How insensitive can someone be? Would you be hurt?

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  1. cap.toon

    cap.toon Well-Known Member

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    Listening to a stranger vent, I thought if it happen to me it would also be hurtful as well.

    You see, he has something he is supposed to not have. I don’t know what it is. His mom one day went through his stuff, and found it; Took it out and left it in a spot anyone and everyone can see it. So pretty much the entire family knew he has it now.

    Three says later, his mom asked him right in front of his teen sister, while his brother’s door was wide opened. He was very upset, but he didn’t show it and brush it off. But he was very hurt by his mother’s behavior. It was a sensitive topic. How could his mother do this to him?

    He feels betray and he doesn’t know what to do with this feeling. Even his brother, who is the biggest bully in the family, knows how sensitive this topic is and doesn’t not mention or brought this up.

    He feels very uncomfortable when his little sister asked him question related to this. He doesn’t want to talk, but he has to as the older brother.

    Although, I don’t know share much with my mom; if something sensitive is exposed in such a manner even I would feel hurt. My mom is supposed to have my back, not lift my curtain and show people what I have to store away.

    What would you do?
     
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  2. dezzter

    dezzter The one who knows

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    Too vague, depends what is being hidden.
     
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  3. R0

    R0 Immortal Scholar

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    Did his mom find his anime collection? That explains why his mom didn't care while he received a lot of damage.
     
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  4. trannon1

    trannon1 Well-Known Member

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    Gay, doing drugs, porn, or all the above, which is it?
     
  5. Royal-Inquisitor

    Royal-Inquisitor Active Member

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    Multiple Choice
    1. Run away
    2. Confront it
    3. Cry
     
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  6. Femme Fatale

    Femme Fatale | Lady Schrodinger | Sublime Goddess Of Chance |

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    You are gonna have to give us a little more if you want advice...
     
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  7. Kuro_0ni

    Kuro_0ni Studyin' ~ Workin'~ Translatin'~

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    Shaming or humiliating a person in order to correct someones behavior is seen as moral to some families. I don't agree with it, because I have experienced that form of upbringing.

    This is a type of negative-reinforcement which damages people.
     
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  8. HamsterOverlord-sama

    HamsterOverlord-sama A bane unto its own existence

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    I would be petty and blabber on about some painful/embarrassing topic in return
     
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  9. Okoron

    Okoron [Code of conduct]

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    Must have found your dildo and furry suit.
     
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  10. Femme Fatale

    Femme Fatale | Lady Schrodinger | Sublime Goddess Of Chance |

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    If it's your porn stash and other paraphernalia....RIP. Most of us go through that ring of fire. >_>
     
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    Asdq RSS FEED SECT! I WANT YOU FOR THE RSS ARMY!

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    Dildo, obviouslly.
     
  12. Kirikaize

    Kirikaize Well-Known Member

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    that's s bad way of doing it, a sensitive topic should be handled sensitively. talk to them in private. I'm a crybaby so I'll definitely bawl my eyes out.
     
  13. Simon

    Simon [The Pure One's Chief Steward][Demon Beast]

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    What I would have done, is totally ignore it. If someone confronts me, just say it theirs.
     
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    Asdq RSS FEED SECT! I WANT YOU FOR THE RSS ARMY!

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    In first place, it's your fault to hide something in your parents house. "ah, but I need my dildo". Whats abount don't be a faggot? Even for faggots this thing is a must, when you go out and get your own place, you can have many dildos and put in everywhere but in your parents house, nope.
     
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    abewan 〘Nishikigoi Dungeon〙

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    Might as well kms instead die of shame.
     
  17. joyfan

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    Not too sure about the whole context but shaming is usually a prominent part of asian upbringing.

    In my own experience, I feel honesty and clear communication is always the best cure. Parents are human too and they usually are winging it and not all mighty as what we wished them to be. I would recommend that you request for an alone time with mom or if it’s such an embarrassing topic to talk with an opposite gender, talk to your dad.

    Calmly, practice it before hand, explain to them that it’s very embarrassing to you and rather hurtful to know that the whole family know you possess that item. Don’t corner him/her when talking as it will just lead to a defensive backlash.. but phrase your sentence to be more of an explanatory of your current situation and perhaps try to find a mutual agreement of what can be done better in the future.

    Hope that helps.
     
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    If I was a parent or a mom, I would be happy if I didn't find drugs in my son's room. Doesn't sound like a conservative type of mother either because if she was, she would not have publicly displayed it. More like authoritarian. Item must have been pretty sexual in nature. If it was gay paraphernalia, the father would probably go berserk first...
     
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  19. Femme Fatale

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    Maybe it was dirty underwear.....that would be pretty embarrassing. :confused:
     
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    AwwGasm Knows some things.

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    No context, no empathy.