Yeah, I'm one of those socially awkward people who doesn't know how to take a hint. I might be engaged in a conversation thinking it's going great. When in reality the other person just wants to end it. Or vice-versa. I also don't know what to say to keep a conversation going. Or what not to mention. My parents or my grandparents have lectured me for saying the wrong things quite a few times. As such, how do I read the atmosphere or read in between the lines???
Not everyone is blessed with the ability to pick up on subtle social cues, so there's no need to beat yourself up over it. If the other side is really annoyed with your inability to take a hint, they always have the option of bludgeoning you with said hint and getting the message across.
It's not too much of a problem in most cases, but if the conversation is important then try to think of the things that might be inappropriate for it beforehand.
Ditto for what @skyfall3250 said. I also often pick up the hint immediately after ivebsaid the wrong thing under the wrong assumption
If they suddenly change behaviour, something is going on~ Looking away from you frequently is the most universal "LET ME OUTTTT!!!" sign...
I'm a lifelong sufferer of foot-in-mouth disease. It's why I do nearly all my socialising on the internet, where I can take a moment to reflect on my words before spouting something horribly crass and insensitive that will leave me cringing in agony over my own stupidity for the rest of the day (or week, if it was really bad). Nearly everyone I've chatted with in real time has commented on 'how slowly I type' - actually I have a fairly decent typing speed, it's the thinking/proofreading/editing that takes time! Obviously that's not something that will suit everyone, and doesn't help the general difficulty of struggling with what to say when you talk to someone face-to-face. Which, like any skill, is something that could be improved with practice. Normally I'd say find some low-stakes situations to practice getting more comfortable talking to people (because being nervous or overly self-aware will only make things worse than being relaxed) - casual social situations with people you don't know well and don't have to see often/ever again, where if you do end up boring/offending someone, it won't really matter. However, with a pandemic on, that's not very realistic. In the mean time, I'm sure there are loads of self-help books/blogs/etc that could give tips to help you feel more confident about it (sadly I have no specific recommendations since I took the path of least resistance and avoided the problem instead...).
start by paying attention to people's facial expressions. their gestures may be different from the situation they are describing
That would hurt badly. Ah.... Fellow sufferers Noted. Will be on the lookout for the hints and take proper steps Thanks a lot. I'll try my best. You should too. That's exactly what I suck at. Q.Q
Well, I don't know exactly why. Maybe because most of the time, I'm struggling to keep up with the conversation and coming up with a reply. I'm not able to give enough focus to the fine details. Also maybe coz' I'm actually not very familiar with the general gestures people might have. I'm able to understand if a person is absolutely unenthusiastic, but otherwise I often don't realize till it's too late. At the same time, how am I supposed to know if something that seems worth mentioning to me is an absolute no-no for the other person???
I think that you should stop worrying about it if you want to do it. If you have something to talk about with someone then do it, if you don't want to talk, don't do it. Something like this i think. Easy, right?
To keep a conversation going when both people ran out of things to say, you just need to find a new topic to talk about. It doesn't need to be anything too complex. Even talking about the weather works.
you can't learn without trying. you should meet more people and try to learn about personalities. If you have trouble concentrating, you don't have to have long conversations with anyone. make speeches we will pay attention to people even if it is short. and you should pay attention to the difference between what people do and what they say.
If you see that they are muttering smth then you know they are muttering "when the hell can i iet out of this" It might not be true though. I just mutter that when i get annoyed at people lecturing me
hm.... I don't engage in any type of serious conversation so I don't give that much thoughts behind my words... And if I do offend them by saying something I'll just apologize... If they get over it, it's good and if they don't well I'll get over it and quit talking with them
ah that is practical skill~ how to get one? practice, experience, talent ~ thats it~ seeking tips and trick is part of practice while apply it on real situation is accumulating experience which also depend on your talent to see how fast you learn~