Discussion Dealing with depression

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  1. onnyfp

    onnyfp Well-Known Member

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    Hey guys.
    There are many people in my life who are dealing with depression. They feel negative about themselves, they feel meaningless, they feel like a failure, and so on. And it goes on for a long time already.
    So, I'm pretty sure some(many) of the people here have experience in that. If so, how do you deal with it?
    If you're still having it, how does it affect your daily life?
    If you've had it, but got over it, how did you got over it?
    I personally had depression in the past but I got trough it because I have found a purpose. But I want to know and understand how other people deal with it and if it's possible, help them feel better.
    Thank you in advance.
     
  2. Digix

    Digix Owl-sama Follower

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    exercise
    write down feelings
    eat good things
    sleep regular hours
    remind yourself, over and over and over, that things will get better
    therapy and expecting more be vocal
     
  3. Nathan

    Nathan Not-staving graduate

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    Easy, just take some pills.
     
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    TheHoblit Peak Dual-Cultivator

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    +1 to sleeping better hours, really helped me start to get better
     
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  5. MangoGuy

    MangoGuy Rambling Mango

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    This is serious eh...well, the most obvious answer would be to meet a professional, or spend some time with a supportive family.
    I had gone into a depression but my mom pulled me through by explaining how as long as I lived, no matter how good or bad I lived, I can always find something better in life.
     
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  6. Guradu Gilgida

    Guradu Gilgida 【Gentleman】【Tembikar Demon】

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    Smoke weed.
     
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  7. Hutya

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    All you have to do is share your problems with the one you trust it helps
     
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    MangoGuy Rambling Mango

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    I agree with the sleeping more. However, you must have limited sleep.
     
  9. Hutya

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    Let's smoke weed every day
     
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    vyragd horo a qt

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    i just watch twice videos for mood booster when im depressed. no kidding
     
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    yotae Drunkard Emperor

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    Just search a goal, sport, martial arts, reading, fixing something, more than your job you need something that break your everyday life.
     
  12. PenguinXeus

    PenguinXeus Just A Penguin, Kigurumi Wakuseijin

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    to find and do thing that still excite you
     
  13. Stiw99

    Stiw99 Well-Known Member

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    Can't get throught this so just found something to do, for example reading novels here so u know. Unless you start thinking about how bad it is and omitting huge mental stress at the end of day it's ok, u can live with it :V
     
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    juniorjawz Well-Known Member

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    find a distraction

    just be like a cat that finds a ball of yarn and play with it
     
  15. sinyueliang

    sinyueliang 『World Traveller』『Demon Slayer』『Hinokami』

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    I went to college. Lmao. But for real, my depression during high school was pretty bad, but I got better once I got into college? I also started travelling a lot more, like overseas (went to China, England, Japan, Italy, etc.), but I know many people probably can't afford to travel to cool places all the time (that really helped though, and was fun going to Japan, seeing my grandma in China, the landmarks in England and Italy etc.). Um, aside from that, it was just having the time to like relax and stuff. Christmas always helped a lot since we'd go meet up with our family in New Jersey and have a bunch of nice presents and good family time.
     
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    Im fighting depression as well. This is what I am trying to abide by:
    - Stop drinking alchohol and soda
    - Stop eating junk food
    - Eat a big breakfast, an average lunch, and a small dinner
    - Have a regular sleep schedualof 8 hours
    - Get up early (7:00-8:00)
    - 1 hour before sleep stop using electronics - pc/laptop/tv/telephone
    - Exercise at least 1 hour a day
    - Go outside for at least 1 hour a day

    I've also started listening to Jordan Peterson. Although he has some stuff about theology, as a clinical psychologist, he give good advice for men to structure their lives.
     
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    chencking [Daolord Grammar Nazi]

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    Deal with the cause, sleep more, and cut stress. Or find some way to relive it. I find a sad movie whenever I become stressed, because crying helps. Talking about it also helps, imo
     
  18. Shirasaya

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    haven't had the answer, can't help you there. I'm learning to commit though. Nothing else.
     
  19. SulerbiaNox

    SulerbiaNox Well-Known Member

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    Well honestly therapy helps but its good to understand where these negative thoughts come from either from personal perspective or from other people in my case i had my mother say that im nothing and whenever i say something i learned from science or something she’ll mock me saying you think your a scientist so yea honestly having depression sucks and just writing it down really does help since in a way your venting
     
  20. LeeEzekiel

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    1. I'm a vain son of a bitch (owing to a childhood of being a shy fatty) and I like getting checked out by strangers, so exercise and taking care of myself helps a lot.

    2. Therapy and prozac. Life becomes amazing when every day your mood feels more or less 'normal', instead of constant, soul crushing anxiety. If you suspect that your hormones are a mess, seriously, book a session. I'd be happy to talk to anyone through PMs who need a little shove on the back.

    3. Gratitude. Read up on hedonic adaptation and learn how to turn that shit off. I do my best to be thankful every day for my wonderful spouse, cushy job, and ridiculous amounts of free time compared to most people. I'm aware that these three factors alone make me one of the luckiest people in the world. And heck, every now and then I still get stunned when I realize mundane stuff like "Man, I've got enough money to ride a taxi instead of a bus, or eat out at a restaurant without it ruining my budget. I can turn the AC on instead of sweltering in the summer heat. Life is fucking awesome." Sounds funny, but it's been a very pleasant change.

    All that said, the black dog of depression hasn't totally gone away, but I've made a lot of progress. The biggest risk is getting complacent, then sliding back into bad old habits once you're in a better place.
     
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