move out of the house, but before you do, write all the bad things that she did to you since childhood and how hurt you were by them and how insensitive she been all your life, then give to your mom in front the family on the day you leave the house.
Oh, I had some times in which my parents showed total and complete lack of respect to me like that... I raised a huge fuss and we got into some pretty big fights. I left their home in the 2nd time this kind of thing happened. There are limits to everything, when someone crosses yours, you need to confront them about it somehow... Either by having a calm-headed conversation about it as adults, or by picking up a fight. ... Sadly, it's really hard to have a proper conversation with someone that has authority over you, so having a fight is generally the way this kind of thing goes.
Um. There is a kind of irony about telling a story about how a person felt betrayed and hurt because their mothered exposed something about themselves they weren't ready/willing to share... exposing their personal story of hurt to a bunch of yakkos on the internet who are now joking about it being gay porn and dildos and stuff. OP, I don't even know what to say in response.
I see a lot of people experienced having their family violate their privacy and I gotta say that ain't good fam. Family or not parents or other family members shouldn't invade their children's or siblings privacy. Don't care if you think it was a form of discipline that shit only reinforces the thought that the parent or sibling can't be trusted.
He need to tell his mother that it was sensitive topic for him, and that he hoped she will talked about it in private next time. Mention how he wasn't sure how to answer his sister's question. You mentioned it was a sensitive topic, but what was too sensitive for you might be normal for someone else. Your friends gotta learn how to convey about stuff that bother him, cause not everyone understand or care. One of the best advice I ever get: do not take stuff and yourself too seriously. Laugh it off and move on.
He didn’t say, I’m guessing he’s gay. Maybe. He didn’t say. But I have speculation that it does have something to do with his sexuality and his sexual orientation. As the older brother, he’s the role model. If he deviate from the said normal, his mom could be very upset. Haha. Exactly what I told him. She saw it, the family knows—walk with no shame. I’m just using my observation skill to connect notes. I’m saying it’s the first one where public shaming wouldn’t be good. Just cause he’s publicaly shame in the family, doesn’t mean he could change his feeling. Well...his mom left it exposed in his shared bedroom with his brother. People go in and out of his bedroom because it has the second bathroom. If a guest came, that thing could be the start of something else. He grew up without a father, so everything is very hard on him. Haha I know right, people will be people. I guess I made it a mystery genre. Oh well. I don’t even know much detail myself.
well...moms tend to be insensitive tbh... they always feels like everything about their child / children are nothing to be hidden... therefore nothing to be hidden from the family either...after all, we are family (my ass) i am a secretive child, i don't like my mom know so much about me... i know she worried, i understand her...but i really dislike someone knowing my stuff without my permission i don't know why i'm like this...but i blame society...anyway... someone also told me that i was insensitive as in for feelings thingy, like i have no empathy and sympathy therefore tend to speak what i thought....if i know my words hurt, i tend to sugarcoat it...but most of the time, i didn't know...since if i feel what i said is common sense and/or something that WILL happen, i will tell it as it is (for example: like talking / discussing about death. we all WILL die, so whatever you afraid to talk about it for)