Discussion I feel too shy...

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Bad Storm, Jun 23, 2021.

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Do you redden when embarrassed? ( blushing cheeks, back of the neck becomes red etc)

  1. Nope, or at least I don't think so

    60.5%
  2. Nope, it's not obvious anyway coz of skin color

    18.4%
  3. Yes, I go red as tomato

    15.8%
  4. Yes, people just don't notice...

    2.6%
  5. Yes, i redden but not much (people still notice tho)

    7.9%
  6. *noms skullie*

    21.1%
  7. others

    2.6%
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  1. Bad Storm

    Bad Storm no thought, head empty

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    I am the chatty type. But only on things I'm interested with. I don't have problems staying real quiet and just reading either. But i like chatting people up when I know them already. That's the hard part...I feel too shy to get to know others. Most of my friends are people who came to me first for some inexplicable reasons.

    I'm also shy when it comes to small things like co-op functions in games... I tried Honkai Impact 3rd recently. I've always wanted to try it but only now did my phone become capable enough to run it at least. So there I was, a newbie, checking up my starter missions... and there are some co-op tasks... I still haven't done them. I had this fear in my head that I'll just drag the team down coz I still know practically nothing about the game. I'm trying to build up my knowledge and damn there's too much info since the game has been out for years... It's funny coz I'm also too shy to chat in my armada (guild) about things like looking for a sensei (mentorship)... I know it's such a simple matter. I wouldn't even remember this kind of shyness after some time because it's not like the first time i got shy about something and when I pushed myself to just do stuff instead of being shy, I got it done without any fanfare.

    So any helpful tips for a shy-type like me? :blobupset:
     
  2. Ahodesuga

    Ahodesuga °˖✧Aho desu ga, Nani ka?✧˖° 《Liking Fiend》

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    Curl into a sad lil sht burrito and cry.
     
  3. Bad Storm

    Bad Storm no thought, head empty

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    Aho... you're not helping :blob_teary:
     
  4. Ahodesuga

    Ahodesuga °˖✧Aho desu ga, Nani ka?✧˖° 《Liking Fiend》

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    Sorry.... It's the facts....
     
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  5. Raven Evernight

    Raven Evernight But they never just accepted me for the way I was…

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    Everyone would make fun of me for blushing calling be girly and gay that I ended up hating myself for blushing I would hurt myself every time someone made a comment on it it became a big problem for me
     
  6. otaku31

    otaku31 Well-Known Member

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    I'm the same. I don't open up easily, especially to people I don't know, but once I do, they despair of finding ways to get me to shut my trap. But luckily, I rarely have to be the one to break the ice because strangers find me eminently approachable (something about my look and demeanour, I have been told, or maybe I just appear all pitiful by my lonesome) and strike up conversations with me.

    But I'm quite comfortable with silence, and if some topic doesn't catch my fancy, even my family cannot get me to participate.
     
  7. AliceShiki

    AliceShiki 『Ms. Tree』『Magical Girl of Love and Justice』

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    Mmmmmmm... I've never been this shy, so I can't really relate... I was shier when I was younger, but never to this level...

    Maybe try inviting some friends to play with you? You can then learn the game together~
     
  8. Bad Storm

    Bad Storm no thought, head empty

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    I used to have a classmate who really blush hard. He's a guy. When I say he blush hard, you'd definitely see it. His whole face is red, even down to his neck. He is often teased about it but when all has calm down, we just laugh it all off.
     
  9. Raven Evernight

    Raven Evernight But they never just accepted me for the way I was…

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    You don’t know what happens behind closed doors is all I’m saying quack quack
     
  10. Bad Storm

    Bad Storm no thought, head empty

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    I'm close to him though so he sometimes share his woes. But most of the time says it's not that bad. Maybe it's a difference in personality?
     
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    Elzio Well-Known Member

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    Ar you sweating on your forehead too when embarassed?
     
  12. Bad Storm

    Bad Storm no thought, head empty

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    Not really. My palms aren't sweaty either when i get nervous. My hand feels cold tho.
     
  13. Gandire Alea

    Gandire Alea [Wicked Awesome Translator]

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    All you need is a reason for the conversation to start. That can range from something as simple as an eccentric outfit to being on fire~
     
  14. Cutter Masterson

    Cutter Masterson Well-Known Super-Soldier

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    The best way to handle a fear. Is by facing it. Realize it’s far more horrifying in your mind. Than reality could ever be. In point of fact most of our hang ups. No one else usually notice at all.
    I’ve been a pretty shy person most of my life. What I found most valuable is to stop over thinking it and believe in yourself. Be bold and face your fears. Start talking to people more.
    A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.
    Here’s a video I like. That may help.


    I wish you luck and no matter what we’re always be on your side
     
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  15. SylviaViolet

    SylviaViolet Toast to the ones that we lost on the way⚓️

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    There's only one real answer. Go ahead and talk/ask. Not that it's something you don't already know. The only way is to do it multiple times and realize it isn't too bad.
     
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    Dun worry mate, u r likable person:blobangel:
    Tips for ya shyness~
    • Observe the crowd
    • You'll def find someone wid an energy like urs
    • Go up and hit it up wid them.
     
  17. The Hamster Overlord

    The Hamster Overlord Mad scientist/Revered wizard/Alleged antichrist

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    I wish I could give you good advice.
     
  18. idlereader

    idlereader 『Agentt's Aunt』『Don't touch the Flowersss!!!!』

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    Play the game when you're ecstatic/in a very good mood. I find myself doing things that I normally wouldn't do(i would suddenly be filled with courage) if I'm overjoyed.
     
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    Lissi 『Queen of Lissidom』『Holy Chibi』『Western Birdy』『⚓』

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    You can ask them if they are also interested in your favorite things first? Or ask them what their interests are?

    It becomes easier to talk after already getting in the flow of the convo imo.
     
  20. Mr. Tired

    Mr. Tired Professional Idiot

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    I can't take any compliment, big or small, from any person at any time. I will glow red like a radioactive tomato and just stutter something stupid and die inside.
    Even a simple 'hello' from a stranger gets me flustered. :blobmelt: Dammit.

    I'm 6'6 and got told off by a 6th grader, lord help me and give me strength.


    Try to pretend. That's all I can say, fake it 'till you make it, and act like you're brave and not shy.