and not shift the blame. (Idem for girls btw). Also I listen out for the “constant complaining “ - it would get too tiring after awhile. Late risers, I’m an early morning person (if I do sleep and not on NU all night that is ). When a person is too messy or can’t clean up after themselves or on an agreed schedule... also I noticed that the basic ideas such as where to live, the two parties need to have similar... if you like tropics and I like Alaskan climate we would not work out, eventually (one of the reasons my past relationship didn’t work out) and the most important: cheating. After getting burned once I start running for the hills at first sign... maybe that’s unfair or premature but to waste my time on a cheater was worse... at least that’s how I feel now.
Rather than snobbish, I’d say that’s more of a case of manners. So, your preferences would match men who are either genuinely very nice or more likely have had manners beat into them by a good mother, father, or both.
Yeah, cheaters are never a good idea to get together with. It always baffled me how some of my friends would “housebreak” as in get together or cheat with someone dating someone else, then act surprised when the person they get with cheats or gets housebroken by someone else.
On the contrary, someone who lacks self-confidence and apologizes too much can also become a pain for your own moral on the long run
But there are people out there who have been taught manners but will choose not to utilize them towards some people because they’re prejudiced
I have the worst history possible So its goes as follow: Divorced, beheaded, died, divorced, beheaded, survived
I got asked out by a girl once, there was a group of bullies that would bother me at the time so I just assumed she was trying to join in and rejected her though...
Break Up to one of my Ex due to she is too materialistic. So after her most important trait I look for is non-materialistic humble girl like my current fiancee. One of wife candidate that my late mother choose is good. however her family is quite materialistic... asking for RM 100k dowry. So I just told her sorry girl, we just didn't meant to be together. Well basically, I avoid @Ai chan, people like @Ai chan, and materialistic girlfriend like @Ai chan