Most guys own a dildo if they have female relationships. Not for yourself but help stimulate the female without the donger.
Frankly speaking, that's life. No matter what shit you are hiding, it's going to be out in the open. The messed up part would be if his mom didn't talk him through after all of it. If you're his friend, just tell him not to blow it out of proportion, his mom only exposed it to his siblings, the internet would've expose that to anyone he knows.
It's a one-sided point of view. How does the mother feel? It is too vague to comment or say something like he should tell her how he feels or something like that. It's ultimately a question with no good answer, so I say walk it off. Things in life will always be like that, getting past it and being okay with it is how you build character.
Probably depends on what exactly that thing is. If it's about their sexuality, best do it in private or with a professional. If it's about drugs or other possibly criminal things, first do it in private, but if they don't improve, then maybe like this. Though if he's really upset about it, he should pick a time he's alone in the house and find something she doesn't want seen by the family. Fair is fair, eye for an eye and all that. Unless he has other things he would like to keep hidden.
Depends on what it is...If it's a condom, the mom is a bitch, especially if he's 16+. If it's a heroin needle, then I think she didn't do enough...Stories like this are pointless without details lol
It's a bit weird to read this, because my mom was like that when I was a kid, but it was more common than one or two incidents. Even if I came to her to consult about something and repeated many times that I wanted it to be secret, she'd expose it in front of everyone (my family and extended family) soon enough. (Though, most of those secrets were probably never as big as your friend's secret?) She'd also randomly go through my stuff when I wasn't there (thus I learned the basics of misdirection. I use it to hide snacks that I want for myself in plain sight in the fridge). I tried a few times to keep a diary but she'd look for it and read it and ask about things in it in front of other people (thus I tried to make my own cipher. I never made one I was satisfied with, it was either too easy for other people to read, too hard to write, or too hard for me to read. Eventually I just learned a script instead. I can write in [cough, nothing to see here] ). Well anyway, how would I feel? Because it happened so much back then, besides the expected embarassment, I'd also feel a bit sad, disappointed and hopeless. I did feel a bit betrayed, but since I knew what she was like already, the feeling of: 'well, I should have known.' was much stronger. If something similar happened today, I'd probably feel something like that ^
What exactly displayed to everyone which made the situation tense? Everyone here can't relate and know the scale of situation, unless said 'object' is identified.
well, public shaming proved to be an effective way in disciplining people yet, as time passed, people started to realize that public shaming wouldn't always be the best way to discipline people. well, just think that one day your parent busted your porn stash and expose it in the living room, and plastering a sentence "Horny Teen Of The Month" beneath it. even without the caption, how you'll feel, with or without the caption plastered anywhere near it your younger sis would see it, your older brother would see it. even worse, you might bring a friend home on that day without realizing what'll await you at home. would you feel embarased? would you feel angry? now let's change the story your parents saw you littering. they took a pic, and hang it on the living room. your younger sis would see it, your older brother would see it. even worse, you might bring a friend home on that day without realizing what'll await you at home. would you feel embarased? would you feel angry? now lets compare it, between those two, which one of those two scenario felt the worse to you? there are sensitive matters that arent really wise to bring it to public. yes it's an effective way to make you not repeating the same mistake. but it'll develop a rebelious part of a kid and teenager, this is one the many reason kids and teenager won't trust their parents nowadays, most psychologist think that a close and personal approach is way more effective than the outdated public shaming but, in my opinion, there are some cases where public shaming would be more effective than a person to person approach. there's a tv show where they showcases people who jaywalks, litters, breaking any traffic rules (especially teenager) and got caught by the police. the number of people who broke the traffic rules decrease quite significantly, there's a research of it and you can find it. there's also a parent of my friend who got caught by the police for breaking through a traffic light, but denies her mistakes and even yells at the police and flaunting her authority (her husband works as a civil servant and held a high position) and got viraled for it. few days later she wrote an apology letter and publish it on her social media account. and holly shit, she never broke any traffic rules ever since (as far as i know).
What's to say one of his family members wouldn't do the same when he tries to explain it, anyway? It's likely a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation. That said....as others have said, there's just not enough context. Most likely, if it were me, I'd definitely retaliate in some way, shape, or form. I was never one to just take that sort of thing lying down, heh...especially from those that are supposed to be close to me.
Nahh, the world is as it is. Some people are never caught with nude photos. Even that won't stop people from making deep fakes. His mom onle exposes stuff to siblings that would still guard you within the family. Not all family do this though. In the end We just have to roll with the punches. Successful people are there because they put up with what the world throw at them. If you think this is unfair and messes up with your life, then it will. If you don't, then you can brush it off and move on.
I don't know. I guess it depends on what it is and how the family is. My mom would put a pile of condoms in the living room to make sure we got the message about safe sex. Totally normal for us didn't realize it was a problem until one of my older brother's friend came over and was embarrassed. We would also have the safe sex and being careful. She didn't want grandchildren all over the place. We were a very openish family. I got my brothers to stop stealing my snacks and looking through my stuff my putting sex toys in my drawers. It worked and I still make fun of their reaction. There faces My family believes if it's something you desperately don't want people to know about then either your with the wrong people or you shouldn't be doing it. Though still don't want to know about any of my relatives romantic life.