Discussion Help erasing NTR from mind

@Arcturus

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you sneaky little dick waffle. Well fine. Its not like my reputation was all that great to begin with anyway....

 

"NTR" to men is like rape fantasies are to women. People have this deep, hidden fear about the aspects of these situations, so "fantasizing them" becomes a defense mechanism to help them overcome this fear by having a measure of control over the situation, and desensitizing them to such a situation if it ever happens to them. It's like protecting yourself from a potential trauma.

 

But if rape fantasies to women are like NTR fantasies to men, does that mean many women fantasize about cuckolding men constantly and variously, as many men constantly fantasize about rape, serial rape and mass rape?

 

What's the difference between NTR and Netori anyways?

 

netorare is unwilling, netori is willing

(I can't stand netori. It's just boring netorare~)

 

So in netorare, the MC's lady is raped while in netori, she falls for another?

 

not always forced, but sometimes blackmail, mind control, etc. etc. And not always "falls for another" : I feel like the netori lovers are the ones who enjoy the idea of being actively cheated on <.<;; It always feels like the one who's being contested in netori very quickly decides to abandon original SO more than "falling" for new person. New person feels more like an excuse to step on old person. Ofc there's also weird swinging dynamic sometimes with entire group netori as opposed to a triplet of people.... but I feel that's a whole different story

 

Both cause pain though. I like. Thanks for helping me properly identify them

 

NTR is when you're the one being cucked while Netori is when you cuck someone else.

 

You are confusing Netori and Netorase. Netorase is willingly being cucked. NTR is unwilling while Netori is cucking someone else.

 

yea that's the more correct definition <.<;;

honestly I'm not really into the other variants : mostly stick to ntr within that family of fets.
Maybe the reason I perceived it as such is because of how annoyed I get when the protag has it so easy.

here, to make up for my mistakes, a website that explains in detail : http://www.japanesewithanime.com/2018/01/netorare-meaning.html

 

Somehow I don’t mind NTR. It’s because it’s not happening to me and never will. Plus, I don’t get attached to the characters(maybe if they’re cute). All I feel is maybe anger at the characters. But I somehow like the drama? And I somehow get excited too...............
I definitely do want to see it through the end.

I’m so confused, conflicted and I might be weird. I definitely don’t enjoy it per say, but I don’t hate it. Please, tell me I’m not the only one who feels this way.

Sorry man, I don’t have any advice to get rid of it. But after I read heavy stuff I try to look for cute things. Mostly cute characters to get my self attached to and fawn over them.