I have a bad habit

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What should I do in these situations?

  1. Come clean

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  2. Keep up the charade

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  3. Leave the online community I created the persona in

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  4. GET OUTTA NUF YOU DIRTY LIAR

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  1. Aop

    Aop [Great Destroyer of Filth] [Dao of Cleanliness]

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    Sounds to me... why not try to put that into want/need into something less harmful? Like tabletop RPGs like D&D. Or LARPing. Hell, maybe even try to put that into Theater. I think if you place that into something where it can be control environment, you might be able to stop.

    Other then that... maybe visit a shrink? Find out the root cause of why you do this.
     
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  2. Femme Fatale

    Femme Fatale | Sublime Goddess Of Chance |

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    Who doesn't have problems....welcome to the group!!! You are taking a very brave step, I'm proud of you. So hard to find these days...so...are you going to stop doing that with this username?

    Also, I have another piece of advice if you are still feeling stink...and the next step would be to maybe speak privately to people you really think you need to personally apologize to...for whatever reason. :)

    Then maybe to those people say how this experience has effected you and how you are gonna fix it in the future....
     
  3. Lurking

    Lurking Do the dead suffer, or is it a sweet release?

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    I do tabletop rpg and larping too.

    Shrinks are rather expensive. I don't think I can manage that.
     
  4. sgrey

    sgrey Well-Known Member

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    keep that one and get a second one, that will occupy you more. idk, maybe start baking for the first one?
     
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  5. Lurking

    Lurking Do the dead suffer, or is it a sweet release?

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    No. I didn't mess with these people emotionally or do anything really worth apologising for...
    I think. I backed off as soon as there was a sign of emotional messing about.

    I was mainly giving them feedback for creative writing, and letting them feel good about their writing by having an enthusiastically happy reader. Thats the usual pattern. NUF was actually a deviation from the pattern lol. Also might break the pattern.
     
  6. Lurking

    Lurking Do the dead suffer, or is it a sweet release?

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    ......uh.

    I was talking about my little sister, fyi.
     
  7. sgrey

    sgrey Well-Known Member

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    your little sister doesn't eat baked stuff?
     
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  8. Lurking

    Lurking Do the dead suffer, or is it a sweet release?

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    Depends. She dont like baked squash for sure.
     
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    sgrey Well-Known Member

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    Well, you can be an awesome onee-sama and learn how to bake some cool things that she will like?
     
  10. Lurking

    Lurking Do the dead suffer, or is it a sweet release?

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    Er. That leaves the problem of her taking glee at being constantly mistaken for my older sister.

    Also, she doesn't like manga/anime/you get the drift.
     
  11. sgrey

    sgrey Well-Known Member

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    Er.. how is her not liking manga related to baking? I am just talking to you now. I didn't say that you should get her to call you onee-sama. And it's just an example anyway. You can start doing origami if baking is something out of the question... there is plenty to do if you start looking, so getting a hobby is not that difficult.
     
  12. Lurking

    Lurking Do the dead suffer, or is it a sweet release?

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    Oh sorry. I focused on the wrong part of your suggestion.

    My brother is in charge of the baking tbh. I am... not good at baking pastries, but passable with other foods due to necessity.
     
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    Sometimes, it feels so good to shake things up a bit, but whatever you get out of that experience is short lived compared to having on going associations/friendships.... I mean, when you develop friendships towards these people that severs the relationship you fostered..that is what I think anyways.

    But I lived through lots of shit before I become my fabulous take no prisoners person. ;) That makes up for the shitty and stressful days I have. NUF is my happy place. >_> Away from the riajuu part of my life.
     
  14. sgrey

    sgrey Well-Known Member

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    Well, all of this is just an acquired skill. Given motivation and determination, you can get as good as you want. Knitting is also a good thing to try. You can knit her a scarf or something :blob_grin:
     
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    or a friendship bracelet!
     
  16. Lurking

    Lurking Do the dead suffer, or is it a sweet release?

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    She rejected my friendship bracelet... now I have 2 on the wall... maybe I will see if cousin would like it... but then that might lead to another, "you like cousin better" issue...

    Also. I have one persona ongoing from... 2014.

    ....is that bad?
     
  17. sgrey

    sgrey Well-Known Member

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    that's right. There is also macrame
     
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    Hmm.... if you are coming clean....and you mean it....then that is a decision you will have to make. I mean, are you harming someone?
     
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    sounds like you need sister bracelet instead?
     
  20. Lurking

    Lurking Do the dead suffer, or is it a sweet release?

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    No. I hate harming people when they arent assholes who had it coming anyway, as in immenently.

    I dont hurt anyone. Not intentionally.... not since I was a preteen I didn't intentional harm anyone. ...I was still kind of an asshole but I like to think I am less of one now.