I'm still at loss on how to resolve this and hope you could chime to give some family/relationship advice. Right now, my brother and his family moved out of the family home. This was days after I complained about my nephews' shouting and jumping in the middle of the night. I was tired, stressed and eager to sleep but since my nephew caused a ruckus, I was ill-tempered and stressed. I complained to the SIL and I said some rude words. The ruckus is a almost a regular occurrence. Come morning, I apologized to my SIL because I was in the bad mood and it wasn't exactly her fault. Other family members were also bothered by the noise but kept their mouth shut because of its a kid. I know its a kid, but I'm a working adult (got a promotion so I'm super busy). Later that evening, my SIL announced to everyone but me that they are moving house and renting from her cousin. It's not like I'm changing their decision so I said okay. Now, I don't really know what's changed because they still drop the kid and the dog to our place to be taken care of. They invited my aunt's family over to the housewarming and in a way, I'm expected to be there. I don't want to go because: 1. I don't really feel they are extending an invitation to me. To be honest, I feel like their maid sometimes. 2. The place they rented into is small and it will be full of my SIL's relatives. I don't feel I'm gonna be wanted there. 3. I'm tired of people being fake to me and me tolerating other people. I have to endure it during work. I'm frankly exhausted and I don't feel I have to put all this effort for a family who needs me rather than wants me IMO. The people I asked were divided. Some say to go because they are family and it might give the wrong impression. Others told me not to go and just give any excuse. I'm just drained form this and the work I have to do. Probably useful info: - I'm an introvert; bordering on being a hermit - I'm not close to my SIL, we're different personalities - your typical Asian household dynamics - My bro's tells my Mom, that this is only a temp arrangement but I am willing to guess that my SIL has other ideas (from my cousin who she is closer to). For anyone who likes to give their piece of advice, I'm thankful in advance.